Need Advice on talking someone into going to WDW

[SuperDisneyDad]

I have a co-worker that has never been to WDW before, but would love to take her family. As a Disney lover, and self-proclaimed WDW expert (ya, right!), I have been helping her plan her trip. The problem is her DH. He is one of these guys that apparantly does not like to have fun at all. He doesn't like rides, he doesn't like to spend money, he doesn't like it when someone else makes the plans, etc. He does, however, love to see their 3 kids having fun (as long as it doesn't interfere with anything he has going on, and it doesn't cost too much). I've been doing all I can to try and give her advice on how she can get him to go. So now, I'm turning to you . . . the real experts in this area to help us out. How can she get her DH to agree to give WDW a try? She wants to go for her b-day and tell him that it's his b-day present to him (since he rarely gets her anything). Any advice??

 

[sarika]

I am sorry to say, that the only way I got my DH to come on our upcoming trip was that old friends of ours who live abroad are coming on a Make a Wish trip with their son who has leukemia, so we're going at the same time to see them. I'm dreading the trip, because there's so much pressure on me to make sure he enjoys himself. Maybe this woman should do what I've done previously - I leave the husband home with the baby and I take the two older ones, either together or individually. Her husband can have fun watching the videos.

 

[minkydog]

You can't get someone to want to go to WDW if they've decided they don't want to. It *is* expensive any way you slice it. It *is* crowded even during off season. For a man who doesn't want to bother with this, Disney world would feel like torture.I see the makings of a disaster all over this. I'm with the previous poster. Why not plan a mom-and-kids trip instead?

 

[Otimon]

I agree on making it a mom and kids trip instead. Leave dad home and take pictures or video to show him how much the kids enjoyed themselves as that's what he enjoys seeing.

While I've personally never been to Disney with someone who dislikes so much of all that it has to offer, I can imagine it would put a damper on everyone else trying to please that person.

Mom and kids - "Come on down and enjoy"! We'll be waiting for you.

 

[disneyjunkie]

I have to agree with the others. Mom should just take the kids and have a great time.

If the father goes and doesn't enjoy it, I'm sure he'd livid about "wasting" so much money.

Just because we all love disney, doesn't mean that other will or should.

 

[MAGGIED]

Count me in on the mom and kids trip - I have made 3 of those inthe last year and plan on another in a few weeks. It's hunting season so my husband doesn't want to go. He does go with us once a year... we have a great time whether he is with us or not. I say tell her to take the kids and go...after he hears what a fabulous time they had he will want to take them back!!!!

 

[missymagic]

Have to agree my ex used to finally agree to go with us but I felt like I was always trying to make him happy and enjoy himself. It never worked he was still miserable. I have more fun going with my girls!!! Never regretted not taking hi again. All my trips to the world have fond memories the last trip he went on with me was a nitemare

 

[DavidHobart]

One key question: is this the only time your co-worker thinks she will go? If not--if future visits are possible--then she should go without him, and let the kids's reactions when they get homne sell him on a future trip.

Otherwise the pathway to get him to go is through guilt and reciprocity--guilt around him not seeing their delighted facers, and reciprocity--her agreeing to go on an equally expensive and possibly disliked trip of his choosing the next time they go on a major vacation...

 

[dsnymomof4]

I would tell her to order the planning DVD and try to get him to watch it with them. When he sees all the happy children and families spending quality time together, maybe that along with the "birthday gift" idea will get him to try it! Who knows, maybe he'll be a convert after he experiences the magic!

 

[Crazy4Disney43611]

I had to pay the way for my friend and his girlfriend. He said WDW was "just for kids" and a "waste of money" we stayed in a 1 bedroom villa at OKW. Now he is as hooked as me.

 

[minkydog]

I had to pay the way for my friend and his girlfriend. He said WDW was "just for kids" and a "waste of money" we stayed in a 1 bedroom villa at OKW. Now he is as hooked as me.

You know, the first time we went with my big kids my DH was not all that excited. But it was also our first time to stay onsite and what a difference that makes! Since then we have returned once with the kids andonce for a couples trip. We have a big blow-out trip scheduled at new years. He's completely converted