Nelson and Jenn's wonderful journey...

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Hugs for you, Jenn

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

Thanks again to everyone! You are all so wonderfully supportive!

Jenn, I am sorry things didn't go as planned. Might as well try it the old fashioned way this month and get back on the assisted track next month.

Well... we didn't do that... AT ALL....

There is this medication that I can take days 18 through 28 of my cycle that will force my next cycle to begin. Before I can take this drug, I have to be sure that I am NOT pregnant. Needless to say, it was a celibate house since we came home from vacation. We made that decision because we knew that if we tried on our own there was a. very little chance of us being successful (as fun as it would be to be unsuccessful) and b. it would push out the date that we could start another assisted cycle because we would have to wait to find out if we were pregnant than take the medication to bring on the next cycle... We just didn't want to wait...

So... last Friday was Day 1, I went in for my baseline T/V U/S on Saturday morning and began my Clomid (150 mg.) last night. I will take the Clomid for 5 nights and am scheduled for my next T/V U/S on 8/18 at 7:30 a.m. I am becoming a pro!

Anyway, We are really, more than ever before, hoping for a successful cycle this month. If only for completely superficial reasons... The baby needs to be 12 weeks old to cruise the 14 night TA next September. I really don't want to have to cancel this cruise but certainly will if I need to... Also, if I become pregnant, we could be looking at a late May, early June baby.... that would be wonderful!

So we begin again...

 

[rpmdfw]

Crossing fingers, toes, and eyes for luck!

Also sending you happy thoughts and pixie dust to you!

 

[wallyb]

wishing and hoping and praying

 

[LuvMy3Monkeys]

In need of guidance...

So most of you know the deal with my fertility problems....

We went to a specialist today (10 vials of blood later... ) and they are going to do some more IUI but way more technical than just the first three rounds of Clomid for 5 days, IUI on days 14 and 16 of cycle... I have to take a bunch of hormones, go for bloodwork, more hormones, bloodwork and baseline ultrasound, more bloodwork, injectable hormones, another ultrasound, then the IUI, then bloodwork, bloodwork, bloodwork, (hopefully a pregnancy at this point)...

Where my issue lies is that we had said that we would do the IUI's but not go as far as IVF. First of all, a round of IVF can cost around $10,000 and we don't have that and second, I cannot see going to such lengths to create a child when there are so many children who need loving parents (that is not to say ANYTHING negative about those who choose IVF)...

So that was that. After the IUI's (if it doesnt work) we were going to start adoption process....

My issue is this, I found out my insurance will cover the IVF. Which is great, I am really happy (and know how insanely lucky I am) to have such coverage. But now, knowing that we will only have to put out about $500 in copays... It makes the decision harder.... I am wavering on my No IVF stance....

Then the guilt kicks in... there are so many children who NEED homes, I dont NEED a biological child....

It gets worse, then I start the whole "But what if there is a reason I dont know of why I have not become pregnant? Is there a higher power that thinks Nelson and I would not be good parents, are we really not ready. I really do like our get up and go lifestyle, am I truly ready to give that up, will I even be a good mother, what if I mess this child up royally?..."

It gets bad, my brain wont stop....

So, I dont know what to do... I have talked to Nelson about this and he knows we will be good parents (glad he knows) and that, yes, there will be a ton of changes but all for the good....

I guess I dont really know what my problem is, maybe I just need to be talked off the bridge...

Thanks for "listening". You all ROCK!

I didn't read the responses, but this post caught my eye. First of all...

Let me tell you that I have witnessed so many "parents" who have popped out 4 or 5 kids that in no way deserve these children. I don't know what higher power is keeping an eye on them, but it's possible said power may have been sleeping when these people procreated. It's really sad.

Being fertile or infertile doesn't have anything to do with it. The fact that you are trying this hard to have a child and that you are really thinking about the effects it is/will have on your relationship shows you will be a caring and responsible parent. Just because a girl can go lay down with someone and get knocked up on the first time does not in any way mean she should be a parent. I don't think that it should at ALL deter you from going further just because you haven't been able to conceive on your own. Just because you need a little extra help doesn't make you any less deserving or prepared for a child. I am adopted and one thing I know now (that I didn't see growing up) was that because I was so wanted and waited for that my parents really always went that extra mile to make things special for me and do right by me. Anyone can get pregnant unexpectedly and then it's a problem they have to "deal with" and what kind of life does that child have? Your child is going to be so wanted and loved and waited for that he/she/they will be spoiled to the moon and back!

Good luck

 

[NHdisneylover]

Thanks again to everyone! You are all so wonderfully supportive!




Well... we didn't do that... AT ALL....

There is this medication that I can take days 18 through 28 of my cycle that will force my next cycle to begin. Before I can take this drug, I have to be sure that I am NOT pregnant. Needless to say, it was a celibate house since we came home from vacation. We made that decision because we knew that if we tried on our own there was a. very little chance of us being successful (as fun as it would be to be unsuccessful) and b. it would push out the date that we could start another assisted cycle because we would have to wait to find out if we were pregnant than take the medication to bring on the next cycle... We just didn't want to wait...

So... last Friday was Day 1, I went in for my baseline T/V U/S on Saturday morning and began my Clomid (150 mg.) last night. I will take the Clomid for 5 nights and am scheduled for my next T/V U/S on 8/18 at 7:30 a.m. I am becoming a pro!

Anyway, We are really, more than ever before, hoping for a successful cycle this month. If only for completely superficial reasons... The baby needs to be 12 weeks old to cruise the 14 night TA next September. I really don't want to have to cancel this cruise but certainly will if I need to... Also, if I become pregnant, we could be looking at a late May, early June baby.... that would be wonderful!

So we begin again...

I didn't know you were cruising with us--I admit I have not been on the meet thread in about 8 months (Todd kinda scares me). Oh I am crossing my fingers even tighter because this month has to work I want to meet you and Nelson and a new sweet baby on the TA BTW--we did the first TA (May 2007) and it was the best vacation of my life. Several of us from that trip booked September 2010 the moment it became available. I made some really good friends on that cruise--this will be the fourth cruise we all take together--we can add you to the list.

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

I didn't read the responses, but this post caught my eye. First of all...

Let me tell you that I have witnessed so many "parents" who have popped out 4 or 5 kids that in no way deserve these children. I don't know what higher power is keeping an eye on them, but it's possible said power may have been sleeping when these people procreated. It's really sad.

Being fertile or infertile doesn't have anything to do with it. The fact that you are trying this hard to have a child and that you are really thinking about the effects it is/will have on your relationship shows you will be a caring and responsible parent. Just because a girl can go lay down with someone and get knocked up on the first time does not in any way mean she should be a parent. I don't think that it should at ALL deter you from going further just because you haven't been able to conceive on your own. Just because you need a little extra help doesn't make you any less deserving or prepared for a child. I am adopted and one thing I know now (that I didn't see growing up) was that because I was so wanted and waited for that my parents really always went that extra mile to make things special for me and do right by me. Anyone can get pregnant unexpectedly and then it's a problem they have to "deal with" and what kind of life does that child have? Your child is going to be so wanted and loved and waited for that he/she/they will be spoiled to the moon and back!

Good luck

Thank you so much!

It is amazing that while at the same time that I can be having what I know are crazily irrational thoughts, another part of me is trying to calm that part down. I KNOW I am being irrational, I just wish I could control it.

My child is going to be loved to the moon and back. My husband is the most patient, loving man (who handles my irrationality well).

We will most likely be starting the adoption process after this cycle should it not work out. We have some $$$ things we need to clear up first before we let an agency go digging... From what I hear, because we are not worried about the sex, nationality, or race of our potential child we will have a much shorter wait than say someone who goes in and says "I want a white baby girl".

Thanks for responding, it is always nice to know there are people out there who care enough...

I didn't know you were cruising with us--I admit I have not been on the meet thread in about 8 months (Todd kinda scares me). Oh I am crossing my fingers even tighter because this month has to work I want to meet you and Nelson and a new sweet baby on the TA BTW--we did the first TA (May 2007) and it was the best vacation of my life. Several of us from that trip booked September 2010 the moment it became available. I made some really good friends on that cruise--this will be the fourth cruise we all take together--we can add you to the list.

Oh! I so hope we can go... I think it would be a perfect cruise for a baby because it will be so laid back... not jumping on and off the ship at an island a day... ya know?

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

I went for my T/V U/S this morning... (is there a yawning smiley, because this is getting tiring)...

I just spoke with the Nurse and my Estrogen and LH levels are fine. Not yet high enough to go scheduling any procedures, but fine.

I have two on my left (15 and 17.5 mm) and one on the right (10 mm).

I have to go back Friday morning for another T/V U/S and more bloodwork...

To be continued....

 

[wallyb]

I went for my T/V U/S this morning... (is there a yawning smiley, because this is getting tiring)...

your wish...

 

[MrsSpratt]

I just read the entire thread in one sitting - you are in my prayers, and I applaud your courage - YOU WILL BE AN AWESOME MOMMA!

Lighting a candle for you -

Mrs. Spratt

 

[Saxton]

Jenn - however your child comes into this world it will definitely be loved, adored and idolized! I'm still keeping good thoughts for you.

And remember to let us know when we can start working on names for you ... personally I like Sue, it works for a girl or a boy (well, according to the song).

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

crossing my fingers, eyes, and toes for you, Jenn.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

More good wishes for you.

 

[yasuern]

You and your DH WILL become parents and be great parents at that!

Doesn't matter is "HOW" your child comes to you - all that matters is that the child will be so BLESSED to have you two as parents

I'll be keeping you in mt prayers



Sue

 

[MrsSpratt]

Wishin'
and Hopin'
and thinkin'
and prayin'

Eggies gettin' bigger,
'mone levels not wainin'

Wishin'
and Hopin'
and thinkin'
and prayin'

for you!

 

[rosiep]

Wishin'
and Hopin'
and thinkin'
and prayin'

Eggies gettin' bigger,
'mone levels not wainin'

Wishin'
and Hopin'
and thinkin'
and prayin'

for you!

You gotta)
Show him that you care just for him
Do the things he likes to do
Wear your hair just for him, 'cause
You won't get him
Thinkin' and a-prayin'
Wishin' and a-hopin'

(she started it......)

Jenn: We're all here for you..

 

[MrsSpratt]

You gotta)
Show him that you care just for him
Do the things he likes to do
Wear your hair just for him, 'cause
You won't get him
Thinkin' and a-prayin'
Wishin' and a-hopin'

(she started it......)

Jenn: We're all here for you..

Show it that you care about it
Do the things docs tell you to
Take extra folic acid 'cause
you're gonna' get one
Thinkin' and a-prayin'
Wishin' and a-hopin'

There is a special little one at the end of this, waiting just for you!

I don't think I've ever prayed this much for someone I don't know!

 

[wallyb]

wishing and hoping and praying

Check it!
Post 504.

I'm just saying.

 

[rosiep]

Check it!
Post 504.

I'm just saying.

You left out "thinkin"

I'm just saying....

 

[wallyb]

You left out "thinkin"

I'm just saying....

I'm not thinkin cause I know it's going to happen
for her - I just know it!