All of this! I lived in NJ for about 20 years, until 3ish years ago. We knew about RealID; it wasn't ignorance. It wasn't being technophobes. It wasn't being lazy. It was no access. The last time I renewed in NJ, RealID was NOT an option. The state kept pushing it back.
When I moved 3.5 years ago, I did make a choice to not get RealID immediately. I knew that I was going to be moving three times within the year with no set address for the final (long-term) place. Because I have a valid passport, there was no reason to spend extra money for RealID at the time. The entire time RealID has been talked about (20 years or much less depending on your state), we have been told that you'll need RealID OR a passport to fly domestically. I'm sure there are plenty of people with passports who decided not to shell out the extra money for RealID before needing to renew.
I now live in a state where BMV access is much easier than it was in Jersey, but I'm still waiting months for an appointment. And from the five states I've lived in, the NJMVC was the worst motor vehicles organization. I couldn't even tell you how many hours I spent in line outside the Springfield MVC over 20 years.