New TTC Thread

[esbrick]

DH just told me last night that we aren't switching insurance after all, we had BC/BS and we will still have BC/BS. I'm not sure if that is good or not, our local hospital stopped taking BC/BS a year or two ago so a lot of doctors around have also stopped taking it.

That is so strange about BC/BS since I always thought it was one of the most accepted forms of insurance. There should be a website that you can go on that will tell you which drs in your area accept and are under their plans. You also want to double check whether they are HMO/PPO or both drs. It just makes a difference in how they charge you as you know I'm sure!

Scary that half of our battles are with insurance. Shouldn't be that way. I still say if Infirtility was more MALE based (nothing against men and not man bashing!) that it would be much more accepted and coverage would be better!

 

[cherbear]

everything's okay over here. Mississippi got hit so bad though, so sad.

The hail was pretty darn loud yesterday and I did worry for a bit that we'd get a tornado, but I'm thankful that we didn't.

5 days til testing!

 

[Kronk's girl]

Okay I am back from vacation, finally! We are so happy to be home. We ended up getting stuck an extra week because of the ash cloud, it was stressful and I am sure that neither of our employers were too thrilled that we were gone for almost a month...but there was nothing we could do!

And so I am finally all caught up- so CONGRATS to Carla!!!!! Wahoo!!!! I am so happy to return and see success on here!

I am crossing my fingers for everyone else still and sending hugs to all of us that are still struggling or have decided to take a break.

I am currently in the TWW, I am hoping we brought home an extra souvenir- how wonderful would that be?!?!

Oh yeah- welcome to the new comers too! I'll am crossing my fingers for everyone!

 

[esbrick]

Okay I am back from vacation, finally! We are so happy to be home. We ended up getting stuck an extra week because of the ash cloud, it was stressful and I am sure that neither of our employers were too thrilled that we were gone for almost a month...but there was nothing we could do!

And so I am finally all caught up- so CONGRATS to Carla!!!!! Wahoo!!!! I am so happy to return and see success on here!

I am crossing my fingers for everyone else still and sending hugs to all of us that are still struggling or have decided to take a break.

I am currently in the TWW, I am hoping we brought home an extra souvenir- how wonderful would that be?!?!

Oh yeah- welcome to the new comers too! I'll am crossing my fingers for everyone!

Hey there! I was just thinking about you the other day wondering if the "ash" storm delayed you Glad your back and hope you came home with that extra souvie too!

Take care!
E

 

[RachaelRol]

Hi girls! Finally all done with my son's communion and party! It was a great time even though 19 people didn't show up and I paid per person... So freaking rude!

E- I am dying, well DH is dying for me to go Brazilian. Glad to here it didn't hurt too badly. I may do it for Fathers Day... Very excited for your IVF plan, prayers and good thoughts your way.

Gabbie- you sneak! Having us think your name was Anna.. That was awesome and great news about your travel plans and health insurance.

Cheri- girl keeping everything crossed for you! A few more days and you can test.

Nothing obviously going on here with the ttc, still getting used to the idea of no more children. Every day is a little better.

 

[D&DDisney]

Hi girls! Finally all done with my son's communion and party! It was a great time even though 19 people didn't show up and I paid per person... So freaking rude!

E- I am dying, well DH is dying for me to go Brazilian. Glad to here it didn't hurt too badly. I may do it for Fathers Day... Very excited for your IVF plan, prayers and good thoughts your way.

Gabbie- you sneak! Having us think your name was Anna.. That was awesome and great news about your travel plans and health insurance.

Cheri- girl keeping everything crossed for you! A few more days and you can test.

Nothing obviously going on here with the ttc, still getting used to the idea of no more children. Every day is a little better.

My son made his first communion today too. And to top it off, its his b-day!! We had a small party at the house with family.
Can't believe its been 8 years since I was pregnant. Was hoping there would be another and that I'd have good news for this weekend - but alas....NO!! This really is the end isn't it? God, this so stinks!!!!

 

[RachaelRol]

My son made his first communion today too. And to top it off, its his b-day!! We had a small party at the house with family.
Can't believe its been 8 years since I was pregnant. Was hoping there would be another and that I'd have good news for this weekend - but alas....NO!! This really is the end isn't it? God, this so stinks!!!!

Double congrats to your little one. It is such a great achievement for them.

It really does stink when we want it so badly. I have to have faith that there is a reason for this and one day I will know why.

Did you ever get a diagnosis for your IF if you don't mind my asking?

 

[skuttle]

My son made his first communion today too. And to top it off, its his b-day!! We had a small party at the house with family.
Can't believe its been 8 years since I was pregnant. Was hoping there would be another and that I'd have good news for this weekend - but alas....NO!! This really is the end isn't it? God, this so stinks!!!!

D&D . My DS will be 7 in July. The lack of a little brother or sister for him has been hitting me hard lately with that approaching. I told myself I'd call it quits for good (i.e. back on BCP) when he turns 10, and that feels so close.

To make matters worse, AF is late (Today's CD 34) and the later she is the closer I will be to possibly dealing with AF for our trip! I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant, so it just sucks!

May will make it exactly 4 years since we started TTC #2. *sigh*

 

[D&DDisney]

Double congrats to your little one. It is such a great achievement for them.

It really does stink when we want it so badly. I have to have faith that there is a reason for this and one day I will know why.

Did you ever get a diagnosis for your IF if you don't mind my asking?

Our IF has always been complications of my endo. But even when that was taken care of it was unexplained. Now my age is against me (40) and I haven't been back to get another diagnosis.

Skuttle - HUGS to you too. That AF can really mess with ya. Maybe it will be good news. (fingers crossed)

I am really envious of those of you who can still stay positive or those of you who can move on. I just can't. I think I can, but then I get so upset, angry, jealous, sad, etc. that it just consumes me. I've tried many a times to do this but just can't seem to get past it. I guess it will just haunt me forever cuz I can't let it go.

To top everything off, everyone around me (even women my age or 37+) seem to be pregnant right now. Thought I had moved to the point in my life where my friends and family were done having kids. But all of the sudden there seems to be a boom. While it gives me hope on one hand, on the other it feels like a slap in the face. Like "nah nah....everyone else can do this but you can't!!!" I'm just so crabby this month.

 

[skuttle]

Oh, D&D, I know what you mean! I keep telling myself I'm on the way to being "over it" or that I will really stop TTC in a couple of years. But every time I see a pregnant person (three new ones recently popped up at work) I realize that I've just been lying to myself. It still hurts, and it still hurts bad. Like you, I"m not sure I'll ever get over it. I know there will come a point when I have to stop trying for various reasons, but that doesn't mean I'll ever get over it. And that scares me.

 

[D&DDisney]

Oh, D&D, I know what you mean! I keep telling myself I'm on the way to being "over it" or that I will really stop TTC in a couple of years. But every time I see a pregnant person (three new ones recently popped up at work) I realize that I've just been lying to myself. It still hurts, and it still hurts bad. Like you, I"m not sure I'll ever get over it. I know there will come a point when I have to stop trying for various reasons, but that doesn't mean I'll ever get over it. And that scares me.

It is scary.

 

[Kennywife]

Hi girls! Finally all done with my son's communion and party! It was a great time even though 19 people didn't show up and I paid per person... So freaking rude!

E- I am dying, well DH is dying for me to go Brazilian. Glad to here it didn't hurt too badly. I may do it for Fathers Day... Very excited for your IVF plan, prayers and good thoughts your way.

Gabbie- you sneak! Having us think your name was Anna.. That was awesome and great news about your travel plans and health insurance.

Cheri- girl keeping everything crossed for you! A few more days and you can test.

Nothing obviously going on here with the ttc, still getting used to the idea of no more children. Every day is a little better.

Well, my name IS Anna....first name anyway. Anna's my writing name since no one seems to be able to pronouce my middle name, Gabrielle. (Gabbie for short)

Hugs to all.

Gabbie

 

[Kennywife]

Oh, anybody here facebook?

I have my own page of which I'll be uploading tr's to soon in advance of my work trip.

Here it is:

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/anna.gibsonfarringer

I check daily and be sure to tell me you're from disboards ttc.

TY,

Gabbie

 

[Kronk's girl]

Hi girls! Finally all done with my son's communion and party! It was a great time even though 19 people didn't show up and I paid per person... So freaking rude!

Yikes! I hate how people are so flaky about RSVPing. But congrats to you and D&DDisney on the communions.

I know it's hard to stay positive ladies, but we have to try or this will drag us down for good! I have to frequently remind myself, that we will be okay if we don't ever have a child. Sometimes I have a hard time remembering that (and my husband has to remind me), but then I play with our dog, or plan a vacation or make a delicious dinner and remind myself that we will be okay, and there will be other things that can still make me happy. But it will probably always be hard, and I will probably always have little grumpy days.

Just curious- have any of you discussed how long you are willing to keep trying until you decide to adopt, or is adoption not on the table for some of you? I think about that a lot because I know adoption can be a lengthy process...and expensive, so we'd probably need a long time to save up as well. I am going to try not to start worrying about that until maybe next year though.

 

[Kennywife]

We've tried off and on for about 6 months. We will try until the end of next year possibly or maybe into the following year unless the dx tells us early on it's a no go. We're realistic and know it will take some time. If it doesn't happen by next year though, we are going to start looking into adoption possibilities. Whether we decide to go through with it or not is another issue. ($$$)

Gabbie

 

[esbrick]

I haven't been able to wrap my head around the alternatives yet. As of now I'm really nervous with the anticipation of what is to come. As I've said before Infertility does teach you patience. I will be better tomorrow but when it comes down to it, we can also find out within a month if this is even possible at all! Just a little overwhelmed but I may as well get it overwith now!

 

[cherbear]

hmmm I thought I posted earlier. My DH is totally not open to adoption at this point. He wants to see me carry a baby (and of course I desire to carry a child too!)

Obviously finances would play a part too

 

[cherbear]

oh and congrats on the first communions! My cousin/bff's son made his first reconciliation a few weeks ago, and I went. He was so handsome all dressed up, and he was really proud of himself for doing confession and lighting his candle, etc.

 

[skuttle]

Since we already have our DS (our little miracle it appears!), we have decided we probably won't try adoption. I won't say never, but for now that's where things stand, and we've been TTC #2 for 4 years. I'm so afraid that I won't love an adopted child the same as I love DS. I know that's probably a silly fear, but I have it and can't really shake it. I think if we had no children, we'd be more open to other alternatives. But since we were lucky enough to have DS, we've decided to just be happy with what we have. I would feel guilty spending all of the money for adoption, knowing I could be putting that money aside for DS, or other family expenses.

 

[Kronk's girl]

Yeah, I understand adoption isn't for everyone, and it's a shame that it is so expensive!! We are both open to it, if we could afford it, but I think we'll want to keep trying for maybe two more years...and then we'd probably need time to wrap our heads around the concept and save up the money.

Crossing my fingers that the ball keeps rolling in here and we have another pregnancy this month!