Oh my goodness...you folks are amazing! I feel like I landed in the right place here on this Disneyland forum.
Okay, here's my info...I have 2 full days, Monday, Nov. 22nd & Tuesday, Nov. 23rd. My kids are 16 (boy), 12 (boy) & 8 (girl). I know we'd all like to try the rides and attractions that are specific to Disneyland (Matterhorn, etc.).
When i plan our WDW trips, I adjust our plans so that we can get on the slower loading rides early and the fast loaders later in the day. But I don't know how these rides load...
Also, we are interested to see rides/attractions that exist in different parks in Orlando, all in the same park in California. Or mostly, I know there is a California Adventure park, but I don't know what's there or how to navigate that either.
Okay, so for 11/22 and 11/23, you will definitely be there right smack dab in the holiday season. That will affect crowds somewhat, especially since folks have been reporting that the days leading up to Thanksgiving were quite busy.
Also take into account that there will be holiday-specific things you may want to do as well, in addition to the rides that are specific to Disneyland.
For example, do you think any of the kids will want to visit Santa? He will be situated in at least 4 places around DLR (in all 3 DLR hotels and in DL), and possibly in California Adventure too.
Santa's Reindeer Round-Up in DL is an interesting thing to see. Not only is Santa there but also real "reindeer." (Holiday cookie decorating relocated to Plaza last year!)
Don't miss It's a Small World Holiday (a holiday overlay of the regular IASW) - especially at night, as the lights are exceptionally beautiful.
There will be "snow" on Main Street every night, and a little light display that extends from the Winter Castle (also breathtaking at night) all the way to the Main Street tree. Don't miss that!
Haunted Mansion Holiday (with a Nightmare Before Christmas motif) is another ride overlay and is exclusive to DLR.
There is also a holiday tour, which gets you priority seating on both IASW Holiday and Haunted Mansion Holiday, as well as reserved seats for the holiday parade, a gingerbread cookie with red mouse ears, hot cocoa, a collectible pin, etc.
Someone else will help you with the slow loaders/fast loaders issue, but in California Adventure you have Toy Story (no Fast Pass), Soarin' Over California, Monsters, Inc. (exclusive), California Screaming (exclusive), A Bug's Land (with its own unique holiday decorations), Tower of Terror, Grizzly River Run, Redwood Creek Challenge Trail, the Animation Building, Aladdin (a great musical - very entertaining, with current, topical humor from the Genie), and.....World of Color (exclusive, though we don't know yet what WoC's schedule will be for the holiday season))!!! There are other things too, but those are some highlights.
When you have time, make sure to check out that Disney at Christmas super thread I posted the link to above!