Neighbor filled my trash can. Furious. Long vent.

Dont waste your energy being furious , because the crazy neighbor's insane reaction by blaming you is so out of control , that it is truly a hysterical thing . I prob would have laughed in their face as they threw their own garbage in their own yard . Crazy people !!
 
This definitely falls into the category of "crazy neighbor!" How frustrating! I agree with the other poster who mentioned that this will probably happen again. And you won't be able to control your neighbor's behavior. But you CAN change yours...for example, don't put out the trash bins until you know that you have nothing else to put in them.
 
WOW... we are talking CRAZY here... More than a little off kilter.
Anger won't help.
You have to be careful when dealing with people who are not sane and rational.
I, seriously, would have left that trash on her drive or front of her yard, and never went onto her property and rang her bell.

I feel so sorry that you have to deal with this!

Whenever possible, I would keep my trash cans up at my house until the last minute.

PS: The thing is, your trash, and your trash can, are YOUR PROPERTY. And, as such, in most areas, this person is guilty of trespass and invasion of privacy, etc.
People have no right to go thru your trash, or to even open your trash bin.
I would start documenting this kind of thing and if there is enough good evidence, consider contacting the authorities.

Good signs are actually cheap... and perhaps a nice No Trespassing sign to place out along with the trash bins would be an idea.
 
Hi OP. Does your neighbor not pay for trash service or was their can totally full and they were putting the overflow in yours? If you pay for trash service as part of the HOA fee, I can sort of see her point in that you all pay the same amount and it doesn't matter whose container it is put into. There is still no need for her to be rude about it, though! You caught her doing something wrong and called her out on it. Some people do not react well to that at all!
 

I would be furious! I don't think you are being whiny at all. You paid for the garbage can; it is yours to throw away your stuff, not hers. It amazes me how we have become an entitlement society.
 
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Wow. My neighbor watches people and never waves or anything...its weird and she was knocking on her window the other day when we were taking our dog out. As if to let us know to pick up our dog poop (which we always do)....that pissed me off and I'm thinking of bagging my dog poop from now on and leaving it on her door step.
 
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Tasks like that give a great sense of accomplishment and make me feel like I've got control and order in something in my life -- at least that's how those things play out in my jungle of thinking.

I feel the exact same way - I HATE cleaning the fridge, but the sense of peace I get out of it is 100% worth it. :)

And I agree with everyone else - your neighbor is crazy. I would be mad too.
 
Congrats you just met a grownup snowflake!!! It's all about her/him.

We pay a hefty town tax for trash/water I would be lived. Good for you!! We don't have that problem now but had a neighbor like when my regular neighbors rented for a year. Thankfully I have a 6' stockade fence, we just put barrel behind it.

I would def call.
 
Hi OP. Does your neighbor not pay for trash service or was their can totally full and they were putting the overflow in yours? If you pay for trash service as part of the HOA fee, I can sort of see her point in that you all pay the same amount and it doesn't matter whose container it is put into. There is still no need for her to be rude about it, though! You caught her doing something wrong and called her out on it. Some people do not react well to that at all!

I think I can point out the flaw in that line of thinking. All of us on here are in the same HOA, paying the same HOA fees. I don't really like the look of trash or cans in front of my home, so I decide I'll simply deposit my trash in Julylady's cans in front of Julylady's house. Bonus is I don't have to be bothered with retrieving my cans after pickup either. Win/win, no skin off anyone's nose.
 
Again, you can't reason with 'crazy'.
I hate that the OP is having to deal with this.
But, marching over to her house, putting trash (even THEIR trash) on their porch, and ringing the doorbell, I am afraid that this is getting too close to stooping to their level. I don't engage with crazy unless absolutely necessary.
 
Hi OP. Does your neighbor not pay for trash service or was their can totally full and they were putting the overflow in yours? If you pay for trash service as part of the HOA fee, I can sort of see her point in that you all pay the same amount and it doesn't matter whose container it is put into. There is still no need for her to be rude about it, though! You caught her doing something wrong and called her out on it. Some people do not react well to that at all!

If she wants to do that, she should ask permission.
 
Hi OP. Does your neighbor not pay for trash service or was their can totally full and they were putting the overflow in yours? If you pay for trash service as part of the HOA fee, I can sort of see her point in that you all pay the same amount and it doesn't matter whose container it is put into. There is still no need for her to be rude about it, though! You caught her doing something wrong and called her out on it. Some people do not react well to that at all!

No, no, no.... that line of thinking is seriously flawed. Nobody ever has a right to mess with anyone else's property or privacy.
Each person should have the right to the access and use of their own trash bin, without that being infringed upon by anyone else.

Even on a basic and simple level, no matter if it cost each resident the exact same, this is to entitle them to have XXX gallons or volume of trash per week. And, just like in the OP's case, this should not be infringed upon. That, actually, is 'theft'. If the neighbor needs more trash per week, they should arrange for this and PAY FOR IT.
 
Wow, just wow.

Some people have a lot of nerve, sense of entitlement and lack of respect for others. It is a shame you have to have people like that in the neighborhood.
 
All I can say is I applaud you for getting in front of the matter. Hopefully, now she will think twice before assuming that its ok to use your can for her trash. It would have taken all my strength not to claw her eyes out. Good Job!
 
I'm so glad you marched those bags over there and left them in her yard! The whole time I was reading it, I was hoping you weren't just going to let it go. I have a coworker that complains about her neighbor doing this and I've told her to do the same thing.
 
UPDATE:

The trash is out of her yard. I don't know what she did with it, but it is gone.

I did call and they said they received two other calls about the bags in the yard. I told my story and they didn't seem surprised. So, I imagine someone else told it to them too.

She seems so put together. Almost looks down her nose at everyone. Drives a real pricey car. All about looks. Her yard is usually perfect, so I was surprised she threw her trash like that. She just must think she deserves to do what ever she wants. Oh well. It's over for now. Thank you all again for allowing me to vent.
 
Hi OP. Does your neighbor not pay for trash service or was their can totally full and they were putting the overflow in yours? If you pay for trash service as part of the HOA fee, I can sort of see her point in that you all pay the same amount and it doesn't matter whose container it is put into. There is still no need for her to be rude about it, though! You caught her doing something wrong and called her out on it. Some people do not react well to that at all!

No No No. It would matter because like OP said she didn't have enough room to put her own trash in her own can. Are you the neighbor that lives across from OP?
 
Been there, done that. We pay for trash quarterly around here. They pick up on Wednesdays. I don't put my trash out till early Wed morning. Awhile back, I walked out to put another bag out, and found 2 white bags (we also use black), with our trash. I opened one and saw the name and address of a new guy across the street. I picked up the bags, and put them on his porch, figuring he would get the message. The next week, the same thing happened, only this time there are 3 bags, and 2 boxes of crap. I again put his stuff back on his porch. The third week it happened and I was ticked off. I printed out a letter, telling him that around here we pay for our trash pick up, and you aren't allowed to 'share' with neighbors. I left him the name and # of the trash co. and told him if I found his trash over here again, I would be taking it up with his landlord. I put all his trash right outside his back door, so he had to trip over it if he wanted to get by it, lol.

Forward to this past summer. I was out doing yard work, and this guy walks over and hands me a bucket filled with black walnuts. He said why are your walnuts across the street in our driveway. I said what do you expect me to do..direct where they fall and roll to?, I couldn't believe he was asking me such a stupid thing. He says well you did it with my trash. I said your trash was your trash, we pay for pick up. You can't help where leaves or walnuts fall off a tree. We are on the high side of the street, so of course they are going to roll across the street since it's pitched down? He walks away and says well don't let it happen again??? Some people are just plain looney!
 
Again, you can't reason with 'crazy'.
I hate that the OP is having to deal with this.
But, marching over to her house, putting trash (even THEIR trash) on their porch, and ringing the doorbell, I am afraid that this is getting too close to stooping to their level. I don't engage with crazy unless absolutely necessary.

You are right. I was very angry and acted out of anger. I don't know if I would have done it differently if I had to do it again, though. This woman seems like she needed a wake up call. I just feel a little embarrassed that I did stoop to her level.
 












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