Octuplet Grandmother....WOW!

[hentob]

I feel so sorry for this woman. I hope people don’t accuse her of being a horrible grandmother, just because she is sick and tired of picking up after her daughter’s selfish decisions.

I believe the grandmother has hit the nail on the head. If I were her, I would stop caring for these children 24/7 and allow The State to come in and decide what will happen. There are many loving homes out there that could provide. Their mother (Nadya) has no clue what it takes to be a good mother. She doesn't even know how she is going to feed them (per Anne Curry's interview this morning), other than "God will privide"


http://www.ksl.com/?nid=157&sid=5437192



Octuplets' Grandmother Criticizes Daughter
February 8th, 2009 @ 11:14pm

LOS ANGELES (AP) - The mother of the woman who used a fertility doctor to give birth to octuplets, despite already having six young children, called her daughter's actions "unconscionable" in an interview posted online Sunday.

Angela Suleman is caring for the six older children while her daughter is hospitalized after giving birth Jan. 26 to the octuplets.

"She already has six beautiful children, why would she do this?" Angela Suleman said in the videotaped interview with celebrity news Web site RadarOnline.com. "I'm struggling to look after her six. We had to put in bunk beds, feed them in shifts and there's children's clothing piled all over the house."

The Web site posted photographs from inside Angela Suleman's disheveled three-bedroom home, where Nadya and her brood also live. Heaps of clothing pour from an open closet door and a carpeted bedroom, where a bedsheet serves as a curtain, is cluttered with cribs.

Nadya Suleman's publicist Mike Furtney said that his client has been away for nearly two months, so shouldn't be held responsible for the home's current condition.

Furtney said his client planned to move into a larger home once the octuplets were healthy enough to leave doctors' care.

He declined to comment on any of the remarks Angela Suleman made about her daughter in the interview.

"Those are very personal issues between a mother and a daughter," he said.

Angela Suleman said Nadya's boyfriend was the biological father of all 14 children, but that she refused to marry him.

"He was in love with her and wanted to marry her," she said. "But Nadya wanted to have children on her own."

Nadya Suleman, a divorced single mother, told NBC's "Today" show that the same fertility specialist provided in-vitro fertilization for all 14 of her children.

Angela Suleman seemed to contradict that account, saying the fertility specialist who helped her daughter give birth to the octuplets was a different doctor from the one who aided in the birth of her first six children.

Angela Suleman said she and her husband pleaded with Nadya's first fertility doctor not to treat their daughter again, so Nadya found another doctor to work with.

"I'm really angry about that," Angela Suleman said of the doctor's decision to perform the procedure.

A Medical Board of California spokeswoman said Friday that it was investigating the doctor _ who has not been identified _ to see if there was a "violation of the standard of care." The spokeswoman did not elaborate on the nature of the potential violations.

Angela Suleman also challenged her daughter's remarks in the NBC interview that she always wanted a large family to make up for the loneliness she felt as an only child.

"We raised her in a loving family and her father always spoiled her," Angela said.

 

[MushyMushy]

Nadya Suleman's publicist Mike Furtney said that his client has been away for nearly two months, so shouldn't be held responsible for the home's current condition.

Okay, now that kind of makes me mad. This grandmother, who only ever had experience raising one child, is probably doing her damnedest to take care of these 6 grandchildren at her age (what? 50s-60s?) and this "publicist" is going to throw her under the bus for the condition of the house???

This poor woman is probably stuck between a rock and a hard place with these children. I think she'll suffer if she does everything she can to keep the family together, and she'll also suffer if she doesn't.

 

[hentob]

I think she'll suffer if she does everything she can to keep the family together, and she'll also suffer if she doesn't.

Well said

 

[Laura]

I feel sorry for the grandmother, too. It has to be tough to deal with, but I can understand why she feels the need to step back. I'm sure she loves her grandkids, but they're not her responsibility. My father and my in-laws are happy to do the occasional babysitting, but never would I expect them to support us, especially if we had chosen to have such a large number of children.

 

[suzanna1066@comcast.]

Unbelievable. I feel so sorry for the grandmother and the 14 kids who are going to suffer because their mother is a irresponsible nutcase.

 

[floridafam]

There is a new video of the mother visiting the children and her nails are perfectly manicured and long. Anyone who has had children should know that long nails and babies don't mix. I know it seems silly but it's one of the first things I noticed in the video.

 

[4nana]

I can't imagine, this story is beyond sad on so many levels.

 

[eliza61]

It is a horrible day when any mother comes to the conclusion that your offspring is on a collison course with disaster and there is nothing you can do to prevent it.

As much as we love our children eventually they will either sink or swim on their own. It is unfortunate that there are now 14 young lives being destroyed because of this.

 

[hentob]

She has a child that is autistic. There is somebody who comes in to give her (Nayda) respite care a few times a week. At what point did she think even ONE more child would be a good choice?

 

[KirstenB]

Grrr!!! Of course the house is cluttered. You have 6 kids plus at least one adult in a 3 br house. Buying enough furniture to stuff all those clothes into is probably the least of the grandmother's concerns. This poor woman. And to have your daughter say her own childhood was somehow lacking while YOU'RE caring for her children speaks volumes!!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

OK...so the boyfriend gives his sperm to her to make more kids? That is bananas as well.

If the grandmother would have booted her can out earlier would that have been the right thing to do?

They are all nuts.

 

[shmoogrrrl]

There is a new video of the mother visiting the children and her nails are perfectly manicured and long. Anyone who has had children should know that long nails and babies don't mix. I know it seems silly but it's one of the first things I noticed in the video.

Wait a sec....I have long nails and have had them since before I had my first child. I haven't seen the video so I can't say HOW long you mean, but I can assure you that having long nails is NOT what makes this woman a nut case. I have never injured my children with my nails nor have they ever gotten in the way of my care for them. Actually, in some cases they can be handy! My pinky nail is great for getting the little boogers that are in my little guys nose. Yeah, that is gross and there is a lot of scrubbing with a nail brush afterward, but still.

My question would be with 14 kids, HOW can she pay to get her nails done? YIKES! I've been getting mine done since I was 20 years old and if I was in a seriously bad financial situation, that would be one of the first things to go!

As far as the Grandma goes, that is just sad. She is stuck between a rock and a hard place. My parents have custody and are raising my Brother's child. They got her when she was 10 months old, and she is 14 with a teenage adiitude now. I told my Mom on the phone yesterday that it could have been worse. There could have been eight of her!

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

I say, Kudos to the grandmother for shining the light on what's really going on here. The poor woman, she probably did the best she could raising her own daughter, no doubt she wants the best for her grandchildren--and this is her reward. I find her candor to be refreshing in this whole mess. She seems very rational and sensible.

And P.S. Sometimes my house looks like a cyclone hit it, and I only have 4 kids!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

They just said on the TODAY show that the grandmother BEGGED the doctor not to implant her dd.

Ten lashes for the doctor that did this.

This may spark a law instead of guidelines for doctors. Might give them some legal ground of refusal.

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

I think the Grandma is doing the right thing. I wish she'd done it sooner. It seems this mother has a lot of entitlement issues going on. She wants, wants, wants and doesn't think of the consequences. The only part of the interview with Anne Curry I saw was when she said she would "love her children. Be with her children." Does she not realize that is what many mom's do and want, but single mom's have to have a job to support those children and spend many hours away from home to provide the necessities. I just couldn't believe what a snarky, ignorant comment she made.

 

[LivelyLissa]

Long and artificial nails harbor infections. Neonates have very compromised immune systems. You should never have long nails near a premee. The scientific evidence is pretty clear on that one.

 

[JohnsonsLoveDisney]

There is a new video of the mother visiting the children and her nails are perfectly manicured and long. Anyone who has had children should know that long nails and babies don't mix. I know it seems silly but it's one of the first things I noticed in the video.

I noticed that too.

I know that if i had 14 children and was living in a 3 bedroom house and my parents were helping me raise them that I wouldnt have them.

I cant even find the time with 3 to go get them done on any sort of regular basis.

 

[freckles and boo]

OK...so the boyfriend gives his sperm to her to make more kids? That is bananas as well.

If the grandmother would have booted her can out earlier would that have been the right thing to do?

They are all nuts.

He may have made ONE donation several years ago that resulted in the conception of all the embryos. I read something where she said this final implantation was of frozen embryos from previous IVFs. I don't know if that is true or not, but the boyfriend may not have thought he was making more than one baby.

 

[hentob]

Here is the grandmother and some pics of the house:

http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/

 

[shmoogrrrl]

Long and artificial nails harbor infections. Neonates have very compromised immune systems. You should never have long nails near a premee. The scientific evidence is pretty clear on that one.

Interesting. My nails are long, but they are not artificial. I've NEVER had a problem with my nails and infections. My daughter was also a preemie and no one ever said a word to me about them being a no-no. I used to get compliments from the NICU nurses about them.

Sorry, totally off topic from the OP.