New TTC Thread

[chloelovesdisney]

Welcome Kronk's girl. Sorry you have to be with us though, I wish you a short stay here.

Mrs. Charming - This is my first cycle with the acupuncture. It doesn't seem to be hurting at any rate, and I am at the point I'll try about anything if it may help. I will say that my blood results have been good this cycle and the follicles are growing nicely so whether or not it really helped, I'm happy I tried it. I trigger tonight, have acupuncture again tomorrow, and the IUI Saturday morning. I'm not a good IVF candidate, I don't start off each cycle with that many follicles to stimulate, so for us it's IUI or bust.

Have a good weekend ladies!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[si-am]

Hi guys, I know you will all be very nice if I join in this thread because I have been lurking on it for over a year and you have always been nice I had to make a new account because some people I know use these boards and my husband and I haven't told anyone we are ttc-ing.

Here's my story/vent- We have no kids, and we are both desperate to be parents. We have been trying for 14 months with no success (it feels longer because we wanted to try much sooner, but had some unemployment issues that made us wait). I am in the process of getting blood work done since my husband was already tested and seems to be fine. I have really long cycles and the doctor talked to me about clomid as a future possibility depending on how my tests come back.

We tortured ourselves by purchasing Disney baby stuff on previous trips (because we thought for sure we'd be coming home with an extra souvenir, which we obviously did not), but now that stuff just taunts me. My husband has hidden it in his closet so that I don't have to see it everyday. I think my sister-in-law may have gotten the hint because she kept calling and asking if/when we wanted all their baby stuff, and I said that we aren't interested in having kids right now (I had to lie because I could not handle filling our empty guest room with baby stuff, that would be the biggest jinx ever).

The best news I've had in a while- the doctor told me that I could stop temping- he said a year worth of charts was enough .

So I'm joining in- Congrats to Vettechick , and baby dust to everyone else

Welcome!

Luckily I haven't bought any baby stuff yet. I somehow always thought that was a jinx. Of course, I guess it probably wouldn't have hurt since I seem to be jinxed anyway!

I have actually started telling people "it's not working" when they ask when I'm going to have kids, why I'm not pregnant, etc. For a loooong time I just avoided the question, but eventually I got tired of giving the same old excuses. Once I started telling the truth, I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders, honestly. Plus, it embarrasses the nosy questioner, which is nice, too.

I also found that once I told a few people at work, suddenly NOBODY was asking, because obviously word got around. It's made things much more pleasant.

 

[skuttle]

I think my sister-in-law may have gotten the hint because she kept calling and asking if/when we wanted all their baby stuff, and I said that we aren't interested in having kids right now (I had to lie because I could not handle filling our empty guest room with baby stuff, that would be the biggest jinx ever).

Welcome Kronk's girl!! Our empty guest room used to be filled with stuff from when DS was a baby. We started TTC #2 right after we moved into this house, so we just threw everything in there figuring we'd need it soon. Three years later, I've managed to at least move most of the toys, swing, bouncy seat, etc into the attic. I can't get rid of it "just in case." The crib and other furniture still sits in there, though. Every time my DH mentions doing something with the room, I start to cry because I feel like doing something with that room will be like we're giving up. So, like your WDW baby items, it taunts me! It sucks, but I'm just not ready to take that step yet.

Si-am...I've decided that from now on, if anyone asks when we're having another kid, that I'm going to also tell the truth. That we're trying but having problems. I agree, that's easier than repeatedly being asked every few months!

Thanks everyone for the support re that other poster. I know she didn't mean any harm, and I know she probably has no clue about my infertility, but it still stung!

I'm excited about this weekend...finishing up Christmas shopping hopefully! Hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

You know, I too have found it a lot easier as to why DD doesn't have a sibling. I just tell them that we've been trying for 2 years and I've even had surgery-- that shuts people up REALLY quick. I do it a lot more nicely to the well meaning people though I got sick of hearing all the wives tales and home remedies. Seriously, if all it took was a pillow under my bum for a half hour, I'd have been pregnant 2 years ago!

I think I might give acupuncture another whirl. I've been thinking about it since Chloelovesdisney brought it up. Can't hurt, right? I love just laying there in the nice quiet, warm dark room... it's as close to relaxation as I get! It's still MUCH less than a clomid cycle, so what the heck, right?

(*warning mini vent to follow)

I called the RE today to see if there was a little extra anything I can do at this point in my cycle, and all I got was a lecture about clomid monitoring. ::sigh:: I swear, they try to hire the grumpiest nurses EVER.

Ughh DH is getting me tonight. He really just doesn't get it sometimes. He has it so easy! I really wonder how he can be so... I can't say clueless, but so.. blase about it. I know I'm just hormonal and emotional, but c'mon dude, after all we've been through, you can't see why this is stressful? I know he wants a baby, but it's not as easy as a bottle of wine and some candles here, pal! (I don't even get that, I'm lucky we get a few rushed minutes every few nights.)

On a good note, I feel something going on in my ovaries, I just can't tell what LOL.

 

[skuttle]

LOL, Mrs. Charming! I totally agree with you about the home remedies! I know people mean well, but after 3+ years of TTC, 3 clomid IUIs and surgery, I don't think a pillow or a book or a chart is going to help me!

My DH and I have struggled through all of this as well. He's more like "If we have another child, great. If we don't, that's okay too because we already have an awesome DS." He wants another child, don't get me wrong, but the desire that I feel for another baby just isn't there for him. He also often feels like he (and DS) aren't "good enough" for me when I become so depressed each month when AF arrives. He's willing to do whatever we have to do to have another baby, which is a huge step for him. It took him a while to even agree to do the SA, then to go to the urologist, then to go back to the urologist for an ultrasound "down there" LOL!...I'm very proud of him!! Luckily our RE said DH having surgery won't help us so he doesn't have to go through that! We have since learned to agree to disagree on this...he'll never understand how I feel and I'll never understand how he feels. Thankfully I have the DIS and my blog to let it all out and not upset DH as much. Trust me, he still gets an earful, just not as often.

 

[soontobewed07]

Well girls BFN after BFN and DH asking if I "peed on the stick right" AF is due to arrive today and I am so tired.

It has been a very exhausting 2 weeks DS has been sick need breathing treatments and was in the ER one night for bad croup. I am starting to get sick too.

As for home remedies maybe we could all write a true or false book about them. I have looked like a fool my fair amount with pillow under and legs up guess what? Yup still not PG.

Skuttle- I know it must have been hard having that women make a comment. I am sure you handled it with grace. No Worries!

Mrs. Charming- Please vent away when ever you need to we are here to listen and help and it does help!

Kronks girl- Welcome. Hope you stay is short.

Chloe- Good luck with everything. I had acupuncture on my sinuses/migraines it helped so much I was off all of my meds and didn't need surgery. I do think it helps even if it is in my own head.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

skuttle,

C'mon...dontcha know you just need to relax? Sheesh...that's all it supposedly takes right? <end sarcasm here> Whenever people say that crap there should be a big boxing glove that appears out of nowhere and punches their lights out.

Your husband may just be more accepting...I don't know. I know I got to the place in my mind and heart where I started to accept that my life was not going to include another child. I had a good friend of mine tell me that I should be happy for what I had and that at least I had the kids I had. She had no sympathy or anything about the miscarriages or the struggle every month to get pregnant. All she said about the m/c was "well at least you were able to get pregnant". Gee thanks. I feel so comforted by that.

Men don't go through the monthly ups and downs like we do. They don't have to visually see it or physically feel it. I know for myself every month I had to re-live the trauma of having a m/c...anything that reminded me of blood sent me over the edge. Men don't go through that. I remember last year bawling at dinner at my inlaws because the beets on the table were making me crazy. I think husbands feel losses emotionally and the struggle to get pregnant but they just don't feel it in the same ways as we do. Thank goodness they are supportive though Going through what we have gone through has made us stronger and I could see how it could rip couples apart if things were different.

 

[Minnesota!]

I just wanted to pop in and give hugs all around and tell you all that I hope 2010 is "the year". The heartache of IF is something that cannot be described...you only understand if you have been there. Even now, almost 3 years after my youngest son was born, the pain can be so raw when someone announces an "oops". My BFF is going on 24 months of TTC - PCOS and MFI. Every month I feel her pain right in my gut.

So anyway, ya'll are in my prayers, and I will wish the happiest of new years for you!!!!

 

[D&DDisney]

I got sick of hearing all the wives tales and home remedies. Seriously, if all it took was a pillow under my bum for a half hour, I'd have been pregnant 2 years ago!

(*warning mini vent to follow)

I called the RE today to see if there was a little extra anything I can do at this point in my cycle, and all I got was a lecture about clomid monitoring. ::sigh:: I swear, they try to hire the grumpiest nurses EVER.

Ughh DH is getting me tonight. He really just doesn't get it sometimes. He has it so easy! I really wonder how he can be so... I can't say clueless, but so.. blase about it. I know I'm just hormonal and emotional, but c'mon dude, after all we've been through, you can't see why this is stressful? I know he wants a baby, but it's not as easy as a bottle of wine and some candles here, pal! (I don't even get that, I'm lucky we get a few rushed minutes every few nights.)

On a good note, I feel something going on in my ovaries, I just can't tell what LOL.

I like the way you think Charming!!!

Hi guys, I know you will all be very nice if I join in this thread because I have been lurking on it for over a year and you have always been nice I had to make a new account because some people I know use these boards and my husband and I haven't told anyone we are ttc-ing.

Here's my story/vent- We have no kids, and we are both desperate to be parents. We have been trying for 14 months with no success (it feels longer because we wanted to try much sooner, but had some unemployment issues that made us wait). I am in the process of getting blood work done since my husband was already tested and seems to be fine. I have really long cycles and the doctor talked to me about clomid as a future possibility depending on how my tests come back.

We tortured ourselves by purchasing Disney baby stuff on previous trips (because we thought for sure we'd be coming home with an extra souvenir, which we obviously did not), but now that stuff just taunts me. My husband has hidden it in his closet so that I don't have to see it everyday. I think my sister-in-law may have gotten the hint because she kept calling and asking if/when we wanted all their baby stuff, and I said that we aren't interested in having kids right now (I had to lie because I could not handle filling our empty guest room with baby stuff, that would be the biggest jinx ever).

The best news I've had in a while- the doctor told me that I could stop temping- he said a year worth of charts was enough .

So I'm joining in- Congrats to Vettechick , and baby dust to everyone else

Welcome to the world of TTC. Hope your stay is short.
I hear you about the jinx stuff. Sometimes I think if I just sold or got rid of all the baby stuff downstairs, then maybe something would happen.

Well girls BFN after BFN and DH asking if I "peed on the stick right" AF is due to arrive today and I am so tired.

As for home remedies maybe we could all write a true or false book about them. I have looked like a fool my fair amount with pillow under and legs up guess what? Yup still not PG.

Reality sooo stinks right now!!!!

C'mon...dontcha know you just need to relax? Sheesh...that's all it supposedly takes right? <end sarcasm here> Whenever people say that crap there should be a big boxing glove that appears out of nowhere and punches their lights out.

I'm with you on that one.
Relax...sheesh! If I were any more "relaxed" I'd slip off into a coma.


This week has been real tough on me. Maybe because my birthay is next week and it reminds me that the sun has probably set on this baby ship. I've been edgy with everyone and more upset about AF than ever. It just gets sooooo frustrating. This last month, the mood was perfect, timing was spot on, relaxing = top notch. I thought for sure this was it. It just didn't get any more textbook than this. But alas...NOTHING!!!! N O T H I N G!!!!!! Just feel so defeated.

 

[Kronk's girl]

Okay I just had to giggle a little this morning at all of the posts about home remedies, because as I read this I am chugging down red raspberry leaf tea before I start work for the day , and of course I too have spent many nights laying in bed reading on a massive pile of pillows! Oh the crazy things we do

 

[esbrick]

UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!

I'm supposed to go to that sonogram today! I'm all set and i FORGOT the FREAKEN SHOT!!! I'm such a DUMB ***!!!! Considering I'm a diabetic do you think that I can take it at home? Do they do something or do they have to do something to you after you take this shot? What if I'm not ovulating at all? Do I still take the shot! What if I screwed everything up? I think I'm gonna throw up. . .

PS Welcome Kronk's girl!

Ladies I hear you all! I'm just very anxious right now otherwise I would respond to you better. to everyone.

 

[D&DDisney]

UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!

I'm supposed to go to that sonogram today! I'm all set and i FORGOT the FREAKEN SHOT!!! I'm such a DUMB ***!!!! Considering I'm a diabetic do you think that I can take it at home? Do they do something or do they have to do something to you after you take this shot? What if I'm not ovulating at all? Do I still take the shot! What if I screwed everything up? I think I'm gonna throw up. . . .

You may still be ovulating on your own. All is not lost.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!

I'm supposed to go to that sonogram today! I'm all set and i FORGOT the FREAKEN SHOT!!! I'm such a DUMB ***!!!! Considering I'm a diabetic do you think that I can take it at home? Do they do something or do they have to do something to you after you take this shot? What if I'm not ovulating at all? Do I still take the shot! What if I screwed everything up? I think I'm gonna throw up. . .

PS Welcome Kronk's girl!

Ladies I hear you all! I'm just very anxious right now otherwise I would respond to you better. to everyone.

Oh no! I agree though, all may not be lost! It might not be too late, or you might just ovulate on your own... stranger things have happened!

 

[esbrick]

OK just spoke with the dr's office nurse. She said it's ok. That if they think I'm ready that they will call in a perscription to the hospital pharmacy and i can pick up there. If i'm not at least they will be able to have a good idea of when I will be and then I can come back then and bring the one I have. OMGoodness I almost lost it!

D&DD Thanks lady. . . I think it's time for that drink. . .

soontobewed07 ~ I'm sorry. I hope you feel better soon. Try some theraflu for you. If not anything it is soothing. . . So is a hot toddy for that matter but I'm not crazy bout the whisky

I have looked at baby things but haven't bought either because of jinxing. Nothing real, just thoughts, no real unless it becomes a reality. My reactions to certain things are so different from how I thought they would be that I don't trust them at all!!!

I'm more calm now and I'm listening to the Christmas music station! I think I'm going to go for a "online retail therapy" session and look at some things for our trip to Ireland. . .Breeeeeeeeeath. . .

 

[Mrs. Charming]

This week has been real tough on me. Maybe because my birthay is next week and it reminds me that the sun has probably set on this baby ship. I've been edgy with everyone and more upset about AF than ever. It just gets sooooo frustrating. This last month, the mood was perfect, timing was spot on, relaxing = top notch. I thought for sure this was it. It just didn't get any more textbook than this. But alas...NOTHING!!!! N O T H I N G!!!!!! Just feel so defeated.

Hey, Happy Birthday Mine's on Saturday.
Ohh I feel you. AF sucks. Especially after the "prefect" cycle, because your hopes are sky high-- and just to come crashing down. I'm sorry.

 

[D&DDisney]

Charming!!!! Wish I could wave the and grant you a birthday wish.

I have used the same b-day wish for 6 years. Even DH uses it too and still nothing!

I have a little hope that next week's b-day and trip to WDW will have some sort of magical effect.
Forty is not old.
Forty is not old.
Forty is not old!!!!!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

hehe thank you

Forty is NOT old! LOL, if it's any consolation, I'm 29 and feeling 53!

I hope your wish comes true, I hope all of our wishes come true! I swear, LOL, I'm wishing on stars, candles, clocks, eyelashes.. you name it, I wish on it!

 

[esbrick]

Hi there! Ok well surprise, surpise, surprise! Totally not what I was expecting. Turns oot the sonogram was more invasive then I thought! I wasn't ready yet but he thought I would be ready by monday so I need to do the pee stix over the weekend and just keep track. So, I'm sitten with my beer and DH in a restaurant. DSD and her BFF are playing video games and life is on pause for a while. I'm lookin forward to going to the city w/ Mike tomorrow and enjoying the weekend.

Happy Birthday Mrs Charming. I hope your day and your year are magical!

DD OMG 40 is so not old! I'm going to be 39 in March and we're NOT OLD! You will have a magical birthday! Can't wait to hear! Would u send me a pic while you are there?

Ok kids are back! Have a good evening!

 

[soontobewed07]

Wow girls alot of December birthday's mine is the 22nd and I will be 28 years old.
AF never showed, but still a BFN. I have all the symptoms of AF though still keeping my fingers crossed. DH (Mike) felt so bad he took me to buy a new temper pedic mattress. He said he was trying to get my mind off things for a little bit and thought this would be nice when we get pregnant because my hips and back wont hurt so much

Mrs. Charming- I agree with you I am feeling about triple my age right now. The other thing I am sick of hearing about is how young I am and I shouldn't be having these problems.

Well going to bed sad and alone Mike is working a 24 hour shift and I am planning our March stay at the Poly. At least there is something to look forward to.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Wow girls alot of December birthday's mine is the 22nd and I will be 28 years old.
AF never showed, but still a BFN. I have all the symptoms of AF though still keeping my fingers crossed. DH (Mike) felt so bad he took me to buy a new temper pedic mattress. He said he was trying to get my mind off things for a little bit and thought this would be nice when we get pregnant because my hips and back wont hurt so much

Mrs. Charming- I agree with you I am feeling about triple my age right now. The other thing I am sick of hearing about is how young I am and I shouldn't be having these problems.

Well going to bed sad and alone Mike is working a 24 hour shift and I am planning our March stay at the Poly. At least there is something to look forward to.

What a sweet hubby! He's right, too!

Happy early Birthday! I totally know how you feel about being "too young" to be having these problems. Between hearing it from others and thinking about it myself, ughhhhhhhh!! I could barf. Seriously.

Yay for your Poly stay.. we're going to try the Poly in December (if we don't end up needing IVF.. ugh.) I SO hope we get to do it, I love the Poly and I've always wanted to stay there.

I'm sorry you're alone hun, that totally stinks. DH has been asleep for over 2 hours now.. fun! So i"m just playing some xbox and listening to music. Heh, I get to listen to all the soft mushy stuff (i.e. John Mayer) that he won't listen to! lol