New Form of Panhandling

I saw a car with “buy us a snack at Disney world” with venmo info on a car on 95 on our road trip to Disney last year. I couldn’t believe the audacity but my teen said people do that and that people actually send them money. So I guess it’s a generational thing, my older kids saw nothing wrong with it but DH and I were aghast.
 
I'd rather this than the folks on the street at the off ramps asking for money. I've seen them mostly when traveling. I don't really consider donating. I do see it adds to the fun of their trip. I do wonder if it's effective.
 
I’ve only seen the buy me a drink one, doesn’t bother me because it’s usually a 21st birthday or bachelorette party, which are very silly nights as it is. My surprise bridal shower was the day after my bachelorette party, the last time I had been that hungover was the day after my 21st birthday, too many shots from strangers both of those nights. For a family vacation, that’s just weird.
 
I've always wanted to send a request, just to see what would happen.
 

For my bachelorette party my sister had a shirt made for me to wear that said "Buy me a shot, I'm tying the knot", I was embarrassed... I only received 2 shots, I am positive people saw it as cringe worthy. I had not seen it on cars till yesterday, it was "class of 2024 grads, help me celebrate" and it was a link to Cash app... I couldn't believe it.
 
I have never seen this. Usually we have in the county people standing near certain traffic lights approaching cars while stopped or in shopping centers and then in the city at different places near the sports stadiums and other attractions. We don’t give as you never know who is scamming and if the person is in on something and could become violent so we give to charities directly.
 
I must live in the back woods (probably with bears) but I've never seen any of this new panhandling.
 
Nope never seen such a request but we are not a car-centric community.
Our panhandlers take public transport …
 
If I wanted to give some extra $$ to some random person, it wouldn't be to supplement their vacation. It would go to somebody legitimately in need.

That sort of practice is super tacky and in poor taste. It's about as bad as when people get married and they ask for people to basically give them money for their honeymoon in lieu of wedding gifts.
 
It's about as bad as when people get married and they ask for people to basically give them money for their honeymoon in lieu of wedding gifts.
I'm not sure what that's as bad, unless you also consider gift registries "bad". What's the difference between saying "I want this blender" vs "Donate your gift amount to our honeymoon account"?
 
If people want to donate to that crap, it's their money to waste. It's like GoFundMe pages - I'd never donate to someone's possible scam, but some people do and it's no skin off my back.
 
It happens around here during graduation season. I saw one last week in the Walmart parking lot. Makes me shake my head and wonder what makes people think strangers should give them money because they put their Venmo on the back of their expensive SUV.
 
It's a younger generation thing. I wouldn't do it but my youngest sister-in-law was on a bachelorette trip recently and they did one that said "buy the bride a drink." I personally don't like it but I think they get some fun out of it even if they get no donations. It's like a form social media coming out into the real world mostly
 
I have never seen this. Usually we have in the county people standing near certain traffic lights approaching cars while stopped or in shopping centers and then in the city at different places near the sports stadiums and other attractions. We don’t give as you never know who is scamming and if the person is in on something and could become violent so we give to charities directly.
Around here since the pandemic the folks standing near intersections with signs have become employees. I friend of mine who works in a building near a major intersection timed them for grins using a wildlife camera and discovered they were working timed uniform shifts with a meal break; there was a van dropping them off and picking them up. It's always kind of funny to hear people yell "get a job!" at these folks -- they have a job, and you're watching them do it. They normally won't accept anything but cash because their employer demands that they bring back cash, but sometimes will take a free lunch, because then they don't have to buy their own.

You can always tell when it's a business because the signs all have the same story, up to and including any spelling errors or odd spacing. The signs are provided by the company, and the "beggars" shifts require them to stand in a profitable spot, hold the sign, collect money, and at the end of the day bring the money back to an employer, who then pays them an hourly rate for their shift. In some cases these rings are a family business (often there will be children present when it is), and in others, organizers hire unemployed singles and move them around the country, providing transport and a basic sleeping situation for a price as part of the work crew setup.
 
I haven't yet figured out why people would hand money to random people on the street, when half a block away is a business with a "hiring" sign. I guess 90% of those people holding signs are not actually destitute but find it's more lucrative and/or a better use of their time than being gainfully employed. I feel no need to contribute to people who choose not to contribute to society.
 
Around here since the pandemic the folks standing near intersections with signs have become employees. I friend of mine who works in a building near a major intersection timed them for grins using a wildlife camera and discovered they were working timed uniform shifts with a meal break; there was a van dropping them off and picking them up. It's always kind of funny to hear people yell "get a job!" at these folks -- they have a job, and you're watching them do it. They normally won't accept anything but cash because their employer demands that they bring back cash, but sometimes will take a free lunch, because then they don't have to buy their own.

You can always tell when it's a business because the signs all have the same story, up to and including any spelling errors or odd spacing. The signs are provided by the company, and the "beggars" shifts require them to stand in a profitable spot, hold the sign, collect money, and at the end of the day bring the money back to an employer, who then pays them an hourly rate for their shift. In some cases these rings are a family business (often there will be children present when it is), and in others, organizers hire unemployed singles and move them around the country, providing transport and a basic sleeping situation for a price as part of the work crew setup.
They’re not at intersections but parking lots, and some pretend to play instruments. They get dropped off and picked up.
 
If people want to donate to that crap, it's their money to waste. It's like GoFundMe pages - I'd never donate to someone's possible scam, but some people do and it's no skin off my back.
I’ve donated to several go fund me pages, but I knew 100% they were legit (a local man I’ve known forever had a son in a horrific accident, a girl who graduated high school with my daughter had an aggressive cancer, she didn’t survive, I also donate to fundraisers in her name raising money for scholarships). Everyone knows everyone here.
 
If I wanted to give some extra $$ to some random person, it wouldn't be to supplement their vacation. It would go to somebody legitimately in need.

That sort of practice is super tacky and in poor taste. It's about as bad as when people get married and they ask for people to basically give them money for their honeymoon in lieu of wedding gifts.

I'm not sure what that's as bad, unless you also consider gift registries "bad". What's the difference between saying "I want this blender" vs "Donate your gift amount to our honeymoon account"?

i've no problem with people asking for cash vs. a physical gift up front but what took us by surprise was attending weddings where the bridal shower had long passed, wedding gifts had been sent (or were brought to the event) to encounter at the entrance, with the guest book, a manned table with as many as two tabletop displays soliciting cash donations-

one had photos of the high end honeymoon destination with signage that read 'help us pay for our honeymoon'. there was a list of activities and pre fixe menus guest could choose to 'sponsor'. the same wedding had a second display on the table with stock photos of an apartment, largely empty with a few boxes and a couple of very obviously broken down items of furniture. that display's signage read 'help us furnish our apartment' with a generic list of furniture, decor and what i assume were the higher end appliances that had not been purchased on the gift registry. 2 members of the wedding party manned the table activly encouraging guests to parpaticipate :(
 



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