None of them are fat!

[KramBerries]

In my experience, a great many of the skinny middle aged people are the ones who's marriages have fallen apart and they are desperately trying to look good enough to attract new partners. Most of the happily married ones are a bit more, um, comfortable.

 

[MichelleVW]

Starvation and Botox

uh no...good genes and occasionally working out

From my experience...

1. older pictures

2. they've had "work" done

3. they have worked their butts off for their figure

4. older pictures

.

Not always...some people are just lucky..

In my experience, a great many of the skinny middle aged people are the ones who's marriages have fallen apart and they are desperately trying to look good enough to attract new partners. Most of the happily married ones are a bit more, um, comfortable.

Happily married but extra weight is not "comfortable" to me.

I'm going to my 25 reunion this fall and most people that know me don't think I look my age, but I'm not sure how a 42 year old is supposed to look?

I had a blast at my 20 year reunion and I was just happy to see everyone.

 

[torinsmom]

I am VERY selective when posting facebook pics. I have been known to squish them a bit! I have one school friend who looked awesome in her pics but close-up and in person she was looking pretty haggard! Don't worry. Someone will always be fatter, grayer, or more wrinkled. (That's what i tell myself whenever i go to the beach).

My sister and I have a running joke that if we feel fat, we just go to the beach, or the waterpark. It can really make you feel better about your body, LOL

 

[MagicalMom]

My 20 yr is this summer too! I've noticed the same thing but have to admit I work out regularly. I think the ones who don't feel confident about their looks are the same ones who don't have A facebook page. The guys I hardly recognize but the girls all look fabulous!

 

[redlight]

My 10th HS reunion is next year (eek). Most of my friends starting gaining right after graduating (so did I). I didn't go to my 5th reunion, but that was when I near my lowest post-high school weight.

 

[HugsForEeyore]

At my 20th reunion last year, basically all the women were normal weight or downright thin - I was probably the largest size there at a size 12. And well, (except for me) my female former classmates all looked terrific, were wealthy, and had comfortable sucessful lives. I went to an affulent high school so it was expected most would be very financially secure, so no surprise there.

It was also painfully obvious that any woman who gained probably more than like 30 pounds since high school would never show up to the reunion. Our high school was all about money, appearances, class and status. Showing up fat is the equivilent of "second class status". Better to never show up than go through that.

 

[luvmyfam444]

yep - my school is similar to some of yours - pretty small - think we graduated like 200 - a fairly wealthy beach community. Hopefully the sun will take its toll on a bunch of them!

I'll probably go - didn't go to the 10 yr

 

[HeatherH]

In my experience, a great many of the skinny middle aged people are the ones who's marriages have fallen apart and they are desperately trying to look good enough to attract new partners. Most of the happily married ones are a bit more, um, comfortable.

Holy generalization, Batman!

Happily married here, for nearly 20 years...and I work hard to stay thin for ME. My husband does the same. Not looking for a new partner. Marriage does NOT equal getting fat. I know there is a "complacency" factor in marriage if partners let that happen...but it does NOT have to happen.

As for reunions...in my experience the women have generally ALL looked younger and thinner than the men, at both the 10- and 20-year. My class didn't do the 30-year, so no idea if things changed at that point.

 

[cjb71870]

From the stories I hear, the weight is the last thing I hear about....cheating...

 

[-Hope-]

So, if they are fat then you somehow 'win'? Sad.

 

[lillygator]

In my experience, a great many of the skinny middle aged people are the ones who's marriages have fallen apart and they are desperately trying to look good enough to attract new partners. Most of the happily married ones are a bit more, um, comfortable.

that it just ridiculous.

 

[Lady V]

Good for them! I have one friend who I swear just gets prettier and prettier....she is an inspiration.

 

[LunchladyDoris]

In my experience, a great many of the skinny middle aged people are the ones who's marriages have fallen apart and they are desperately trying to look good enough to attract new partners. Most of the happily married ones are a bit more, um, comfortable.

That is the biggest load of crap I have ever read on the DIS and believe me there has been a lot of instances. First off, a person's body weight does not measure into their marriage, perhaps these women have kept in good shape because they like feeling healthy or they just didn't gain weight. That does happen. Perhaps these women know each other and they all work out together. I don't see how this enters that they must have an unhappy marriage. I know this may be your "experience" however for those you know who have had failing marriages while being skinny, there are others who have great marriages and a healthy body.
I would LOVE to see what the reaction would have been if you had said that in your experience the ones who are fat middle age people have marriages falling apart. It seems that you are ripping those who are slender to make yourself feel better or is there a green-eyed monster lurking?

 

[wvjules]

I stopped caring about what my class mates thought of me the day I graduated. I'm not a teenager that needs validated by my peers anymore.

 

[disneyjunkie]

In my experience, a great many of the skinny middle aged people are the ones who's marriages have fallen apart and they are desperately trying to look good enough to attract new partners. Most of the happily married ones are a bit more, um, comfortable.

WTH???

I stopped caring about what my class mates thought of me the day I graduated. I'm not a teenager that needs validated by my peers anymore.

 

[KramBerries]

In my experience, a great many of the skinny middle aged people are the ones who's marriages have fallen apart and they are desperately trying to look good enough to attract new partners. Most of the happily married ones are a bit more, um, comfortable.

OK, OK.....I was trying to make the OP feel better by pointing out that some peole that look like they are leading great lives are really masking other problems. I guess it was a really, really lousy way to do that. I apologize and accept my beatings.

 

[paintnolish]

Isn't it true, though, that married people do tend to gain weight? C'mon...give me something to explain my weight gain, other than chocolate and decreased gym visits!

 

[FireDancer]

Isn't it true, though, that married people do tend to gain weight? C'mon...give me something to explain my weight gain, other than chocolate and decreased gym visits!

People with a calorie surplus gain wait. If calories in > calories out you will gain weight. That ratio can be changed via diet, exorcise, or both. Marital status is an excuse and not a cause.

 

[paintnolish]

Yes, I know that is how you actually gain weight, FireDancer. I was joking...partially. There are studies correlating weight gain and marriage. Marriage doesn't actually cause you to gain weight, but it might make it more likely for someone to engage in behaviors that cause weight gain. This was the first article I found on Yahoo:
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-10-22-marriage-weight_N.htm

 

[Amy&Dan]

Some of them might be using a little facebook voodoo. That is what we call it when people use strange camera angels to make themselves look thinner or taller. They might also have 5 year old pics up there or they might have found the magic of Photoshop, the poor man's airbrushing.

That's what I was going to say! I have a person on facebook (I shall keep her nameless). If I didn't know better, by looking at her picture, I'd say "oh man, she looks the same she did 20 years ago"! But alas, I do know her better and I know that the pic she has on fb is either airbrushed or really old.

Rest easy, most of those people from high school didn't escape life's little imprint as much as their fb pics indicate!

I don't totally gree with the skinny=divorce thing but I do have to say, marriage sort of inspires you to not be as careful as you once were with your weight! I also do think genes play a part. I notice a lot of my friends who are still thin, well their mom's were thin too. Me, I take after my mom and may she rest in peace, she was never a thin grown up!

I don't care anymore what people think from my yesteryear days. If they have grown up and were and are friends, they'll concentrate on catching up with my life not keeping tally on how mcuh weight I have gained.