Newly single mom-still going to WDW need advice!

[Sandy321]

You have the plane tickets

You have ressies for FREE dining + adr's already set -

I LOVE the pp that said make it a Mommy daughter Princess trip - Kohl's and Target often have Disney themed jammies!!

yes, I would be concerned about the money - do you have an attorny? Does he? That is always my first concern, is he friendly, communicate with you? Or does he plan on leaving you high and dry? (can he be vindictive?) Has he mentioned the Disney trip? Can you check to make sure he hasnt cancelled? Is it in his name - or yours?

Always more questions than answers!! Good luck!

 

[gower525]

I am soo sorry that you are going through this. I was in your shoes last August. My ex came home after 11- now 12 - years of marriage and said he was leaving - just like that. We have dd3 and ds6. It was incredibly difficult but I have made it though the storm and you will too. (He was a youth pastor and having an affair w/a 20 year old - I later found out) Right away, I also started planning a disney trip for me and the kids. I found that it occupied my mind and gave me something to focus on. When I was feeling especially low, I thought about our trip. We leave in 26 days! This trip has really saved me in lots of ways - just the idea of it. It is also a huge leap of independence for me to do this. I can do it on my own and you can as well. I'll let you know how it all goes - but I say plan it and go if it gives you any happiness. Lots of hugs and feel free to pm me to talk if you need too. I know what you are going through.

 

[clorenzen]

Someone said my priorities were wrong. I assure you thinking of this upcoming vacation was an example of how I still want things to be ok for our daughter. She has been looking forward to it - talking about it, saving her money, etc. We took her last year and it was the trip of a lifetime - many many happy memories and we were all looking forward to going back. I thought that not going would be just another disappointment to her. Last year's trip was totally focused on her and we had talked about this year trying to do some of the "bigger" rides that we missed last time. My only point was I need to adjust my expectations for this vacation, if we still go. I think I need something to look forward to.

 

[Maggie'sMom]

Someone said my priorities were wrong. I assure you thinking of this upcoming vacation was an example of how I still want things to be ok for our daughter. She has been looking forward to it - talking about it, saving her money, etc. We took her last year and it was the trip of a lifetime - many many happy memories and we were all looking forward to going back. I thought that not going would be just another disappointment to her. Last year's trip was totally focused on her and we had talked about this year trying to do some of the "bigger" rides that we missed last time. My only point was I need to adjust my expectations for this vacation, if we still go. I think I need something to look forward to.

I agree. I think this trip would be theraputic for both you and your DD. She's looking forward to it and she's already going to be dealing with the huge blow of having her parents split. Not being able to go on the trip would just be another hurt she'd suffer. As long as it is financially viable, keep the reservations. Go and have a lovely bonding trip with your daughter. Make some happy memories together.

 

[santa's surpriz]

IMO, you should go. Divorce is a lot of stress and the trip will take your mind off things in order to focus on what is really important, your dd. Sounds like everything is already paid for, so enjoy yourself. Ya never know when you will make it back or when you will find time for your next. Life will become pretty chaotic as single mom. I left my husband when my daughter was 2. Best decision I ever made! Did Dinsey last year (just the two of us) and had a blast!

 

[Schmeck]

I hope the OP didn't think I was saying she was wrong, just that her focus would have to be on her preschooler as it would only be the two of them and she could only go on rides the little one could go on - we missed many rides our first trip (and a few the second trip, which was 3 years later) because our kids were too small to go on some, and we wanted to stay together as a family. We still had a blast! That's what's so great about WDW, there's just so much to do at any age!

 

[StephMK]

I'm sorry you have to go through that but I think you should go too. Why not have something happy to look forward to during this time? Maybe give it some time then either get a credit for his tix or can you upgrade w/his credit?

As long as you're not going to be financially destitute, plan something special & enjoy your mom/DD trip. We're coming up on 10 yrs too and sometimes I still miss my single mom days a little. There's something to be said for getting to make all the decisions.

 

[tomboy_m]

Go, have fun. Leave all of your troubles at home and just let yourself enjoy this time with your DD. Make it about the two of you. If you can get into the BBB do it if not the main street barber shop. Be princesses, Be pirates, Bring Joy back into your life. If we all wait until things are settled and perfect to have fun with our kids, many of us would never end up doing WDW. Even with the changes going on there is much to celebrate and enjoy. I went shortly after I was diagnosed with MS and trust me once I was there all of my worries and troubles disappeared for a magical week. Allow yourself to see life through your daughters eyes and be in the magic, it will do much to heal your spirit. Good Luck

 

[Neesy228]

I guess I should be clear. . .my future ex-husband will not be coming. And I don't really have anyone else to go with. We had planned to go in Sep during free dining. Plane tickets are already purchased. ADRs are made. I just really don't think I should have to suffer for his selfishness. Why can't I still have my vacation and the vacation our DD has been looking forward to? But is it realistic?

Yes, I think it's realistic. If you have everything planned and your DD is looking forward to it, GO! You will have a wonderful time. Not only is is a great age to take her, but you will undoubtably need this vacation too. Nothing beats Disney through a small childs eyes...make wonderful memories together.

And in the weeks and months leading up to your trip, take care of yourself and just take it one day at a time.

 

[TheLittleRoo]

I've seen some Disney obsessed people on this board but seriously, go back and read your post. You found out only a few days ago that your marriage is breaking up and your worried about rider swaps and such. You may need to step back and think about this for a while- get over the shock and let things settle down.

Wow- I would wait until things are worked out/settled before I planned any further for an expensive vacation. Will you even be able to afford it?

As far as traveling alone- if you only have one child then you should be fine.

Good grief, have you been through a divorce?!? You can only take so much bad stuff before you NEED to have an outlet that allows you to think about something else. In my mind, planning a Disney trip would save my sanity when things get really bad in the divorce process.

OP, I think a trip to Disney is just what the doctor ordered, especially since your "H" suggested you go ahead and book the tickets. Try to keep it a budget'ish trip just in case you need to, but by all means have fun planning all the adventures for you and your DD. I love the idea of a Princess Vacation for the two of you! Take lots of pictures and don't be shy about asking cast members to take them of you together!

 

[maymom96]

Go on the trip. Since you have a third ticket bought, do you know of anyone that you could sell it to (for spending money on the trip) or that you can invite to go?

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

I guess I should be clear. . .my future ex-husband will not be coming. And I don't really have anyone else to go with. We had planned to go in Sep during free dining. Plane tickets are already purchased. ADRs are made. I just really don't think I should have to suffer for his selfishness. Why can't I still have my vacation and the vacation our DD has been looking forward to? But is it realistic?

I would still go. You already have the airfare,food and place to stay right. The rest is the easy part. I think you and your dd will have a magical time. You will find there are sooo many rides that the 2 of you can do together. Plus maybe you could book the 2 of you into BBB for a mini makeover then dance around like the princesses you both can be.

So sorry to hear about the divorce. Wishing you gentle days ahead.

 

[Wendy5055]

I know that if you go w/your dd, you will have a wonderful time!!!

 

[KelleyD]

I would just make sure everything is paid in full - or at least the total bill charged to the credit card...that way when you have to go through who pays what etc. its a family bill that at a very minimum will be shared...then you dont have to worry about finances so much...and maybe considering doing the upgrade to deluxe...

 

[sunnyday123]

I am so sorry you are having this to deal with so unexpectedly.

Go on your trip, have fun. Do not let someone who clearly has some issues ruin this for you. It will be a Family trip, do not think of yourself as no longer being a family. You are and always will be no matter how many are there. Put it on a credit card, ( his-if you are an authorized user even better!) and you will have something to look forward to! In the meantime, find out the divorce laws in your state, get records of all accounts, keep some cash on hand for you, and call an attorney. Men ( sorry guys ) don't usually leave unless there is, as my Grandmother used to say, "a snake in the woodpile". I'm so sorry this was dumped on you but trust me, it will get easier and better. There are alot of us here who have been down this road, and you will make it!!!

 

[eeyoregon]

Why can't I still have my vacation and the vacation our DD has been looking forward to?

You can and you should!! Our children are only little once and if you wait until things are "calm" you will never go.

I am very sorry for what you are going thru. My ex did the same thing. We had been together for 12 years and married for 8. A few weeks before he decided he "didn't love me anymore" he was making plans for our 10 year anniversary cruise and vow renewal!!! Then BAMM!!

It's been 10 years now and I am still single and I have taken 6 trips to the World with my boys and we are going again in August.

I say do it.