No One RSVP'd (long, very long)

[MagicalMom]

But everyone showed up! My daughter had a slumber party last night for her 13th bday. We sent out invitations req. an RSVP. We knew her bestfriend & her best friend's sister & brother would be here. I bought a quater sheet cake & planned on a nice little party, with children I know very well. Only the girls would spend the night, the brother would go hope after the traditional first couple of hours of the party. I accidently scheduled the party for a night when DH had to work. Then there's a knock on the door. It's our old neighbor, who lives a couple of hours away. Who would have thought she'd shown up? Especially if she never RSVP'd? That's OK, it's just one more. Then there is another knock, twin sisters. I have never met them , but have heard of them often. They were dropped off by "someone" when I opened the front door, I saw them pulling out of our driveway. I have never met their parents. They never called to say they were coming. I'm thinking we'll be OK. We'll cut the cake in small pieces, there's plenty of dinner for everyone (burgers & dogs). DH is going to pick up donuts on the way home.

The children ate, had cake, opened presents. Pretty uneventful, unless you consider the scantly clad poster of Eminem my THIRTEEN year old daughter received as a gift. (My sister whispered in my ear, aren't you tempted to steal it from her and hang it in your room DH would love that, huh?)

Afterwards all of the adults left, it's just me alone with 2 boys (8 & 3) & 6 13 year old girls. My 8 yo old son continued to annoy the girls for the majority of the evening. They were all loud, hyper, a typical pack of 13 yo girls. Then it happened. The girls wanted to play a trick on my DD, they smashed her face in cake. Apparantly it goes over well at other parties, but not at this one. My DD's feeling were so hurt. Cake covered her hair, bed, new presents. She then grabbed sour cream dip & threw it at the girls. Dip went everywhere! My kitchen, livingroom & hallway. DD went to the bathroom & cried to herself in the tub. The other girls cleaned. I went outside for a break. By the time I came back in everyone was happy & everything was clean. But, I won't recover from that for sometime.

Around midnight the twins mentioned that their mom doesn't get off of work until 6:30 pm the following day. I wasn't expecting these girls to come, let alone spend the entire day with us. I had plans & errands to run today. I was really caught off guard. I wish this lady could have called & given me just a little idea that she was dropping her girls off & that they'd be here for over 24 hours.

6:30 this morning, the girls finally fell asleep. I had the worst time waking them up this morning, but I wasn't going to let them sleep the entire day. I just sent the girls out for a walk. We are down to only 2 guests left (the twins). Just another 4 more hours & this party will be over.

Thanks for letting me ramble,

 

[OhMari]

I can't wait to hear what the twins mom says.

You sound really kind hearted. "You seem to just go with the flow".

 

[HisEllyNelly]

HOLY COW!!!

 

[Pooh93]

Whew! I'm worn out just reading that!! I can't believe no one RSVP'd! That's aggravating. Sounds like everyone had a great time despite the tricks. You are a good mom!

 

[WeirdEyes]

I bet you are EXHAUSTED! What did the mother of the twins say? I can't believe nobody RSVP'd either! Wow!

 

[Kimberle]

Wow! I guess at 13 the parents expect the girls to RSVP themselves, hugh?!

Glad you had a nice time anyway! At least with 13 yo's, if you don't have enough food, you can always send out for pizza!

I think I'd have been tempted to drive the girls home myself. At 13, they should be able to stay home themselves during the day.....

 

[binny]

what a NIGHTMARE!!!

I cant believe someone would just drop off kids like that!!

you are very generous and deserve a medal after all that!


and the eminem poster??? OMGOSh that would be returned as soon as they were gone lol

 

[CEDmom]

What's is up with people not RSVPing . I can't imagine they'd like it if the tables were turned. If someone doesn't RSVP for a party I'm giving I pick up the phone and get an answer one way or another. The mother of those twins is unbeliveable. Please let us know how this ends up.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Wow!! I know I would be pissed.

You also reminded me of what one of my "friends" (our husbands work together and our daughters go to school together) did to another of our friends. My "friend" will set up play dates/sleep overs for her DD, then after she drops off her DD, she doesn't answer her phone, and suddenly you have her daughter all day!! Or shows up late the following afternon after the sleep over to pick up her DD. While I do not care for her, my DD likes to play with her DD, so I grit my teeth. But I also set very rigid guidelines such as ensuring that she knows that I have somewhere to go that afternoon, so the playdate is ONLY until X time. It seems to work for me.

So her latest stunt was to call up one f her babysitters last minute looking for her. She called the babysitter's cell phone, and the sitter said she coiuld'nt come over because she was sitting for another family (another of our friends) right then. So my "friend" drives over to the other house and drops her DD off with the sitter. The sitter calls the family she is actually babysitting for to tell them that she had been dropped off, and that family had no idea. My "friend" never called the other family to ask if that would be ok. The other family gets home around midnight to not only find the other child still there, but awake as well (she is 6). The other family triend calling my "friend" and her husband, and neither one of them answered their cell phones. They finally showed back up around 10:30 the next morning to pick up their daughter. Boy did that other family let loose on her!! She has done some nervy things, but that one took the cake.

Fortunately for me, my "friend" hated the school our DDs attend, so she pulled her daughter and put her in a different school. I am hoping out of sight, out of mind applies to my DD, and she forgets about this girl! Plus we are moving soon, so that will really put some distance between us!

 

[trip]

I have 3 daughters - I learned very early on that when you have a slumber party to put on the invitation that YOU will bring the girls home a 9:00 a.m. Sometimes that was the only way to get rid of them the next morning!!!!!!

 

[Kimberle]

jwsqrdplus2

Wow! That poor little 6 yo. My dd is 5.5 and I just can't imagine doing anything like that! I still stay with her on playdates! Anything could happen to this poor child. Not to mention the feeling of abandonment...

 

[Hillbeans]

LOL - that is the funniest thing i've read in weeks. You made my day. How you described the food fight was hysterical.

A big hug to you....I can't believe you had Twins for 24 hours. Holy cow! Guess this will be your last sleepover, huh???

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Wow. I can't believe they all just showed up like that. I swear the idea of rsvp is lost on some people.

And the poster of Eminem...ewww. My neice is 12 and I know if she got something like that, her mom would probably burn it.

*flame suit on*

 

[lightningcoach]

Say it with me- NO MORE SLEEPOVERS!!!!!ANYTIME ANYWHERE ANY PLANET!!!!


My DD's birthday party was last weekend and an hour before I had to leave to get set up a mom call's me to see if I can pick up her child because her other child will get upset if he sees her getting dropped off at a party. And can I take her home also?

I would have had to go out of my way and then rushed around and then driven out of my way to drop her back off and to top it off the child is how can I say it- out of control all the time.

I said no- I felt guilty about it, but I still said no. The mom was upset with me- but that is life. I had to get ready for 12 other people and you have to have boundaries.

 

[Oh Kay!]

Originally posted by MagicalMom
Around midnight the twins mentioned that their mom doesn't get off of work until 6:30 pm the following day. I wasn't expecting these girls to come, let alone spend the entire day with us. I had plans & errands to run today. I was really caught off guard. I wish this lady could have called & given me just a little idea that she was dropping her girls off & that they'd be here for over 24 hours.

My jaw dropped when I read this. That is the most inconsiderate thing I've ever heard.

 

[Rock'n Robin]

I think the twins' mom has to have a small, nice talking to when she picks the girls up. Since you don't know her I wouldn't go off on her (well, I might, but I don't recommend it). That kind of behavior is just rude.
When DD#1 had a sleepover this March and we had a couple of kids a few days prior who hadn't replied, I made her call them up so I would know what was going on.
I had a different issue last weekend--a week ago Sunday DD#2 wanted to have 2 friends over, but had an early ortho. appt. so we made arrangements to have them both sleep over on Friday night--when we called the one girl Friday night her dad said "well she didn't know what was going on so she's going to stay with her family tonight" . Turns out her mom just forgot about it and they all went to the county fair. So we had one little guest instead of 2. (DD#1 was at another slumber party; DS went to Grandma's house).
Robin M.

 

[dizagain]

Wow...I've never had it THAT bad!! Sounds like you're doing a great job handling things. I feel for those twins, though - wonder what the rest of their life is like??

We only have one friend/family who tends to live in their own world when it comes to time. Sometimes I don't know WHEN those girls are going to go HOME!! I'm too nice, though, and I never say anything.

 

[Kallison]

Wow that Mom is incredibly rude and you are so nice. I would have asked for her work number and told her that sorry the party did not extend for the rest of the following day!

Two days before our vacation a scheduled a sleepover party for my 14 year old, he has three really good friends. They have celebrated his birthday with him for the past three years. Let's just say I was PMSing and it didn't go well! Not as bad as your food fight. It involved one boy having a girlfriend and a cell phone and calls all hours of the night until I took it away. Another boy destroying my middle DS's prized baseball hat he just bought with his own money. I was a maniac. Those kids were gone by 8:30am the next day. I told DS never again, I'm through with sleepover birthday parties. I can't stand them. I think the cake smashing was really nasty. I wouldn't even smash cake on my wedding day.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

This RSVP topic is quite a hot point with me so I will just say this and be done with it. ATTENTION!!! Those of you out there (not anyone on this board, of course!) who do not see the need to RSVP , even when asked to, are rude and THOUGHTLESS and you need not show up at my doorstep and expect me not to ask you what the heck you are thinking!! Whew..
Thanks....

MagicalMom, I bow to your restraint..
I don't know what I would have done, but it wouldn't have been pretty...

 

[4greatboys]

Most of our sleepovers seem like a piece of cake (no pun intended) compared to yours. I already have 5 boys anyway so after one of them invites over another 3 or 4 for a sleepover we have a house full. But the boys are usually pretty well behaved. My oldest ds has some really nice friends and I really like all the boys but 1. He is a bit inconsiderate but he doesnt tear up our stuff or anything like that.
Once my now 14 yr old had a sleepover when he was in 4th grade. 6 boys came over and all were good except one little smart mouthed kid....on top of that his parents just did a drive by drop off (and they had never even met me before) and then werent home the next day when I was trying to get rid of the little weezel.
I would have been very upset if someone smashed my kids face into the cake, that is just rude and mean.