Need help quick - what's appropriate for young girls (4 & 7) to wear to a funeral?

[peg2001]

I need to go shopping for funeral clothes today and I am just not sure what is expected for children. Any ideas?

Thank you,
Peggy

Their great-grandmother passed away last night.

 

[Cindy B]

My daughter was 6 (just turned) when her grandmother passed away.

I happened to have a black/white checkered dress with a collar in her closet. I put on black tights, and black shoes.

For my son, who was 8, I got a suit. Shhh.. don't tell on me, but I went to the Goodwill store and found a new suit for $8. I had to buy shoes and a tie.

 

[Serena]

At the funerals I've been to, it didn't matter what the kids wore as long as it was dress clothes. It didn't have to be black or a suit.

And I'm terribly sorry.

 

[grinningghost]

I'm very sorry about your loss.

I think any non-frilly dress would be OK for little girls. I don't think you need to worry about it being black, or even dark. As long as it doesn't shout "party".

 

[Nutsy]

I tend to agree. Not necessarily black, but not all frills either.


Something nice & dressy but not too colourful.

So sorry to hear of your loss too

 

[CEDmom]

First off, I'm really sorry for your loss.

I think a long as they are in nice clothes that aren't too loud or bright that they'll be fine. For a girl a nice dress, sock or tights and nice shoes. For a boy nice pants, buttondown shirt, nice shoes and maybe a jacket, sweater or vest.

I think as long as they are clean, their clothes are clean and they use their nice manners that's all that matters.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

I agree with everyone else. Church clothes are acceptable. When my father died, my daughter wore a Laura Ashley dress that he had liked seeing her in. I don't even remember what my son or their cousins wore. So no one will probably even notice.

 

[kadaten]

Originally posted by grinningghost
I'm very sorry about your loss.

I think any non-frilly dress would be OK for little girls. I don't think you need to worry about it being black, or even dark. As long as it doesn't shout "party".

Ditto!

I'm very sorry for your loss

 

[browneyes]

I'm sorry about your grandmother.

I agree with the others, anything non-frilly would work. And anything they can be comfortable in so they won't be fideting with their dresses too much.

 

[peg2001]

Thank you very much. We got the call this morning that she had passed away and I had to rush off to work. Now I wish I had taken time to browse through their closets to see if they already had something appropriate. All I can picture right now is bright spring colors. . .many with Princesses or Winne-the-Pooh on them.

I appreciate the sympathies too. I've really come to rely in the DIS.

Peggy

 

[newholiday]

DS was 2yrs when he lost 1 grandfather (my Dad), 4yrs when he lost the other (FIL). He attended all the wakes & funerals.

As long as they arent dressed party/frilly I dont think anyone will really be looking at what they wear.

 

[TLinden16]

Sorry for your loss, Peggy.

When my mom passed away in January, my nieces and nephews wore stuff they already had. The girls (ages 10 and 11) wore nice pants and sweaters. The boys (ages 8-15) wore pants and nice shirts. The 15 year old wore a suit, as he happened to have one, but the two younger ones just wore a nice shirt. One of them wore a tie as well.

I'm sure there will be something appropriate in their closets. And I wouldn't worry about them wearing bright colors--it's nice to have some cheer during the difficult day.

Karen

 

[CourtasanSatine]

Peggy

I remember when my father died(I was 16) I wore a plain twin set and black pants

 

[BHFan25]

Sorry for your loss, Peggy.

I agree with the posts above. My other suggestion might be to take something for them to read or do while there.

My DH lost 2 grandmothers and his dad within a pretty close period of time. Hunter took a book with her because she got very tired of standing in line shaking hands with people during the "receiving of friends" (what they call it here). She would take breaks periodically and go sit down and read awhile. Just a thought.