Not so "Wonder"ful Wedding!

[Joe & Joanne]

Hi Folks

Ya'll just don't know how mad I am We just got word that my God child (niece) will be getting married on May 17, 2003. How nice! The problem is we (J&J) have been asked to be in the wedding eek: and we were to go on the 17 May 2003 Eastern Cruise!

Now the dilema....do I ask her to change the date to a week earlier and pay for their Honeymoon (on the Wonder) and keep my cruise date intact, tell her we won't be there we have made other plans or what? If we cancel and rebook any other suggestions for another Eastern Date?

Thought is right now to change the date to a few weeks before, however I am not too sure of what stuff we have to do before wedding? She is not too sure either, but she has the church, reception location reserved, and the hotel for her block of rooms pretty much selected. What stuff goes on with pre-wedding planning anyway?

Looking for some good, painless suggestions!

 

[mmouse37]

I feel your pain!!! That is a tough call, but she is your God child, so you really should be there. As much as I love cruising Disney, if it were me I would change my cruise date for her. Anyway you could change it after the wedding so you would not have to worry about cruising before the wedding? Or, plan to go much earlier in the year and take advantage of the lower pricing in DCL sometimes offers in January, early Feb.

It is so frustrating to have a vacation set, then have to feel guilty about wanting to enjoy it!!!! Wish I could give you more helpful hints but all I could come up with. I am sure other Dis'er will have some ideas as well.

Good luck

MJ

 

[tigger24]

Hey Joe,
You could always reschedule to the 9/20/03 cruise and come with Jon and I Stinky that it is working out this way. I don't know about her pre-wedding stuff, but we didn't have too much. Really the family in the wedding only had to be there the night before for the rehearsal dinner.
Hope it all works out. It would be great to see you guys again in September!!!
Bernadette

 

[doulasue]

I would totally offer to pay for her honeymoon, and ask her to change the date. It would probably not be that difficult to change, and if it is, then just reschedule your cruise. I have a feeling that they may actually love this idea, a free honeymoon on the Wonder sure would be enough for me to change my plans!!!!!
Good Luck, Sue

 

[mrsltg]

As a fairly recent bride, I'd have to go with rescheduling your vacation. A wedding date is sentimental, a vacation date isn't as much. Push your cruise back a week if you can. It's so far off that you shouldn't really have a problem rescheduling.

Erin

 

[Fawn]

Asking her to change her date probably isn't an option. It can be VERY difficult to get a reception hall, and if she already has one booked she probably has money on it. Chances of that same place being available the week before is slim!

Change your cruise back one week, and enjoy relaxing after the wedding! Hope it is a wonderful day!

 

[4nana]

Such is life.... but at least you do have a years notice
I personally could not ask anyone to change their wedding date for my conveniece. As a Godmother you promise to take on certain responsibilities and it is only naturally she wants you to be there to help celebrate her special day. If you go on the cruise you may feel gulity for not being there to support her. IMO (which isn't worth 2cents... ROTFL) sad as it may be, but it's one of those things in life that I would have to go with the flow, suck it up and reschedule my vacation.

I remember a few yrs. back, DH's family decided to have a family reunion out of state...on none other day than Father's Day. I was fuming! My Dad is elderly, my heart is with him and it meant I would not be. I tossed and turned and drove my kids crazy w/my dilemma. Then I decided...Hey...this is a 'once in a lifetime' reunion that means alot to DH of 37 yrs. I explained facts to my Dad, moved our Father's Day celebration and it worked out perfect. Good luck in your decision ^i^

 

[Scott H]

Joe,

Remember wedding plans do change and even get called off. We were being kinda pushed in to attending a cousin of Lynn's wedding at the National Cathedral. It would have been neat, but one month prior the whole thing was called off. It happens.

Next choice is to talk them into getting married on the cruise. It is that all inclusive wedding deal, no worry about the hall, the catering, band etc.

 

[Joe & Joanne]

Hi Folks

From what I can find out from her dad is the Reception location is where she had her Confirmation, 8th and HS grad and College Grad receptions and with all the Grads supposedly early next year and then weddings and stuff in June this was the only date available for HER day! Stranger yet is this is where she met her husband to be...go figure. Have to do some talking and call in the angels for this one!

Scott: Kind of like the idea of wedding on board, dad would love it since he would get off a whole lot cheaper!

 

[Steve H.]

This really should be a no-brainer. It's your god-child, it's nearly a year away -- change the date of the cruise.

 

[tchrmom]

As special as a Disney cruise is.....to a bride, nothing is more special than her wedding day. Try and book for the following weekend. After all the pre-wedding rushing around, (hair, nails, fittings) it will something to look forward too.

 

[vickyBaby]

I remember my wedding day being one of the biggest days of my life. You might cause some friction with family members by suggesting the wedding date be changed.

Since it is your Goddaughter's big day, it might be advisable to postpone your cruise to a different date. You will still have a wonderful time, no matter what date you choose to go.

 

[prymsu]

I would change your cruise date. It will be much more difficult to change all the other wedding arrangements and it is tough to book a reception hall in the height of wedding season. Or if she opts for the paid honeymoon, then go for that. good luck!

 

[SQUIGGLE]

Say it ain't so!!! I was going to ask how close your family is (to maybe ask niece to change date). But if the church and hall are reserved along with the hotel. It may be impossible to do at this point.

Well, here's hoping for a change in the wedding plans.

fran

 

[doulasue]

So, I guess no one is in agreement with me that the bride just might be willing to change the date for a FREE HONEYMOON on the Wonder??? I am all for sentimental reasons, but I would at least maybe offer it to her and her hubby to be. It actually sounds like fun. I know dates are hard to change, and as I said in my earlier post, if it is not well recv'd or too difficult, then gladly change to cruise date, but at least run the offer by them. My wedding date was very special to me, but, the honeymoon was even more special. If they could not afford to do anything like this on their own, they may be very, very willing to change plans. -Sue

 

[Me-Chel]

You could always change to the May 3, 2003 Eastern Cruise...that's when myself and 4 other friends are going! Can't wait! Good luck in making your decision!

Michele

 

[MFan]

I agree with doulasue. Why is everyone wanting to decide for the bride and groom???! I think Joe & Joanne should present the alternatives to them and let them choose. It's many years ago, but I know my DW and I would have gladly changed our wedding plans (especially one so far off) to get a truly Wonder(ful) honeymoon!!

 

[tchrmom]

In a joking way, mention that this is when your cruise is, and mention....jokingly, that you'd pay for their honeymoon if they would switch, and watch for their reaction. If they seem interested........open the floor to discussion!

 

[Iluv2trvl]

Hi Joe and Joanne,

We met you guys with MJASP on Western Cruise 5/11 at the Raddison. Well join our club. Mark and I, also, rebooked for 5/17/03 and have a close cousin's wedding now. My Aunt did not appreciate me asking her why her daughter couldn't pick another date. I keep being told by a good disney cruise friend to hold off and don't cancel things could always change. I don't know what to do. I am torn between rebooking for the following year 5/04, but don't want to wait that long and have also checked into 2/03 dates! I am waiting for a miracle. What's that saying, "If you wish upon a star"! So I know exactly how you guys are feeling. Let us know if you find good dates! Your not alone!

 

[disneychic]

Let me just say that, when I was planning my wedding, and had the date, the church, and the reception booked, NOTHING would have made me change it. Remember, this is the most important day of her life! Your vacation is NOt on the same importance level as her wedding! forget it. Re-book your vacation. It's still far enough away.