We found out a little past 5 weeks and couldn't help ourselves. DH called his mom (his father had just passed away so she is loving the news!)
We told my parents the next day, as they were on vacation and the very next day was his birthday. I called and said "Happy Birthday!" and he said "Yeah, your mom told me I looked a year older this morning." and I said "Did she think you looked like a grandpa too?"
It was a perfect way to tell them. Except for my mom breaking down into tears.
I was the one that is bad with secrets, DH probably could have waited until two weeks before our due date to tell everyone but his mom. Then again his mom has a big mouth.. so I guess he realizes she'd tell everyone for him!
I think we're going to skip the screening. I love to be prepared too... but our insurance won't cover any of it and so we'd rather spend the money on a nice weekend away relaxing just the two of us before the baby. I'm young (21) and there is no family history of anything on either side so thats how we made our decision. Part of me still wants to but also knows if I got a positive I would have been so upset and worried the rest of my pregnancy and I don't think thats a good way to go for #1!