HI
The OP here. I just had to pipe in (though again, sure I will be flamed...) that I think it is a bit absurd for posters to accuse me of it being my fault for having a bad time due to not enough research or not asking enough questions on this board. I have been to
DisneyLAND probably 20 times so I wasn't totally unprepared for the experience. The only time we had to go to WDW due to my husband's schedule was the x-mas week...the only week we could almost guarantee he wouldn't be called to some work crisis. And we wanted to go before we moved back to the west coast in the spring. We had no expectation (or really the desire) to do everything.
I don't think it should be mandatory to stay on a Dis property to be able to enjoy. We visited the Poynesian and the Contempory and they were really sub-par. To stay on a Disney property we would have had to book two rooms (due to party of five even though toddler would sleep in our bed, I know, rules are rules) at a cost of an additional $1000 for five nights over getting a 2 bedroom suite offsite. And since we rode the Disney busses to go to downtown Disney, it seems most of the Disney hotels not on the monorail were at least as far as the place we stayed. It took 35 minutes to ride from Magic Kingdom to Downtown Disney.
By the way, we were able to stay at the Caribe Royale by booking through
AAA for $97 a night ($157 was the other cheapest rate on every hotel booking site). They were a great all-suite hotel with free shuttle and a great pool with a 50 foot water slide and two big hot tubs, tennis courts and fitness center. 4 restaurants on site, game room and nightly movie for the kids. Walking distance to Ponderosa, CVS, chinese and pizza restaurants and 7-11. 1 mile from the Belz factory outlet (which I visited: nothing super fabulous though they had a "Character Corner" (Disney and Universal outlet) with some pretty outdated stuff. There will be a new Disney outlet there soon.)
Another FYi, we got our 3 day park hopper at Central Florida Travel who had prices competitive with AAA (which was the lowest I could find) but had the 3 day. AAA wasn't able to offer those. Tripadvisor.com seemed to have good information for the more casual Disney person...not the ones who were all Disney, all the time. See, I did do some homework!
BYW, not to totally denegrade Disney. We stayed at their Hilton Head resort about 18 months ago and had a good time. We got a great rate, were only pressured to take the time share sales pitch about three times, and it was very quiet. Their suites were large and well appointed, although unfortunately a couple mile bike ride or shuttle away from the beach.
We walked into Universal with ZERO research (a neighbor had just told us not to miss the Mummy ride) and had a blast! I didn't even know there were two parks there.
I have three kids and have my own business. I have close to no free time. All I wanted to do was show my kids a great time and have something they could look back on the rest of their lives. I mean, how excited would you be if you were a kid and told you were leaving for Disney in 2 hours? I guess I am just not a Disney person. I look at the $28 princess caps and just want to gag. I just felt Disney wasn't happy til the bled the last dollar out of you. I think my husband said it best when he said "the best thing about this trip is we don't have to do it again!"
OK, this is my last blast on this trip. Time to move on and get on with life. I am just glad I prepaid everything and won't be getting bills later this month. What's done is done.