I do have resale in mind but do not expect to downsize for at least 10 years. Now I am starting to think I am doing this too early. Years from now when I want to sell I am afraid I will hear that the kitchen needs to be updated, appliances are old. Is there such a thing as a timeless kitchen? This kitchen is in bad shape. Only appliances that are fully operational and in decent shape are the frig and oven! Formica is chipped, cabinets are horrible. Went to grab a plate recently and the door fell off! I need to do something but am way too frugal to spend huge amounts!
What you could do is cabinets now and countertops later. We went pretty neutral as far as cabinets so it would go with more tastes. The other thing that can be a budget breaker/cost savings are fixtures (cabinet knobs/drawer pulls/lights). I was amazed at the cost spread of cabinet pulls. The kitchen we put in 8 years ago is still very much "in style" today so to speak. I probably wouldn't spend a ton on appliances now and would think about purchasing better appliances before resale in 10 years. It's up to you though. If you have the money, go for it. I haven't regretted my kitchen upgrade at all and I'm glad my DH talked me into the Silestone and cabinets that he did.