New Twist on the Guy Jumping From Carnival Cruise Ship

[Cool-Beans]

Being a woman, you don't have nearly the same worries a man does in that regard. People aren't typically going to assume the same things.

If I were a guy, I'd do no differently.

Just because people with warped minds will twist something good into something evil and make inaccurate assumptions doesn't mean you should stop being good. It is THEIR problem, not yours. That's how I see it, anyway.

Never in my life did I see a guy with kids and think, "Oh, he must be a child molestor." I can't even imagine what goes on in the head of someone who does.

Do the right thing and don't worry about whether or not other people approve.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Never in my life did I see a guy with kids and think, "Oh, he must be a child molestor." I can't even imagine what goes on in the head of someone who does.

Really? Do you think it is because you can't "read people"?

I can and have. Maybe that is why you can't understand some of what we are saying.

Here is an example....

When my oldest was in K-3, I felt that the Music teacher was a child molester.
I just can "read things".

In fact my best friend told me he would "stop her house" and I confessed to her my thoughts. Of course she thought I was crazy. However, the next time he stopped by she had to call me up *mad* because she had to keep an eye on all of her children because of me.

Fast forward 2 months...she calls me to tell me he was arrested. She thanked me and said how did you know?

People like that can give off a vibe. I suppose you are open to it or you are not.

Maybe this will help you understand.

 

[cruisnfamily]

That was my first thought...what man takes a boy on a cruise?

The Mom says he is a trusted family friend and there is nothing wrong with him. I'm not getting the whole situation. As a Mom I would not let a child of mine who is underage go off with a 35 year old man.

I would!

We have a very close family friend...in fact, I've know him longer than I've known my DH...and he takes my children lots of places by himself and if he were to invite either one of them to go on a cruise with him I would not hesitate for one moment. I would even be fine with them sharing a room. He is a 41 year old single man. I have a DD14 and a DS11 and I have never ever considered it odd or unusual for him to spend time with them and in fact I'd be sad if he didn't.

What a sad, sad place the world has become that we need to be so suspicious! Yuck! I don't want to live my life that way.

 

[MushyMushy]

If I were a guy, I'd do no differently.

Just because people with warped minds will twist something good into something evil and make inaccurate assumptions doesn't mean you should stop being good. It is THEIR problem, not yours. That's how I see it, anyway.

Never in my life did I see a guy with kids and think, "Oh, he must be a child molestor." I can't even imagine what goes on in the head of someone who does.

Do the right thing and don't worry about whether or not other people approve.

If you're ever unjustly accused of something, which AGAIN, you wouldn't be because you're a woman, it would become your problem.

Once a man is accused of something like that, even if he's found innocent, that stigma never goes away.

 

[MushyMushy]

People like that can give off a vibe. I suppose you are open to it or you are not.

Maybe this will help you understand.

Absolutely! I knew a man on our block growing up who just wasn't "right" to me. It had nothing to do with his looks or any of that, but there was just something there. I read in the paper years later that he'd gone to jail for molesting a 5-year old boy.

I don't just go around getting those impressions from everybody. So if I do get that vibe, I sure as hell listen to it.

 

[RitaZ.]

I can and have. Maybe that is why you can't understand some of what we are saying.

That's precisely what I meant when I said that I follow my gut instinct.

I'll share a story about women being "paranoid". When my brother was is in teens, his friend's uncle used to invite him and their friends to hang out at his pool, take them out on outings, to eat, etc. The uncle was in his 30's. My family knew his family, so my parents figured that the uncle was a decent person.

Fast forward to the time the uncle came to our house to pick up my brother... His nephew (DB's friend) and some other friends were already in the car with him. My parents met the uncle. My mom immediately got that "bad vibe" from the guy. I remember my mom and dad arguing about it after they left. My father said that my mom was paranoid, that she didn't trust anyone. You get the idea. My mom told my dad that something was definitely off about the guy. She told him that mature men don't spend their free time hanging out with teens. Again, she was dismissed as being paranoid.

A few months later, my brother's friend's mother told my mom what had happened between the uncle and an 8 yr. old family member. The 8 yr. old and his parents had come to visit from Venezuela. The little boy had always wanted to go to WDW. Well, guess who volunteered to take the little boy to WDW? The uncle. Guess what happened to the boy during that trip? He was molested by the uncle. The boy told his parents what the uncle had done to him upon returning from the trip. The entire family was very upset over what the uncle had done. However, they decided not to turn him in to the authorities if he promised to seek professional help.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Really? Do you think it is because you can't "read people"?

I can and have. Maybe that is why you can't understand some of what we are saying.

Here is an example....

When my oldest was in K-3, I felt that the Music teacher was a child molester.
I just can "read things".

In fact my best friend told me he would "stop her house" and I confessed to her my thoughts. Of course she thought I was crazy. However, the next time he stopped by she had to call me up *mad* because she had to keep an eye on all of her children because of me.

Fast forward 2 months...she calls me to tell me he was arrested. She thanked me and said how did you know?

People like that can give off a vibe. I suppose you are open to it or you are not.

Maybe this will help you understand.

There is a big difference between knowing someone and thinking they're "off" and seeing a stranger and figuring, since he's with kids, "He must be evil."

Women abuse kids, too. If you are going to suspect every man with a kid of molestation, you ought to suspect the women, too.

There is just no way that I'd stop taking kids places because some fruit loop might decide that I'm evil. Who flippin cares what they think?

 

[Cool-Beans]

If you're ever unjustly accused of something, which AGAIN, you wouldn't be because you're a woman, it would become your problem.

Once a man is accused of something like that, even if he's found innocent, that stigma never goes away.

Accused by some wacko person? Wouldn't care.

Accused in court? Would go and say I didn't. I'd have about 1000 character witnesses and I have good representation. This is about 8,230,504 on my list of things I worry about.

I do not live my life wondering if others will approve or not, because I don't care. It's worked this far.

But, to each his own. If people prefer not to take kids anywhere out of fear that others will think they're evil, that's up to them. We all have to do our own thing and everyone brings something to the party.