No princess dress for me.

[peekinglemer]

First, let me start by saying that I love love love my son like crazy and would not trade him for all the Barbie dolls and Princess dresses in the world. In fact, when I first found out I was pregnant I was hoping for a son. But...

...as much joy as he brings into my life I sometimes feel a little sad that I will never get to take my child to BBB, pick out frilly outfits for the holidays, or have a chance to relive my own childhood with barbies and doll houses.

My husband on the other hand is LOVING this Christmas. He now has an excuse to buy every cool action figure, race car and Star Wars video game he ever coveted as a child but never got.

Our ds will our be our only child and he is my greatest blessing. But I was just wondering if any of you other moms of "boys only" can't help but feel a little sad when you see a beautiful Princess dress and a pair of glass slippers.

 

[smidgen21]

Earlier this year I cried in the Oshkosh store when I saw the Easter dresses. I know where you are coming from. I love my boys, but a little part of my heart longs for a girl to do all the stuff you mentioned. I actually cried in the car after my ultrasound with DS#2....I was so sure it was a girl. I'm just glad I didn't cry in front of the US tech.

**please no flames...I love my boys***

 

[Deb & Bill]

...Our ds will our be our only child and he is my greatest blessing. But I was just wondering if any of you other moms of "boys only" can't help but feel a little sad when you see a beautiful Princess dress and a pair of glass slippers.

Yep, same situation. And my 16 yr old is the light of my life. He is a wonderful son, smart, doing well in school and looking at colleges now. We wound up buying the princess stuff for our nieces and the little girl next door.

 

[dogodisney]

As a mother of all girls....... along with all the cuteness and princessey stuff comes a whole lot of worries and other concerns since they don't stay that way forever.

 

[mom2meiko]

i actually have one of each but i have to say my sis has 2 boys and i thought my having a girl would be either really hard on her (as in she would be so jealous) or that she would be absolutely thrilled (as in spoil my dd rotten!) turns out - it's neither. she loves both of my children - has a soft spot for my dd because she is also her goddaughter - but ultimately is thrilled to have 2 boys! she thinks that they are so fun with all that they do and how they think, she loves all the crazy sports schedules, etc... and honestly, as much as she loves my dd, she can't stand some of the girly things she does - including whining (she swears boys just don't whine like girls do), the prissy can't get messy factor (eewww.. yuck! she says...) etc. she swears she wouldn't have another even if she were guaranteed a girl - she is happy with her boys..

people tell me i have the "perfect family" because i have one of each. i find that to be offensive - because i think every family is perfect as long as they have their health and love each other.

 

[momof1princess]

i have the opposite problem-my DD will forever be an only child and my heart aches to have a son, but my body just can't accomodate. i know, deep down, my DH is a little disappointed, because he is the only grandson and he is supposed to pass the family land to his son, but he tells me he loves me too much to risk my life for another child.
i am extremely grateful for the one child i have. i know there are many women in this world who can't have kids at all and i am very fortunate.

 

[tinkerfan1]

I kinow exactly what you mean. I inherited via marriage a 1/2 grown daughter who I consider my own, so I didn't have a little girl, either. We have two boys of our own. However, our grown daughter now has a daughter, so I have a DGD and get to enjoy all of those things through her. So, my point is, there is always the hope of grandchildren!! It may be a while off but, believe me, it is well worth the wait. They are sooooo much fun!! My boys give me a hard time about how much fun I'm going to have when we finally get to bring the grandkids because I'll have a little girl to spoil. They are right!

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

First, let me start by saying that I love love love my son like crazy and would not trade him for all the Barbie dolls and Princess dresses in the world. In fact, when I first found out I was pregnant I was hoping for a son. But...

...as much joy as he brings into my life I sometimes feel a little sad that I will never get to take my child to BBB, pick out frilly outfits for the holidays, or have a chance to relive my own childhood with barbies and doll houses.

My husband on the other hand is LOVING this Christmas. He now has an excuse to buy every cool action figure, race car and Star Wars video game he ever coveted as a child but never got.

Our ds will our be our only child and he is my greatest blessing. But I was just wondering if any of you other moms of "boys only" can't help but feel a little sad when you see a beautiful Princess dress and a pair of glass slippers.

I honestly thought our DD was going to be another DS and that exact thought crossed my mind since we decided that #2 was going to be it for us. Boy was I surprised at the ultrasound!

What I can share is that you may have only 1 son, and you'll never get to buy the frilly dresses, BUT you get to get dirty and rough play and enjoy him being him. What a way to enjoy his life!

Even WDW-related, he can still go and play dress up (pirate-style, of course) and get crazy hair done at the barber shop. There's lots down there if you know where to look! So you may not spend all of your day in Fantasyland, there's just as much adventure in the other worlds!

Chin up OP and hope a dear friend has a little girl you can spoil on birthdays!

 

[Zeebs]

We are expecting number three and I realise I am very lucky to be in the position to be able to have three.

We have two boys and I will freely admit that I will be disappointed if at the 20 week scan we find out we are having another boy.

I decided to find out because I wanted that bit of time to get my head around the fact and so I wasn't disppointed at the birth.

We aren't having a third to get a girl as obviously we have no choice in that decision, but we would like a girl.

Although I am fully expecting to be the Mum of three boys so much so I have some boys names on the list and no girl names.

I have 7 neices, but joined the family later so most of them are older the youngest neice gets some nice frilly girly stuff, the dress up, etc as do my friends little girls.

Kirsten

Kirsten

 

[cukal6]

We are expecting number three and I realise I am very lucky to be in the position to be able to have three.

We have two boys and I will freely admit that I will be disappointed if at the 20 week scan we find out we are having another boy.

I decided to find out because I wanted that bit of time to get my head around the fact and so I wasn't disppointed at the birth.

We aren't having a third to get a girl as obviously we have no choice in that decision, but we would like a girl.

Although I am fully expecting to be the Mum of three boys so much so I have some boys names on the list and no girl names.

I have 7 neices, but joined the family later so most of them are older the youngest neice gets some nice frilly girly stuff, the dress up, etc as do my friends little girls.

Kirsten

Kirsten

You sound like me a year ago. I have two wonderful boys (8 and 5) who I love more than anything. Last November it came as a shock when we found out we were pregnant. I have always wanted a little girl but was sure that I was having a boy. I even got out all of the blue clothes and hung them in the closet. I was shocked when they told us we were having a girl. So shocked that I went into denial. I refused to put the boy stuff away, and only bought 1 pink onesie. I was sure that the ultrasound tech was wrong. As I type this, I am looking at my beautiful 4 month baby girl. To this day I still can't believe it. We are in the process of planning her first trip to Disney in April and I am frantically searching for a princess dress in her size. Yes, I would have been happy with 3 boys, but I am so thankful for the chance to raise my princess.

 

[eeyoremum]

Sorry I don't want to flame but REALLY.

I am the very pround mother of two wonderful sons. I have never wished for anything but the two wonderful boys I have been blessed to raise.

When I think of the number of people who can't have one child and I have been blessed with two.

Truely if you think your sons or daughters don't pick up on the vibe that you wanted the opposite sex you are 100% wrong. I am the daughter to a man that wanted a SON. I know he loves me but he is also bitterly disappointed I was not a boy. The best thing I have done in his eyes is to have given him two grandsons. So this tends to be a touchy subject with me.

Also, we had friends who had two sons. The mother did everything possible to make sure those boys knew they were not wanted because of thier sex. We dumped the friends, the husband dumped the phyco wife but the damage was already done to those sweet adorable boys.

 

[HDCooper]

I am blessed with DD5 and DS2. We will be leaving on Saturday for Disney. DD has two princess dresses packed... I have nothing special like that for DS. I bought him a few Disney t-shirts... but feel like there is nothing really "special" that I can get for him. Any ideas?

 

[iwrbnd]

I can completely relate to you! I had 3 boys and thought my family was done. When I found out I was pregnant agian I just figured it was another boy and was sooo shocked to find out it was a girl! She's 7 yrs old now and I love doing all the girly things but seriously she's WAY harder than her brothers! I love her dearly but she can be HIGH MAINTENANCE!!!

 

[aanderson5]

I will admit to some girl envy. I love my DS with all my heart and wouldn't change being a mom to a boy for anything. I do however feel a pang when I walk into store where 2/3 of the clothes are for girls. I look at the gorgeous girl choices and can't help thinking wouldn't it be nice.

I don't think it is wrong or terrible to wish you had a child the same gender as you. It has to do with being able to reliving you own childhood through the eyes of your child. I wouldn't change my son for anything and actually prefer many aspects of having a boy over a girl. But there are certain things I miss not having a girl and I am not ashamed to admit it.

 

[Zeebs]

Sorry I don't want to flame but REALLY.

I am the very pround mother of two wonderful sons. I have never wished for anything but the two wonderful boys I have been blessed to raise.

When I think of the number of people who can't have one child and I have been blessed with two.

Truely if you think your sons or daughters don't pick up on the vibe that you wanted the opposite sex you are 100% wrong. I am the daughter to a man that wanted a SON. I know he loves me but he is also bitterly disappointed I was not a boy. The best thing I have done in his eyes is to have given him two grandsons. So this tends to be a touchy subject with me.

Also, we had friends who had two sons. The mother did everything possible to make sure those boys knew they were not wanted because of thier sex. We dumped the friends, the husband dumped the phyco wife but the damage was already done to those sweet adorable boys.

I would have thought that the women you mentioned is not a normal representation of people who may have had twinges of longing not for the sex of their child to be different but for the chance of doing the girly or boy like things with their children.

Most have said they wouldn't change their children for anything, but every now and again if you feel a little bit of longing for a certain activity or piece of clothing that isn't wrong either.

If we are lucky enough to get a girl great but if we don't I will be a very happy mother of three little boys. Who will ocassionally see something and think what if.

Kirsten

 

[rubato]

I, too, will only ever have 1 child, my 10 year old son. I am so happy to have a boy and not a girl. Have you seen how much those clothes cost? And, they want so many of them. My son is happy with his polos and cargos. Our only big clothing expense are his athletic shoes!

If there can't be BBB in your future, how about the Pirate League? It looks super cool, but my son doesn't like pirates (I don't know where I went wrong).

 

[jagafen]

But I was just wondering if any of you other moms of "boys only" can't help but feel a little sad when you see a beautiful Princess dress and a pair of glass slippers.

When I first first found out I was having a boy, I was a little disappointed. For like 5 minutes, and then I started to think about how much fun being a "boy mom" would be....now, I wouldn't change it for the world....and my 3 BFFs both have girls, so I buy vicariously for them instead!!

 

[crisi]

You never know...one of my girlfriends had a little boy who LOVED dressing up in little girl clothes and playing princess.....and yes, I know what you are thinking and at eleven he seems to be "all boy." Another had a little girl who wouldn't be caught dead in a dress.

Sex isn't the be all and end all in gender identity - particularly for young kids.

 

[It'sWDW4me]

First, let me start by saying that I love love love my son like crazy and would not trade him for all the Barbie dolls and Princess dresses in the world. In fact, when I first found out I was pregnant I was hoping for a son. But...

...as much joy as he brings into my life I sometimes feel a little sad that I will never get to take my child to BBB, pick out frilly outfits for the holidays, or have a chance to relive my own childhood with barbies and doll houses.

My husband on the other hand is LOVING this Christmas. He now has an excuse to buy every cool action figure, race car and Star Wars video game he ever coveted as a child but never got.

Our ds will our be our only child and he is my greatest blessing. But I was just wondering if any of you other moms of "boys only" can't help but feel a little sad when you see a beautiful Princess dress and a pair of glass slippers.

I'm right there with you! I love my DS very much. I didn't intend for him to be an only - I wanted three - but that seems to be my/his destiny. While I'm glad to not have to deal with some teen girl issues (wearing makeup; too tight/small clothes; catty girls; etc), I must admit to looking longingly at those sweet little girl babies in their oh-so-cute dresses and hair ribbons. Sigh. Maybe my DS will one day (hopefully a long time from now! ) give me a DGD!

 

[Worfiedoodles]

I am also the mother of an only boy. I've had my moments when I'd like to buy girl stuff -- and I am very fortunate to have 3 nieces!

Of course there are times when I wish we could do mani/pedis, pick out cute outfits, etc...

But I think I was meant to be the only girl in my home -- if I had a little princess like me, I think she would drive me crazy. I just know she would be temperamental, moody, and my dh would turn her into "the" princess. I like being the "Queen" a little too much...LOL.

Seriously, I think it's normal to wonder what it would be like to have a child of the other gender. Having a boy is magical, special and incredible -- for a few more short years I will be the most important woman in his life, and that's pretty awesome, too!

And sometimes they will surprise you -- ds agreed to see "The Princess and the Frog" with me, so I won't have to go alone. There is nothing sweeter than a little boy taking care of his Mommy!

Maria