Need Opinion

[disneyfanatic60]

A good friend of mine has been forced to sell her house and downsize to a very small home. She wanted to have a garage sale to sell as much as she could. She never had one and I offered to help her out. She has a disabled daughter and it's just the two of them and she can't really get around much herself either. I have put a considerable amount of time helping her which I am more than happy to do, probably close to 20 hours.

Here's my problem---last night after I had been there for more than 6 hours busting my behind, in walks one of her friends. She immediately begins to critize what was being done, began just shoving items from boxes anywhere, and then plopped herself down and watched while I worked for another 2 hours never offering to help but offering up lots of "her suggestions." I just spent another 3 plus hours there today. She comes over and immediately starts giving me attitude about the prices of things (my girlfriend asked me to price everything cuz she has no clue at all). Honestly, I was getting a little fed up with her but I just tried to let it roll off my shoulders.

Then she asked why two tables were still empty. I explained that my girlfriend said she did not mind if my daughter brought over a few of her Disney items to sell and a few items I had. I don't have a lot but there are things I could take. Keep in my mind, my DD is 18 and "both" of us will be there from the time the garage sales open til it shuts both days helping out! I got this most "nasty and appalling" look as her mouth just dropped open!!!!

Am I wrong to take anything over there? My girlfriend made the "offer" to me after a discussion when I said I wish I had sold more stuff last year and my DD had a few things she wished she had sold. Honestly, I am so upset at the whole situation right now, I don't even want to help any more. She made me feel like I had absolutely no right and I was being rude! More like "who the **** did I think I was!

What do you think--am I making more out of this than I should? Should I just ignore her nasty comments/looks? Or should I just make it easier on myself and leave my stuff home? I'm don't know what to do right now!

 

[doxdogy]

Ignore her and take your stuff over there to sell. If she (the other friend) doesn't like it tell her to get over it.

 

[Marseeya]

Wow, you're a whole lot more patient than I'd ever be. I would have told her where to shove her attitude in a heartbeat.

I don't see any problem whatsoever in you taking items to a yard sale. I think the more items available, the better! This woman sounds like a real piece of work. Did the friend you're helping say anything while she was running you through the ringer?

 

[SillyMe]

Just take your stuff over. It's none of her business. You can advertise it as a multi-family yard sale, which will attract even more people.

 

[Robinrs]

Have you talked to the firiend you're helping about this other "friend"? I mean SHE'S the one with the nerve. What I don't understand is how she would let someone come in and badmouth someone who is obviously helping her do a monumentous job... believe me, I've done these and they're no fun... unless she's unaware.

BTW. this person is not your boss or parent, you have permission to tell her to butt out. After all, YOU'RE the one who sacrificing while she has nothing to contribute but criticism.

I cannot STAND people like that. Don't let her interfere in what you're doing. You are doing the RIGHT thing.... and God bless you for it.

Robinrs

 

[Lewski709]

Bring your stuff and tell this person, if she is there and starts it again, that you've orchestrated the event and you'd be happy to have her as a band member if she wants to participate but the directors role is filled.