Negative people

[MellieluvsDisney]

Well, we are just back from our 2 weeks vacation in Orlando. We had a blast. This was our third trip to the World, and we don't get tired of it.

Since a lot of the promotions for next year are already out, we decided to book next year's vacation already. We booked 8 nights at Caribbean Beach + a 4 nights bahamas cruise.

We haven't told anybody yet, because we received a lot of negativity about this year's trip, since this was our third year going to WDW. People kept telling us that we should go somewhere else, or "you're going to Disney...again???" or "aren't you tired of going there?" and much more.

And since we don't have any kids, people keep saying that Disney is only for when you have kids. We are not planing on having any, so we would've never gone.

Does anybody else receive those kinds of comments? How do you cope with it all? What do you tell those people? We are running out of ideas.

 

[Master Mason]

It's your money, tell them your spending it going somewhere that you enjoy. Tell them if they want to pay for your vacation, you'll be happy to let them pick the place.

 

[Smile&Nod]

I'm a DVC owner and my daughter and I go every year. What I tell people is that we happen to "vacation" at Disney - some people go to the beach each year, we go to Disney - we relax, sleep in, shop, do the parks but all on our own schedule. We don't try to see or do everything each time and that way there is always something "new" to see. I'd get bored if I went to the beach for a week - some of us just enjoy the disney atmosphere even when we aren't in the parks.

 

[ttester9612]

I'm at the point now that I just tell ppl I'm going on vacation. If they ask where...I just say a place where I can go enjoy myself and relax. If they continue to ask question, I just say "none of your business where I am going" That shuts them up.

 

[dparksfan]

I get it ALL the time! Once in a while I get pretty upset when the negative comments start. I absolutely love going to Disney Parks, and it feels very personal when something negative is said about something I truly love. I try to tell people how wonderful it is, and enough people come to me for Disney advice, to offset the negative. But the negative ones, I actually feel bad for them that they just don't get the magic

 

[ccgirl]

We have been fortunate enough to go multiple times per year for these last few years and we get the comments all the time. As a matter of face my mother says, "you know...there are other states to see and even other parts of Florida." I say, Yes but I LOVE Disney so why would I want to go elsewhere? If it ain't broke why fix it. Then again....I really don't care what people say. I find the people that usually have something to say really don't know everything that Disney offers. As you have found out - it is wonderful without children as well. My DH and myself went just the two of us last year for our 10th anniversary. It was VERY romantic.

 

[mindy6540]

The hubs and I (second marriage) travel to Disney twice a year WITHOUT kids. We go down for the food and wine festival and the first week of June, we've done this the last 3 years. We have brought the kids a couple of times in Jan. but this time is ours. Believe me people laugh at us. At first we explained how we get our choice of beautiful restaurants, quiet glasses of wine on the balcony, but now we don't even bother explaining. I just say I'm going to Florida. It's assumed.
I blame the 'bounceback' info in our room, that's how this all started lol

 

[ClareH37]

I get it all the time here in the UK people think you're seriously 'odd' if you're an adult going to Disney without kids, yet alone solo

The most negative comment I had though was actually on the bus to MK one morning when a horrible woman sat opposite me (I say horrible because all she did was moan, moan, moan) looked in my direction and said 'MK is for kids, why would adults want to visit'?! I couldn't let a comment like that go so replied (with a big smile across my face), 'because MK is the happiest place on earth and miserable people aren't allowed in'

 

[notaprincess]

I get it all the time here in the UK people think you're seriously 'odd' if you're an adult going to Disney without kids, yet alone solo

The most negative comment I had though was actually on the bus to MK one morning when a horrible woman sat opposite me (I say horrible because all she did was moan, moan, moan) looked in my direction and said 'MK is for kids, why would adults want to visit'?! I couldn't let a comment like that go so replied (with a big smile across my face), 'because MK is the happiest place on earth and miserable people aren't allowed in'

well put!

 

[seashoreCM]

You don't have to think of anything interesting to say immediately.

You could say something like "I'll have to get back to you on that." (but don't bother to.)

Or, "Can you be more specific?"

Or, "I don't understand what you are saying."

Or if you find yourself talking about something gettting too long or something you really did not want to talk about, then cut yourself off with "never mind" and stop talking.

 

[com_op_2000]

He who pays the piper calls the music.

You spend your money the way you choose, it is no one elses business. I tell people who do get rude, this is the place DW and I feel the best. If they do not like it that is their problem. Do whatever makes you and your family happy (From the Haunted Mansion DVD)

DW adds:
I just read DHs reply and needless to say he does not speak very much. I am answering this my way; We are empty nesters and we feel this is our time to play, we become kids when we go to WDW. We live in the Orlando area, so we go every few months for a long weekend. This year our daughter was in charge of a conference held at CR, which she invited us to spend a week with her, so we did. It was magical being able to set on the outside balcony and view the fireworks every night. In July, we stayed at SSR for four nights went to DTD and watched a movie and eat at Bongos. In Oct, we are going to AKV and staying in the CL, it will be our first time staying at the CL there. We have previously stayed at the CL at the CR. In Dec, for my bithday (a tradition since 93) we are going back to AKV and staying at the CL again. In Feb, 2011 we are going on our 25th anniversary DCL. Next time anybody says, your going to Disney again! show them this entry. That's why we have a better outlook on life because we let our inter-child out very often. No time to tell how many times we have been to the parks at no charge, due to a CM is a family member and can get us in for free.

 

[MellieluvsDisney]

Thank you everyone pour your inputs.

Right now, our vacation is a year away, so I do not need to bother about telling anyone anyway right now. My parents knows and that's it. But, my mom is a big Disney fan, having gone 3 times herself.

You're right, I pay for my vacation, I choose to go wherever makes me happy, and that Disney for now.

 

[micsgirl]

" SOME PEOPLE" just don't understand...my hubby and i are going in Feb for our 25th Annv. i work with a guy that asked me "so, does your husband like mickey, too"? he was obviously making fun--but i do not care! my husband is a very 'manly' man, but he loves disney world...it did start with a mouse, but it is SO MUCH more! and people just don't get it! we have taken our kids several times to WDW, but this is our time...we talked about going many places, but we really just wanted to do 'disney' with NO KIDS! don't get me wrong, we love our kids, lots, but there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with going WITHOUT them!!!!!!! i cannot wait tll Feb!!!!!

 

[DisGeebs]

Its funny. My DH and I don't have kids and go to WDW about 2-4 times per year and we own DVC. People always say to us you guys love Disney so much why don't you have kids to bring there. That is the point of going to WDW so much is that it allows us to be kids again and not worry about the stress of life... why would we want to have kids to worry about down there!?!! (Please no flames... us not having kids is more than that ... ) We both have very stressful jobs and hectic lives that going to WDW recharges us mentally and physically. Any place that makes us feel better is always a good thing. We always tell people that WDW is like our weekend or beach house... most people get that.

 

[beansmom]

i believe i would say 'Yep' and 'nope' in prolly that order then ignore any other stupid crap they say.

 

[RenkonNairu]

With the exception of the "Disney is just for kids" comment, I do kinda understand what they're saying.

Its not that they're trying to be negative but rather that they think you should try a little more variety with your vacations. Disney is great and I love it, but its not the only place I'd even want to go for a vacation. I think that's what these people are trying to say.

As for the "Disney is just for kids" remark. That's just silly. Disney is far more enjoyable without children. Anyone who says otherwise just hasn't been there without their kids on their leashes dragging them around.

 

[ERICS MUM]

When people ask me why I'm going back again, I tell them that I'm just lucky. What can they say after that !

 

[Poohbear5]

When they ask what you are doing for vacation just say, "We're cruising the Bahamas and spending some time in FL".

We've only had one trip without kids to celebrate our 25th. That was our 4 trip total but we had such a blast and can not wait to go again !! (mmm.. probably will be after our twins graduate college in 2 years..)

We had people question us as to why would you go there without young kids. We had such a blast just the two of us, doing whatever we wanted with out worrying about anyone else.

I just don't get why they don't all get it!

 

[honeydiane1953]

My girlfriend asks me "do they pay your bills"? Well then do and spend as u want. When other folks pay your bills then they can critique.

 

[Businessgypsy]

Isn't that what educators call a teachable moment? The first thing I ask people who are dismissive or negative is to tell me about their last WDW/DL trip. Chances are:

• They haven't gone since they were children (and carry some bad connotations from overwrought parents)
• Went with their own kids when they were small or numerous (and carry baggage from being overwrought parents)
• They've never gone, having heard horror stories from the family trips of others (in which said others were overwrought parents).

The irony being that the very experience you enjoy as a solo or adult without kids was inaccessible to them because they were caught in the do-it-all-now, make-everybody-happy, we're-going-broke anxiety that is a part of many family trips - especially for first timers with very small multiple children.

Either that, or they're a soulless android.

In either case, wouldn't hurt to send them this.