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[always quiet]

I swear, getting information out of this kid is harder than pulling teeth out of an elephant!! Turns out all this happened on Friday at the end of class (they were off yesterday). The kid noticed the stickiness in his seat and never actually sat in it so at least I am not worried about having someone claim that glue stick ruined their clothes. Still doesn't justify my son's reaction. I asked why he didn't just talk to the teacher and he said the teacher was talking to another teacher at the time and was out of the class. I told him waiting for the teacher to return would of been the wiser of the 2 choices. The teacher was the one who had to clean the seat so I thought it appropriate for him to write a letter of apology to her. I am sure she has better things to do with her time than clean up this sort of thing. The glue stick residue came right off with Fantastic (also good to know).

The principal did send him home on the normal bus (at least Kirk said the principal sent him home!!!) I had to sign a letter from the office that they sent home with him.

Guess I can add another dozen gray hairs to the count!!

Now to go back to school in a half hour to drop off my daughter for play practice!!! AHHHHH!!!!!

 

[chager]

I agree with the others. It sounds as if he had just had enough and putting glue on the chair is better then some other things that could have happened. If it is kid glue it should wash out anyway.
I had a 6th grader (I'm a sub teacher) try to super glue another students chair and desk when the student was at the restroom. I caught the boy as soon as he did it though and prevented having a child glued to his chair and desk. That boy was just being mean and ended up with an inschool suspension if I was told right.

Good luck. Being a mom can be hard sometimes.

 

[Disney Doll]

How old is your son? It seems to be that there may be more to the story, especially if you say your id is a good kid who doesn't usually get into trouble. It would seem a little out of character for him to react this way over one paper-crinkling incident. However, if this othe rkid has been busting them off on him for a while, the paper-crinkling may have been the "straw that broke the camel's back" so to speak.

As far as punishment, I'd talk to him, and leave the punishment at what the school is doing. I think I'd let him know that before somee other kid drives him to do something stupid, that he should come to you or go to the teacher. I know you don't want to under-react, but don't overreact either. It was only glue on a classroom chair.

 

[always quiet]

DS is 14 and in 8th grade. Even the principal said he was glad he didn't strike out against the kid and punch him. He wanted to nip things in the bud.

DS has never been aggressive which leads me to believe that there is much more than just one incident. He had better do some explaining to the principal tomorrow. He was a bit leary of giving the boys name since he sits next to him. Maybe he is afraid of being labelled "tattle tale"

 

[Micca]

Always Quiet I am sorry this is causing so much stress. As a parent I also can empathize with your situation. However, and I will admit this only to the other adults here on the Dis, when I read about the glue I I will also add that I am far from someone who should be considered a role model for children.
But the glue is classic It's time to sit DS and explain to him the rules he must adhere to

 

[shortbun]

He may be afraid of retribution if he tells on the other kids
who may be a bully. I applaud his quiet method of getting
even. Sometimes with bullies, one has to resort to desperate
measures. Good luck and be happy this is his first run in.
All this talking and angst is probably enuf punishment for a
14 year old boy. They hate that kind of stuff.
Good luck.

 

[kadaten]

Was just reading this, but why should your son have to tattle? Doesn't the teacher know whose chair she had to clean? She can provide the name of the other boy and prevent your son from getting retribution from the other kid and being labeled as a tattletale. Yes, we all know he *should* tell who was bothering him and what caused the incident, but the reality is that if he's the one giving the other kid's name, he may be in for bad treatment from the other kids. Unjust, but reality. I think the teacher should cough up the name before your son has to!

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by kadaten
Was just reading this, but why should your son have to tattle? Doesn't the teacher know whose chair she had to clean? She can provide the name of the other boy and prevent your son from getting retribution from the other kid and being labeled as a tattletale. Yes, we all know he *should* tell who was bothering him and what caused the incident, but the reality is that if he's the one giving the other kid's name, he may be in for bad treatment from the other kids. Unjust, but reality. I think the teacher should cough up the name before your son has to!

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Not only do I agree with the above post 100%, but I think the principal should have had that information before he ever even called you.. There were 2 students involved - both names should have been given by the teacher..

I also agree that the school punishment is sufficient.. It's directly related to the incident and from the sounds of your posts, your boy is NOT a troublemaker - was simply pushed to his limit and made a not-so-wise choice..

Isn't if FUN being a parent??? LOL

 

[Dan Murphy]

I agree with Micca, I thought Kirk was pretty creative. Actually, Colleen, I think he will do fine, the school and teachers are doing well, Kirk is and all is well. He is a good kid.