Hello Marnie!
There are probably people on this board who can answer your questions better than I can because I'm a relative newbie myself, but I'll give it a go!
I've heard that it's less stressful if you can get yourself to Florida the day before the cruise and I think I agree with that - this year we spent a couple of days at WDW before our cruise and I can tell you that I would not have wanted to be up by 4AM to catch an 8AM flight to Orlando and then have the 60+ mile drive to the port so that we could check-in and try to be on board ship by noon. You obviously don't have to be there that early, but there is a lot happening that first day and it can get hectic - we were tired and we didn't leave our resort until 10AM that morning.
Personal preference - I would rather do WDW before the cruise rather than after. Wear yourself out at the parks and then you can relax on board the Magic. I guess you could wear yourself out on the ship, too, if you really wanted, but we really enjoyed doing WDW first and then kicking back on the cruise - best vacation ever!!!
Dinner seating - I've only been on one
Disney cruise and my DH and I had late seating. We really liked it because we could take our time and not worry about holding up the cleaning / service for the seating behind us. There were a couple of nights when our table was the last one out of the dining room! This isn't to say that you would be rushed in the earlier seating - I'm sure you wouldn't be. Again, I think it's your personal preference. The earlier seating will allow you more time for after dinner activities and you won't be stuffed for those late night buffets. The late seating gives you more time to enjoy the earlier evenng activities but we found that once we were finished with dinner by 10:30 we really didn't want to do very much. Having said that - we're still doing the late seating on this cruise, too!
Have you picked up a copy of
The Passporter ? I ordered one over the summer and found that between these boards and that Disney cruiseline guide that many of my questions were answered. It's a great resource and includes a lot of info about hotels in and around Port Canaveral - I think they may be coming out with a new edition soon, but if you get a chance order it from
Amazon - i think it was $15. I still go back and read through mine when I need a cruise fix.
Hope this helps a little!
Brenda