Need some ideas for loved ones who have passed away

[Amy_Belle]

Hello!

My fiance and I are getting married on April 28, 2010, at Sea Breeze Point. A very close uncle (more like a brother/mentor) to my fiance passed away suddenly on Jan 2nd. We would like to do a dedication/candles/flowers (something to remember those who have passed on but their spirits are still present). Has one done something like this and if so do you have photos?

Someone at work suggested doing a single chair with a flower on it, inviting those who cannot be with us to come, sit, and watch the special day.

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!!!

 

[Lorelei528]

We did memorial candles for my dad and DH's brother who had passed away as a child. I was very happy with the way the candles turned out and the wind did not blow them out once.

I thought I had a better picture, but this is all I can find right now...

Also on the table are the presentation roses for our mothers and our Irish Loving Cup...

 

[TinkLoverSam]

Lurkyloo did a locket down her back with her mom's picture in it and that has inspired me to want to do something low key, even if we're the only ones who know about it, for my grandfathers who have passed away.

Also DF's brother passed away so his mother is going to have a single white rose to represent his brother.

 

[CinderelliT]

I put together silver charms that I can wear on a bracelet after the big day - and put them on ribbon and tied them around my bouqet.

 

[beatlesblonde]

We put up pictures on the table with our sand ceremony set:

And then I did charms on my bouquet, each one represented one of my grandparents:

 

[lpizzuro123]

I did a locket for my mom who passed away a few years before our wedding. I purchased the locket at Michaels (near their scrapbooking stuff). I pinned the locket to my bouquet and Misty made sure to get a picture of it. The picture of my mom is actually a photo of the last time we were all in Disney together.

A friend of ours made us a shadowbox with our invitation before our wedding. When we came home I rearranged it a bit and added some things from our wedding (my garter, our Just Married Pin, my Key to the World card with my new name) and I added the locket to the shadowbox.

At our ceremony we had a memorial candle on a pilar to the side of the alter.

After the ceremony it was brought over to our cake table. In our program we mentioned that the candle was there to represent all of our loved ones that were no longer with us. I think it was all very understated but still there.

Linda

 

[Amy_Belle]

All are beautiful!!!
The shadowbox is a really nice touch!
We are traveling from Philly, so I know bringing the pictures from home may not work.
Did you buy the candle from Disney or did you bring that? If you got them from Disney, do you know what the cost for the candle was?
Thank you everyone for sharing!!!

 

[JandJ]

My mom, who was my best friend, passed unexpectedly just 4 months before our wedding. I knew if I had an "obvious" memorial to her, we would not make it through the ceremony without bawling. This was to be the happiest day of my life and my mom would not have wanted me to be crying because of sadness on my wedding day. So, I kept it very simple. I had a vase with an inscription (In Loving Memory ~ Mom's Name ~ Who is Present in our Hearts) and Disney provided her favorite color rose for the vase (I honestly don't remember if they even charged me for the rose). I set it on the table next to where my daddy sat. Our photographer took pictures of us with the vase and rose. I pinned the handkerchief my mom carried on her wedding day under my skirts, too. Mom loved the Wilderness Lodge and the day we left for our honeymoon cruise the rose was still in full bloom, so we left it on Sunrise Terrace for her.

ETA: I cannot believe I forgot! I also had Rev. Jack Day say a prayer for my mom at the start of our ceremony. How did I get through that without crying? I heard my mom in my head "don't cry or you'll ruin your makeup" - that was mom

 

[lpizzuro123]

I has thought about putting photos beside the memorial candle (of both my mom and DH's mom) - small ones - like in a small 2 x 3 frame - but he did not like the idea so the candle was enough along with the saying in our program.

I told Disney we wanted the candle (actually it was not a whole candle - it was a glass cylindar filled with water and floating white rose petals and a smalll round floating candle) and they provided it. I do not remember how much it was but if I can find my BEO I will let you know.

Linda

 

[aimeeblonde]

I went to a friend's wedding who's dad passed away 2 months before the ceremony. She walked to the aisle by herself and I guess everybody knew that she did not want anybody else giving her away.

During the reception and first dance, they surprised the bride with a video montage of her father including some scenes wherein my friend and her dad were dancing when she was still very young. I thought it was sweet and we all cried buckets!

She later went to acknowledge her dad in her thank you speech.

 

[lpizzuro123]

I went to a friend's wedding who's dad passed away 2 months before the ceremony. She walked to the aisle by herself and I guess everybody knew that she did not want anybody else giving her away.

During the reception and first dance, they surprised the bride with a video montage of her father including some scenes wherein my friend and her dad were dancing when she was still very young. I thought it was sweet and we all cried buckets!

She later went to acknowledge her dad in her thank you speech.

That is SO touching. I am so happy they did this for her - I am sure everyone was just a mess watching it.

Linda

 

[thatdisneygirl]

I had a hard time coming up with something for my maid of honor, who was killed in a car accident. Ultimately, I used a locket with a photo in it and tucked it into my bouquet because I wanted her to be a part of the day, but I decided it would be too hard on everyone, especially her family, if I put too much focus on it.

I did worry that I should have done more to honor her, but in the end we all still talked about her and she was very much a part of our day in a good way, so I think it was the right decision for us.

 

[figmentfan814]

We did similar things to what others have mentioned- for my family that I had lost I had the small photo charms in my bouquet. For DH's dad who passed away 3 months before the wedding we had an empty chair in the front row with a flower on it and a picture of DH and his dad. We had a brief mentioned at the beginning by the minister that we wanted to take a minute to remember those that couldn't be with us, but didn't go into specifics because we knew that we would all loose it if we said more.

 

[smoof]

I was totally against having a unity candle. We wanted to honor the people who couldn't be there due to death or miles. For example, DH's grandparents are alive, but they couldn't make the trip. Our minister suggested using the unity candle to do that. A family friend read the names of the people we wanted to specifically mention while we lit the candle. It was beautiful, and I am so happy we did it. If I were to do it again, I would have done it with a sand ceremony instead.