Negativity - and it's effects

[Disney Dreams]

I believe that this board is here to share our enjoyment of VMK, help each other along the way, have a trade community, and a place to vent.

However, at what point is there SO much negativity that it just becomes too much?

- Double days are not fair!
- Masks for sale too long, what's the point?
- I didn't win an award, vmk messed up!
- something costs too much, they cant do that!
- my retired precious item just came back, how dare they?!?!

The list goes on and on. I think it is good to get frustrations out and I believe that this is an appropriate place to do so. I do so as well, so by no means am I say I am immune.

However, I just learned today that a long time member of this community has left because of the negativity overall, capped by something that this person was excited about being turned into complete negativity. This is truly sad. It also weakens the power of our DIS community when we lose a strong, active member.

I am aware of others who have left the DIS community for the same reason.

Please, try to consider the affect on others when you post. People have troubles in their lives. Some are dealing with health issues, family issues, work/school issues, death of loved ones, the list goes on. VMK (and these boards) serves as an escape from that. Excessive negativity here only adds to the bad side of life.

Yes, vent. Yes, share your frustrations. Yes, disagree. To the point of tearing someone else's excitement down? To the point of hurting another person? Where's the magic in that? Unless seeing members disappear is true magic.....

 

[Tampa]

I got questions:

I believe you're promoting censorship to a pretty extreme level?

Is this list of "unwanted" threads set in stone?

- Double days are not fair!
- Masks for sale too long, what's the point?
- I didn't win an award, vmk messed up!
- something costs too much, they cant do that!
- my retired precious item just came back, how dare they?!?!

Can I list mine?

 

[DemonLlama]

No, this is not censorship.

Censor: to examine in order to suppress or delete anything considered objectionable


Dreams just said she's not telling anyone not to share their thoughts. She even admitted to venting herself. How is this suppression?

She's trying to encourage the board to readjust some attitudes that aren't healthy for anyone. Whether or not you choose to heed that reminder or add to the negativity is entirely your right and choice.

 

[Tampa]

No, this is not censorship.

Censor: to examine in order to suppress or delete anything considered objectionable


Dreams just said she's not telling anyone not to share their thoughts. She even admitted to venting herself. How is this suppression?

She's trying to encourage the board to readjust some attitudes that aren't healthy for anyone. Whether or not you choose to heed that reminder or add to the negativity is entirely your right and choice.

You should be a speech writer!

Very nice reply, you are good with words.. and omg pink berets for boys?! That's it I'm making a thread!

 

[Maleficent2]

I do not know who left and what thread lead to them leaving but I do know, that most everyone on this board has from time to time vented about something, me included.

Somethings I do not even consider vents but just observations.

I also know that no matter what VMK does or does not do they will never be able to please 100% of the people 100% of the time but they should strive to meet that goal 100% all of the time.

to whoever felt they had to leave and I hope they took the time to PM LoriR about why they were leaving because I know they did not PM me.

We always hate to lose a member for what ever reason and if it is something we can try to change that would benefit the board we by all means will...that said we can not do anything about situations or feelings we know nothing about. We are always here for our members and hope that each and everyone of you know that and if you need to talk or just get something off your chest please feel free to PM us at any time.

The DIS is like a big family we have parents, who nurture and guide, we have children who act like children, we have adults who act like children, we get along and we have disagreements and differing opinions just as much as we support and nurture one another.

We also have members who sense of humour is completely different from ones own.

I think the point I am trying to make is this is a very diverse community probably the most diverse on all the DIS and it takes a special effort from everyone to make it a fun, exciting, rewarding awesome community that it is. That means when you have a problem or thoughts on anything we want to hear from you...we are open to everything(almost).

Also I hate to say this but any member can post a positive, happy, upbeat thread just as they can post a rant or a negative one.

All that said I am moving this to the community board because it has nothing to do with the game.-Mal

 

[Captain Brain]

We are family

With that oh-so true statement, I have to believe that the DIS is a family. We all have our ups and downs, much like ToT. We have the kids who are kids, the adults who are kids at heart. So basically, the DIS VMK board is a big kid family.


Like my mother said: When life gives you lemons, make grape juice, and then ask how you did it.

 

[shadow pirate]

I wouldn't call this negativity as much as whining about things that aren't even worth it.

- Double days are not fair.

Then don't participate in them.

- Masks for sale too long, what's the point?

The point is to allow multiple people to get these, at perhaps the sake of rarity (just wait a while, new people after these aren't for sale.)

- I didn't win an award, vmk messed up!

Either you lost or there's a glitch. Bring it up to staff with a good amount of details of what happened, chances are they'll figure it out.

- something costs too much, they cant do that!

Yes. Yes they can. It's their game. Try earning enough credits, you'll get it.

- my retired precious item just came back, how dare they?!?!

To allow others to get these things. The objects will be rare again for people who missed this.

I've said it before, I'll say it again:

Whine whine complain complain give me ______. Feel free to insert your own option.

 

[OwnattheBass]

I have a perfect solutoin to this "Negativity" "problem"... Now how this works is you have a (spring, co2, gun powder, rocket, pickelo pete, or other propellant ) propelled hand attatched to the side of the moniter that will fly out and slap you for every neggative thing typed

so you could say this is a neggative thing but i think it would work dont you??

and if all else fails we can all become hippies
Hippies for Life!!



P.S. this is all intended to be Pun aka I Dont Mean It!!!


and to all a good night

 

[cteddiesgirl]

I agree DD. I know who you're talking about. A very good friend to all of us. I can understand why she left.
Hopefully, it's only for a little while.

 

[Blumonkeyboy]

Can I list mine?

LOL THATS FUNNY!! Tampa, Honestly i love the Roseanne sence of humor! but as far as negativity goes oh well. I mean is natural just look at magnets! But still ppl have their own oppinions

 

[Maleficent2]

I now know what all this was about and I just feel that I need to address some issues.


Please report posts and or threads that you think are against board guidelines and the moderators can not be everywhere all the time, although some think we should be.

We need everyones help with this and would greatly appreciate it.

thank you.

 

[AllisonY2K]

oh I love it when certain items go back on sale.
1. because now I can get them!
2. because everyone who had them last year and wouldn't trade because the items to trade "weren't worth it" are now mad that their items are no longer a rare commodity.

 

[mickey@dvc]

Let me first start off by saying that this is in no way supposed to be harmful or disrespectful to the mods or any other member here -- and I'm sure someone will flame me out of the water for saying this.

I think some things are interpreted differently by different people, and it all depends on the person reading it. For instance, (AND AN EXAMPLE ONLY) if someone was to say on this board, jokingly, "Hitler Rocks!" and someone with a Jewish background reads it, they may be offended because they did not know or take it as a joke. I think that's the situation here.

To some people, when they report a post, it may seem offensive. When the moderators and webmasters come on, they may not think it's offensive so they leave it, or viceversa. A member may not think a post is offensive but the moderators and webmasters might, so the moderators and webmasters will remove it.

I know some members here (and no, I'm not just talking about one person) tend to enjoy and use sarcasm frequently. That ends up posing a problem -- because some people interpret things/sarcasm differently than others and some may not even realize they are being sarcastic.

Flame away...

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Let me first start off by saying that this is in no way supposed to be harmful or disrespectful to the mods or any other member here -- and I'm sure someone will flame me out of the water for saying this.

I think some things are interpreted differently by different people, and it all depends on the person reading it. For instance, (AND AN EXAMPLE ONLY) if someone was to say on this board, jokingly, "Hitler Rocks!" and someone with a Jewish background reads it, they may be offended because they did not know or take it as a joke. I think that's the situation here.

To some people, when they report a post, it may seem offensive. When the moderators and webmasters come on, they may not think it's offensive so they leave it, or viceversa. A member may not think a post is offensive but the moderators and webmasters might, so the moderators and webmasters will remove it.

I know some members here (and no, I'm not just talking about one person) tend to enjoy and use sarcasm frequently. That ends up posing a problem -- because some people interpret things/sarcasm differently than others and some may not even realize they are being sarcastic.

Flame away...

Well said (except the Hitler part as I would be offended by that joke).

There is also differences in sarcasm. It can come across as being nice or being mean. And too many times on this forum, it seems to come across as being mean or negative.

Some just need to balance it out a little more.