New TTC Thread

[skuttle]

I've been doing some reading on it. Some think it's linked to infertility because it can increase the temperature down there, which could harm the sperm. DH's count is fine. His problem is with morphology and motility , which is what some say can be affected by the vein thing.

I've also done a lot of reading about chemical pregnancies since I had a couple, and chemical pregnancies often occur as a result of poor morphology.

But, then again, others say there's no link between fertility and the vein thing.

*sigh* I'm hoping my Dr agrees to allow us to try clomid and IUI before DH goes through surgery. They said if "nothing is wrong" with DH, we'd move on to that. I"m not sure if they'd make us try to take care of the vein thing first. I'm hoping not!

I think I'm more nervous about DH having surgery than he is! Or maybe he'd rather just get it over with asap before he changes his mind!

 

[WDWAurora]

Since they wash the sperm for the IUI, it seems like that would be a logical thing to try that's a lot less invasive than surgery.

I hope you're right and that I was just testing too early. Now I don't know when I should test again.

 

[D&DDisney]

I just don't understand what the problem is. I have eggs, he has boys, why can't they get together?

That, my friend, is the million dollar question.

 

[si-am]

skuttle-- That's great news that your husband agreed to the surgery! My best friend's husband had the very same surgery a few months ago. While he was uncomfortable for a day, it apparently was a pretty easy recovery and overall experience, and he doesn't regret it.

I have a question for those of you seeing an RE. Did your insurance require a referral or were you just able to walk right in?

Mine requires a referral from my primary care physician. However, this is giving me a headache to think about because my doctor doesn't even know I"m TTC! It's my gyno I've been seeing for all this, and she is telling me to go to an RE, but my insurance won't accept a referral from the Ob/Gyn. I'm not sure what to do. I guess I could go to my Dr., see what she says... but then I'll need to ask my Gyno what RE is the best? And get my records from her?

Ugh. The potential hassle is not making this an easy decision for me!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

skuttle-- That's great news that your husband agreed to the surgery! My best friend's husband had the very same surgery a few months ago. While he was uncomfortable for a day, it apparently was a pretty easy recovery and overall experience, and he doesn't regret it.

I have a question for those of you seeing an RE. Did your insurance require a referral or were you just able to walk right in?

Mine requires a referral from my primary care physician. However, this is giving me a headache to think about because my doctor doesn't even know I"m TTC! It's my gyno I've been seeing for all this, and she is telling me to go to an RE, but my insurance won't accept a referral from the Ob/Gyn. I'm not sure what to do. I guess I could go to my Dr., see what she says... but then I'll need to ask my Gyno what RE is the best? And get my records from her?

Ugh. The potential hassle is not making this an easy decision for me!

My insurance doesn't require a referral. It does seem silly that your insurance requires a referral from your primary care MD and not your GYN.

If there is no way around it, I think the trouble it will take is worth it. My GYN sent over my records to the RE before my appointment so he was able to review my labs, etc. beforehand.

Best of luck, I'm sure it will all work out!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

BFN for me too today

Sorry TandT.

 

[WDWAurora]

Well, we're definitely out for the month, so it's on to IUI, which my insurance doesn't cover. I wasn't sure if we could do it this month financially, so I didn't do doctor visits, order medicine, etc. in a timely manner. Of course, now that the timing is too tight, we can afford it. I guess we'll sit out this month and try next month. I'm putting in a call tomorrow to see if I should use BCP to make sure it's not an endless cycle, or what they recommend. Ugh.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

edited. saw your updated post.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Well, we're definitely out for the month, so it's on to IUI, which my insurance doesn't cover. I wasn't sure if we could do it this month financially, so I didn't do doctor visits, order medicine, etc. in a timely manner. Of course, now that the timing is too tight, we can afford it. I guess we'll sit out this month and try next month. I'm putting in a call tomorrow to see if I should use BCP to make sure it's not an endless cycle, or what they recommend. Ugh.

Sorry Aurora.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi D&D.

Hi Skuttle. I'm praying for your grandpa, hope he is doing well with the treatments.


I'm in the tww now. The time just DRAGS. I am feeling really hopeful for this month. We are due some positive news here for sure!

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Hi everyone! I've been lurking for ages, but haven't had time to catch up on everything around this thread again.

Skuttle - that's awesome that you finally have some answers and potentially a direction to go in now. It's always better to have an answer rather than to keep thinking "what if's" in your head.

Aurora - My insurance doesn't cover IUI either. However, it did cover the meds, bloodwork, and ultrasounds. Just not the sperm washing and IUI itself. You can ask the pharmacy to check on the medication coverage ahead of time, so you'll know.


I'm not sure where we're going with TTC right now. We did an IUI with follistim a few months ago, and that didn't work. It costs us about $700/round, and we really can't afford that right now. My son just got diagnosed with diabetes last month, so between all the expenses for him, and the time for his appointments, we're up in the air about what to do. Do we want to spend the money on the IUI, or save it in case something else happens with him? Do I want to be pregnant with a newly diagnosed diabetic toddler? Right now, we're in the wait and see mode - if it happens, OK, if not, OK. I think not really doing anything is keeping us from having to decide one way or another what we really want to do.

I'm rambling. I'll stop now

 

[si-am]

Hi everyone! I've been lurking for ages, but haven't had time to catch up on everything around this thread again.

Skuttle - that's awesome that you finally have some answers and potentially a direction to go in now. It's always better to have an answer rather than to keep thinking "what if's" in your head.

Aurora - My insurance doesn't cover IUI either. However, it did cover the meds, bloodwork, and ultrasounds. Just not the sperm washing and IUI itself. You can ask the pharmacy to check on the medication coverage ahead of time, so you'll know.


I'm not sure where we're going with TTC right now. We did an IUI with follistim a few months ago, and that didn't work. It costs us about $700/round, and we really can't afford that right now. My son just got diagnosed with diabetes last month, so between all the expenses for him, and the time for his appointments, we're up in the air about what to do. Do we want to spend the money on the IUI, or save it in case something else happens with him? Do I want to be pregnant with a newly diagnosed diabetic toddler? Right now, we're in the wait and see mode - if it happens, OK, if not, OK. I think not really doing anything is keeping us from having to decide one way or another what we really want to do.

I'm rambling. I'll stop now

I'm sorry about your son.

I have mixed feelings on IUI. My insurance won't pay for it either, and all the statistics I've read show less than a 50% chance of it actually working. It's like gambling to me. Spending a lot of money for something that, if it works will be wonderful, but the odds tend to indicate just losing the money in the end.

It's times like these I really resent that octuplet lady who seemed to so easily afford IVF... more than once!

 

[D&DDisney]

It's times like these I really resent that octuplet lady who seemed to so easily afford IVF... more than once!

Don't even get me started on Octo-lady.

Is there anything more unfair on this planet???


Hi Cloe! Fingers crossed for you this month.

 

[momsully]

Hi everyone - I have been reading but not alot of time for posting. We are still just in wait and see mode. I have been using the Clear Blue Easy fertility monitor for the past two months and while I think it is accurate for when I ovulate I just have OLD eggs.

Skuttle - I am glad you and DH finally have some answers. Hopefully now you can begin to move forward. Glad to hear your grandpa is doing well.

Aurora - Sorry about the BFN.

Jen - Hopefully things are going okay with your son. My oldests friend was diagnosed in Kindergarten and he is doing great. The only issue is many of his snacks that he needs to carry have peanut butter in them (protein) and we are a peanut free school so...

D&D - I agree with the comments on octo mom but I blame the doctor as well. Also, where the heck did she get the money for all these IVF's???

We are headed to Boston tomorrow to see my family for the long weekend. I have not been home in awhile so we the kids are excited. I will try to get on more often and see how everything is going.

 

[WDWAurora]

Well, we've figured out we're going ahead with IUI, but not until next month, all that definitely. I've left a message with the nurses to see if I should be on BCPs for the month or something to make sure I have another cycle in the near future. It will actually cost us more, I think, because apparently my insurance literally covers nothing. I'm estimating around 1500, which is crazy, but if it works, will be completely worth it. I really think it may address one of our problems. I get stressed when we're under pressure, and I think I close myself off to the chance. With the IUI, my body won't have an option. If it doesn't work (maybe give that 2 tries) I guess we'll start really saving for IVF, which would likely be a couple years in the future, or adoption (again a few years on) because we would definitely need to save. DH is not all that interested in adoption, although I think his mind will change if we continue to have trouble. I can't believe how easily he decided to use our tax refund on IUI (or part of IUI). I know he wanted to put extra toward paying off one of our cars, but he's really started finding this to be important lately.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi everyone.

momscully - I have the same issue. I know exactly when I ovulate, but what good does it do me with my old eggs. I had no idea before I started all this, that my eggs were such troublemakers. I still feel perfectly young.

aurora - I know what you mean about being unable to relax. There's so much pressure to make each month THE month. I do have well meaning friends that tell me if I were to relax, it would just happen.

I'm seriously considering accupunture. Anyone here try that?

Thank you for the good wishes D&D.

I am sending you all good thoughts for some BFPs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[TandT]

Hi everyone.

momscully - I have the same issue. I know exactly when I ovulate, but what good does it do me with my old eggs. I had no idea before I started all this, that my eggs were such troublemakers. I still feel perfectly young.

aurora - I know what you mean about being unable to relax. There's so much pressure to make each month THE month. I do have well meaning friends that tell me if I were to relax, it would just happen.

I'm seriously considering accupunture. Anyone here try that?

Thank you for the good wishes D&D.

I am sending you all good thoughts for some BFPs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What are "old" eggs??

 

[D&DDisney]

Well, we've figured out we're going ahead with IUI, but not until next month, all that definitely. I've left a message with the nurses to see if I should be on BCPs for the month or something to make sure I have another cycle in the near future. It will actually cost us more, I think, because apparently my insurance literally covers nothing. I'm estimating around 1500, which is crazy, but if it works, will be completely worth it. I really think it may address one of our problems. I get stressed when we're under pressure, and I think I close myself off to the chance. With the IUI, my body won't have an option. If it doesn't work (maybe give that 2 tries) I guess we'll start really saving for IVF, which would likely be a couple years in the future, or adoption (again a few years on) because we would definitely need to save. DH is not all that interested in adoption, although I think his mind will change if we continue to have trouble. I can't believe how easily he decided to use our tax refund on IUI (or part of IUI). I know he wanted to put extra toward paying off one of our cars, but he's really started finding this to be important lately.

Our insurance covered NOTHING as well. However, I strongly recommend doing 3 tries of IUI. The 3rd was lucky for us. We were once in your shoes - debating paying for IUI, IVF or adoption. Hardest decision we ever had to make. Hang in there and stay open to ALL options.

What are "old" eggs??

Old eggs are when your eggs just don't have the same chemical make up of younger eggs. Older eggs also contain less of many important biochemical elements, such as ATP, than younger eggs. After 35, this can affect many women. I think I am one of them also - however I have never been tested. A friend of mine did have her eggs tested and they were found to be "old" and thus she wasn't getting pregnant.

 

[DMickey28]

Sorry Aurora.

Skuttle - I am glad that your DH is on board with the surgery. That's great!

I am CD 4 now and trying to figure out what to do differently this month. I think we might BD only every other day or even wait three days before O. Just BD the day I get a +OPK since I tend to O very soon after. I am taking all the vitamins I can handle, have NPC for the TWW and ordered Pre-Seed just incase we need a more hospitable enviroment. I don't know what else to do. Stupidly I took BCP's after DS was born until the Fall thinking maybe this time it would happen faster and I didn't want to get surprised. Um, no.

Then I get worried about getting PG with the economy and country the way it is. DH is starting to feel it at work and is looking for a new job. I am afraid that thing are really going to crumble and the whole world is going to fall apart. I just need someone to tell me it will be ok!!

 

[skuttle]

Courtney, I'm sorry about the BFN and your insurance company. Insurance sucks! I'm sure this month will fly by and you'll be doing IUI before you know it!

DMickey....remember that there's never a "perfect" time to have a baby. There are always reasons not to have a baby. My DS was a surprise. I found out I was pregnant during my last semester of law school. That was in 2003 and DH wasn't scheduled to graduate from college (he got a late start) until the fall of 2005. I went on job interviews while pregnant, but of course no one wanted to hire the pregnant girl that would need to take maternity leave right when she was supposed to start working. DS was due the week after I was supposed to take the bar exam, but he ended up coming four weeks early so I couldn't even take the bar exam. I had to wait 7 months to take it (offered twice a year). Things some how managed to work out, like they always do. Sure, we had rough times and for a few months relied on my dad's help a lot, but it all worked itself out. If we had waited until we were ready to have DS, I'm not sure when that would have been. I still wonder sometimes if we can afford another child, but I know how very much I want another and I know that we'll figure it out just like last time. So, I will tell you: IT WILL BE OKAY!!

Jen, I saw your thread about your DS. What a lot to take in! I hope he (and you) are doing well with the new diagnosis.

momsully...Glad to hear from you! Ugh, I hate the "wait and see" stage. We were in that stage for months and it really brought me down!

Not much new here. DH called his Dr to get his results sent over to my Dr. Hopefully next week I'll be able to find out if my Dr. is willing to try Clomid/IUI before DH has surgery. I'd really like to at least try the Clomid before DH does surgery. DH wouldn't be able to do the surgery until spring break anyways (he's a music teacher so on his feet all day).

My grandpa was supposed to go home on Tuesday, which was the last day of his chemo. He had no side-effects from the chemo until Tuesday. Seems like Tuesday it all caught up with him. He's had a rough few days. He seems to be doing better, though, and his drs all think that his problems the past few days are all related to the chemo. So hopefully he'll start feeling better soon. Thanks for all of the prayers and well wishes.