Need Advice

[mickeyfanachey1999]

I texted my wife yesterday to tell her that we could go to WDW over Labor day weekend (it's a four day weekend for me) with "free" quick service dining, Friday, Saturday and Sunday night at Pop Century with 2 day hoppers for Saturday and Sunday for a little over $1500. Her response was that it was too much. So should I divorce her (kidding) or just book it and ask for forgiveness?

 

[AngiTN]

LOL..
Well, if she loves Disney like you do, it's not a budget killer and if she doesn't have issues getting off work then I'd just book it

 

[TiggerBouncy]

Book it. If she doesn't want to go, you get 4 days solo at Disney.

 

[mickeyfanachey1999]

LOL..
Well, if she loves Disney like you do, it's not a budget killer and if she doesn't have issues getting off work then I'd just book it

Fortunately for her (but not the budget) she doesn't work. And since the kids are homeschooled they wouldn't be missing anything. I just can't seem to find a downside. I really like your advice!

 

[SillySallySews]

Are you fans of the show Once Upon A Time? If you are, just book it and tell her what I tell my husband... All magic comes at a price dearie!

 

[Recca135]

I booked a trip for my mother and I at the end of September the other day. My mom was all for it. My husband has never been and doesn't have enough leave saved up to go. My father just wants to go to Las Vegas (even though they are going there 3 weeks before our Disney trip). I left my card out on the table and my husband came in, saw it, and asked what I bought. I told him I bought a Disney vacation then I kind of lied and said it wasn't refundable. My mother basically did the same thing.

 

[AngiTN]

Fortunately for her (but not the budget) she doesn't work. And since the kids are homeschooled they wouldn't be missing anything. I just can't seem to find a downside. I really like your advice!

Sounds like a no brainer to me (but I don't have to answer to her so there's that )
I booked a surprise trip for DH last May. I did coordinate it with his boss so that was covered but otherwise I didn't tell him till 2 days before the trip. Was going to tell him that morning but he was starting to make a plan for doing something while we were gone and it got to the point where I had to tell him. Thankfully, he wasn't mad at all. Liked the surprise actually. And my surprise included AP and the 24 hour day at Disney

 

[mjkacmom]

Does she love Disney? If I homeschooled, there is no way I'd go over a holiday weekend, especially when it's that hot. My girls have a dance competition in Orlando in July. We won't be visiting the parks, probably won't leave the hotel.

 

[Turn the Page]

I told DH about this and as soon as I finished relaying the OP he burst out laughing and said there is no way in heck he would do that because he knows darn well he would be sleeping on the couch for a week.

I certainly don't know you or your wife or your financial situation or anything and nobody is a bigger Disney fan than I am but holy wah, if we had talked about purchasing a big ticket item and I shot it down for whatever reason and then found out that DH went behind my back and did it anyway I would be absolutely furious. And same for DH. But that's just us. That is what works for us but it doesn't work for everybody.

 

[brockash]

Fortunately for her (but not the budget) she doesn't work. And since the kids are homeschooled they wouldn't be missing anything. I just can't seem to find a downside. I really like your advice!

Yikes...good luck!

 

[Boudin]

Take her to dinner, get a couple glasses of wine in her and bring it up again...

 

[tink9702]

I told DH about this and as soon as I finished relaying the OP he burst out laughing and said there is no way in heck he would do that because he knows darn well he would be sleeping on the couch for a week.

I certainly don't know you or your wife or your financial situation or anything and nobody is a bigger Disney fan than I am but holy wah, if we had talked about purchasing a big ticket item and I shot it down for whatever reason and then found out that DH went behind my back and did it anyway I would be absolutely furious. And same for DH. But that's just us. That is what works for us but it doesn't work for everybody.

This is us too. It's not about the trip itself, it's about asking for my opinion and then disrespecting my answer and using what we consider our money to do something only one person wants.

 

[Turn the Page]

This is us too. It's not about the trip itself, it's about asking for my opinion and then disrespecting my answer and using what we consider our money to do something only one person wants.

That and while neither of us "controls" the money per se, I'm the one that pays the bills so I generally have a better idea of what is going where and how much we have etc. So if DH suggested this and I vetoed it for monetary reasons and he did it any way there are probably going to be financial ramifications. Granted, said ramifications could just mean that we don't put as much in savings this year as we had planned but still, ramifications nonetheless.

 

[loves to dive]

Hmmmm, interesting problem you got there. Now did she flat out say no, it's too expensive. Or just say honey, I think that is too expensive. Makes a difference. Either way, I wouldn't book it and ask forgiveness, at least for me if my honey did that forgiveness just might cost him way more than that weekend did. I'd bring it back up later (not when the kids are around, that's not fair) and maybe plead your case.

 

[rastahomie]

It's easier to get forgiveness than permission.

 

[sharonabe]

I think I might book it, so I don't lose it, but I'd definitely be talking to DH again about it. If he still said too much, I'd cancel it and wait for a better time.

The problem I see is that it's only 2 days. If there was any way for you to take some time off and extend the trip, you wouldn't be spending that much more and it would "feel" like a better value.

I would also play around with all the deals out there for that time frame. I just tried a trip for that Fri-Wed at Pop with 2 adults, 2 children. Free dining with 5-day ticket was $2364. The late summer and early fall offers were around $1900 with a 5-day ticket. Free dining is probably better; it might be difficult to feed all of you 4-5 days with just $400, but you never know.

 

[Karin1984]

I wouldnt do it. Mainly for, if you homeschool there are slower times you can go. Plus indeed, I would be ticked off when someone asks for my opinion and then doesnt care about it. I would enjoy the trip, but the other person can count on sarcastic remarks throughout the trip.

 

[Ambear]

Everyone's relationships are unique but I'm just saying... I would never spend a good chunk of money without my spouse and I agreeing. Unless you have separate sources of money and you pay completely out of yours and pay for all of her meals and figment merch.

 

[Disney mac]

Book it, bring it up now. If she balks, take you mom to help console the new search for a bride.

Or just convince her that you both need some time away together and will make it work....Good luck

 

[annadreamsofdisneyworld]

I LOVE Disney, but DO NOT book it without her permission. I don't know your finances, but that would be a huge expense for us, and I would be pissed if you were my husband and spent such a large portion of our money without telling me. My husband did this once. He booked a cruise for a few thousand as a surprise, and I was so mad! I mean, we were saving to buy a house! We couldn't get out of it, so we went. I love cruising, and it was a fun trip, but he learned not to do that again.