My Stepdads birthday is today, and I dont know what to do......

[TinkerPixie]

Today we have my Moms funeral.....

I dont know what to say to my stepdad, it isn't a very happy birthday, but I still need to do something. I want to let him know DH and I care.....
Any suggestions?

 

[Pam]

Can you give him a card and a hug and then ask him when he would like to have a cake or a nice meal at a restaurant in honor of his birthday?

That's a very hard situation and again, my deepest sympathy to all of you.
Pam

 

[RUDisney]

My aunt died ON my uncle's birthday, which just happened to be New Year's Eve, too. He was the one who found her in the bathroom. She had an anurism (sp?) at age 43.

Everyone knew it was my uncle's birthday, and during our hugs we all acknowledged that with a simple, "I hope you never have another birthday as bad as this one has become," or "I'm very sorry that this had to happen on your birthday."

I'm sure that the thought has crossed his mind that it is his birthday, but he's got far more important things on his plate today. Just be there for him, and let him be there for you.

I am very sorry for your loss.

 

[helenabear]

Susan, my mom died three days before my sister's 18th birthday and while the funeral wasn't on her actual birthday (I "gently commanded" that my dad wait at least one more day) we did celebrate it "normally" with a small party and she had a party at a friend's house that night. For your step dad I would give him a card and a gift (if you have one) and ask him if he'd like dinner out or a dinner at home or whatever. That way he knows you are thinking of him on his birthday, but he can choose what he is most comfortable doing. I bet this has to be a terrible birthday for him, but if you do at least that for him he will certainly know you care. My thoughts and prayers are with you all {{hugs}}

 

[RNMOM]

I am so sorry for your loss.

How about giving him a card with a date in two weeks/ one month or similar for a dinner out with your family for his birthday? How about buying him a tree to plant for his birthday in honor of your mom. Perhaps a tree she would have liked or another type of plant? If you live in the north and can't plant, a gift certificate for a nursery and a date to go together to choose something for spring? That way you can have an opportunity to remember her together.

 

[Dan Murphy]

No ideas beyond some good above, Susan. Just offering again, my best for you all. {{Hugs}}

 

[nativetxn]

How about you tell him quietly that you know that there is no way he can celebrate anything on this day but would he allow you and your family to honor him on his birthday by taking him to dinner? Just so that he knows you love him and care will probably mean the world to him.

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie, tough times

 

[browneyes]

I like Katholyn's suggestion. Taking him out to a quiet dinner would probably be something I'd suggest also.


{{hugs}}