Need to vent UPDATE

[momof2inPA]

JMHO since you posted here, I think you are being unreasonable. Just because you are a couple, does not mean that you will not ever disagree, especially is you work together. When he is at work, his obligation is to his job and the company, not to blindly back up your opinions. Maybe that's why some companies force one person in a couple that works together and decides to marry to find work elsewhere.

As for the fire drill, I just told my husband last night if he had to walk through fire to save me, he had better not. Someone has to take care of the kids. If you were both gone, who would take care of your dog?

Just out of curiosity, how old are you? Young twenties?

Honestly, many fights seem like the absolute end of the world until you make up. So, I think you were wrong and should make up and enjoy a lovely trip to Disney World.

 

[Christine]

Originally posted by momof2inPA
JMHO since you posted here, I think you are being unreasonable. Just because you are a couple, does not mean that you will not ever disagree, especially is you work together. When he is at work, his obligation is to his job and the company, not to blindly back up your opinions. Maybe that's why some companies force one person in a couple that works together and decides to marry to find work elsewhere.

As for the fire drill, I just told my husband last night if he had to walk through fire to save me, he had better not. Someone has to take care of the kids. If you were both gone, who would take care of your dog?

Just out of curiosity, how old are you? Young twenties?

Honestly, many fights seem like the absolute end of the world until you make up. So, I think you were wrong and should make up and enjoy a lovely trip to Disney World.

Well said Momof2! Without knowing ANYTHING about this disagreement, I did sense a bit of "youth" here. I guess being 40 years old and having 20 years of marriage behind me, it seems as if the behavior here is kind of rash as you pointed out. But, again, it's really hard to say. The whole fire alarm thing also seems dangerous to me. Also, if he disagrees with what is going on, he should be able to say so in a work environment. I guess that's what makes things tricky when you work with someone you are involved with. Now as far as him making her look like a fool....EsmereldaX, was he really out of line or is your pride hurt?

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by momof2inPA
JMHO since you posted here, I think you are being unreasonable. Just because you are a couple, does not mean that you will not ever disagree, especially is you work together. When he is at work, his obligation is to his job and the company, not to blindly back up your opinions. Maybe that's why some companies force one person in a couple that works together and decides to marry to find work elsewhere.

As for the fire drill, I just told my husband last night if he had to walk through fire to save me, he had better not. Someone has to take care of the kids. If you were both gone, who would take care of your dog?

Just out of curiosity, how old are you? Young twenties?

Honestly, many fights seem like the absolute end of the world until you make up. So, I think you were wrong and should make up and enjoy a lovely trip to Disney World.

The fight did not occur at work. It occured in a retail place near our job and stemmed from me trying to make right the mistake an incompetent employee made. He didn't stand up for me because in his opinion it wasn't worth the fuss and he thought I should just hurry the transaction along instead of trying to get back money for something I didn't ask for but was charged for anyway. A stupid thing, but one that says a lot about his patience, and his willingness to be on my side (he told the employee I was wrong and then stormed out of the store)

I'm 27, divorced (my ex husband was very abusive; that's why i left); he's 32, never married.

 

[RUDisney]

My DH and I have worked together for the past 15 years. We've been a couple for 14 and married for 10. I can't help but believe that if he and I were asked our opinions about something that we'd probably disagree. He's on the sales side and I'm in MIS, so our perspectives are different. If we are asked independently, but know the other person's opinion, I think that I am more of a thinker and would phrase my opposition differently so that he would not be made to look bad. I think he would not be as cognizant of the way he presents his contrary opinion. I think it's just a male thing.

Bottom line to this is that you have to ask yourself, "am I better off with him, or without him?" When you are better off together, you can survive any fight. If you are better off without him, then sever your ties and move in a different direction.

There have been times when I have wanted to kill my DH. (I wouldn't, because the jail time wouldn't be worth it.) But, overall, we are a perfect match and disagreements along the way are a part of life. We are definitely better off together than apart.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Hi all.

I put a *happy* update in the OP.


Thanks everyone.



Sheri

 

[Curly Q]

I'm doin' the happy dance for ya girl!!!

 

[DocRafiki]

I'm so glad. Just think, if the DIS would have been around when I was in college, I might be a happily married woman right now!