No good rotten very bad day! (long sorry)

[binny]

I just want to cry.

I was doing fine until I went to my meeting with dd's school to plan what to do for next year. They were all set on the idea that she would be going to Kindergarten next year. Well because of her delays I was questioning it anyway, I didnt want her to be overwhelmed but I listened to their case. Finally I just said " Look, My middle child is 11 months older than she is, she missed the K cut off my 2 days last year and I really want her to have her own class. add that to Karissa's delays and I just dont think its a good idea for her to in K next year" so they finally came around to my of thinking and agreed. That was the good part.

I said " her therapists and doctor agree that they think she will catch up in a few years"and the school therapist says " Oh no I dont agree with that at all, she will always be delayed" my jaw ( and my heart) just dropped. I know she needs a lot more therapy but she has made a lot of strides! I have ben so hopeful then to have someone say something like that just broke my heart!

Then I get to Kaylee school to find her crying and found out she has been really acting out today and was very nasty to her teacher. I took away her toy that had caused the problem, which she had snuck to school in her SLEEVE, and she threw the biggest hissy fit you can imagine. I lost it! I carried both of them out of the school in utter humiliation and disgust.
I bring them home feed them tell Kaylee she's grounded for the rest of the day and has to stay in her room so she has been throwing a HUGE fit about that ever since. I hate being the bad cop but it has to be done .
so then she gets up to go to the bathroom and makes the toilet overflow all over EVERYTHING!! I had a 1/2 inch of water in the bathroom!

This has been a terrible day and I just need to sit down and have a good cry!
sorry this is so long, but I really needed to get that all out.

 

[minniecarousel]

Go ahead & vent. Some days are just like that - nothin' you can do about it!

Hang in there!

 

[m&m's mom]

I kind of know how you feel. My youngest DD was born 16 weeks early at less than a pound and a half. I rode every emotional roller coaster there was w/ her development. She did not walk until 22 months. I wanted to and did cry many times over her future. I actually had one Dr. tell me when she was 2 that she would become autistic. That one threw me over the edge. The Dr's explanation was that IF she EVENTUALLY became autistic and she did not tell me I would be mad at her. I said "Why don't you tell me when she is 80 she will get cancer".
Bottom line- I do not believe they would be able to say a child will be delayed definitively at this age, and if so what is gained by causing someone to lose hope?
Hang in there!

 

[Kallison]

Specialists don't know everything. My sons 4th grade teacher told me once at a conference that he will be in fine but he'll never be President of a corporation. He is now in 7th grade, made straight A's and is on the high honor roll. Sometimes they talk without thinking or they think they know it all.

 

[peg2001]

I would listen to her doctors and private therapist before taking the word of the school therapist. Keep in mind that the schools get more funding if your DD is considered delayed. Why would they want to declare her caught up and lose that?

Have heart.
Peggy

 

[wuv tigger]

They thought I was retarded in kindergarten , but by the end of the first grade I was reading at a 4th grade level and eventually got a masters degree

You just never know. Keep the faith. BTW, we are also dealing with toddler tantrums so I understand the vent. Some days you just need to hang in there.

David

 

[Stepharoonie!]

 

[Kitty 34]

Just want to give you a big {{{{{{HUG}}}}. We all have " those" kind of days!

 

[Hillbeans]

Hang in there!! I have a DS 3 who has gone from a good kid to Satan child during the past few weeks. We're potty training and he constantly is pitching fits over the smallest things. I also can't be late for work and he sometimes pulls his 3 year old nonsense in the AM when i'm trying to get him dressed and out the door. Some mornings I want to scream, and some mornings I cry, but either way, he's my little munchkin and I love him.

Hope you have a better day tomorrow. Keep your chin up!

 

[wovenwonder]

I held both my kids back and didnt start them in to KG until they were 6 years old. Shelby was 6 and 2 months and Colby was 6 and 8 months. When Shelby was a junior and most kids her age were graduating I asked her how she felt about it. How did she feel turning 18 and still having a year of school ahead of her. She said that she was so glad to have another year of high school ahead of her. Colby will turn 16 next year as he begins high school. I think in alot of ways they are both more mature than alot of their classmates and hopefully it helps them with decision making.

Colby is in the Learning Support/Resource Room for alot of subjects and I fully expect him to remain there for the duration of his education.

I know its hard to see now --- but it WILL all work out.

I hope your day soon looks brighter for you Robin!

 

[dizneenut]

I'm sorry you've had such a bad day.

 

[Otto's Doll]

We have all been there with the tantrums and kid stuff... Hoping tomorrow will be brighter for you

PS> Go ahead and cry if you want too, it may not help, but you may feel much better after you get it all out.

 

[Cruise04]

GO AHEAD AND CRY - SOMETIMES WE JUST GOTTA!!!!!!

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} my friend. I hope tomorrow is a better day for all of you.

 

[binny]

thanks everybody (((hugs)))


Its getting better slowly. dh will be home in an hour then I can go and hide for a bit. I always feel more human after that.

Thanks again.

 

[stacy2197]

They tried to hold my son back in four year old kindergarden. I flat out refused. My son is a big boy. He's in first grade know and towers over the fifth graders. Can you imagine if he was a grade behind Anyways, The teachers always tell me how smart he is know. You know your child and whats best for them. By the way I have a four year old girl now. Temper tantrums are very normal. She drives me crazy but what do you do.

 

[JetMom]

You know what they say, "some days are like that....even in Australia!"

P.S. - I'm having a terrible, horrible, no good , very bad day too!


We'll get through it!

 

[binny]

thanks everybody...

(((hugs))) Jet. Yep we'll get through it... its better than the alternative, right?

 

[Otto's Doll]

Ann Marie.... here is a for you too!

 

[helenabear]

Binny, so sorry you had such a rough day