My sister just called me and is freaking out - **small update**

[Bluestars]

If the ex is dangerous, is there any chance your sister can live without the child support and have him agree to give up his parental rights or at least agree to a smaller amount? I would never be able to feel secure if I knew my child was spending time with someone who could harm him or me.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

I'm glad she got sympathetic officers, but why in the world would she need the officer's personal cell phone number? She should be calling the police line if there's trouble. (And she'd better hope her ex isn't buddies with this officer.)

We had some strange goings on at our house as well lately. Pales in comparison, but, the detective gave me his cell phone number. I thought it was strange but maybe it is standard operating procedure?

 

[scrump]

I am glad your sis is ok, but I am sorry for what she and her son are going through. I know how ugly it can get.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

It may not be that easy. Her sister may need a court document to say he is not to pick up the child. I know if one of the parents showed up to my daycare to pick up their child I could not refuse them access to the child. Even if they were intoxicated I have to allow them to leave with the child. I can immediately call 911 but I have to let them leave. I would recommend the sister talk to the daycare, let them know the situation, put a plan in place if he shows up, and work on getting a court document banning him from picking up the child!

I think it's sad that you have to allow them to leave with someone you know to be intoxicated!! Thats crazy to me

 

[ckret01]

Wow.... How scary all of this is! I will keep her in my thoughts

 

[*BTMRR*]

It may not be that easy. Her sister may need a court document to say he is not to pick up the child. I know if one of the parents showed up to my daycare to pick up their child I could not refuse them access to the child. Even if they were intoxicated I have to allow them to leave with the child. I can immediately call 911 but I have to let them leave. I would recommend the sister talk to the daycare, let them know the situation, put a plan in place if he shows up, and work on getting a court document banning him from picking up the child!

I had no idea this was true! OMG if someone came to pick up their child and was about to drive away drunk with them I'd say forget the rules, I don't care if I lose my job and get prosecuted I'm not letting a child get in a car with a drunk driver. 911 is nice but what if something happened before the police could intercept the driver? This is just terrible IMHO.
OT, but terrible.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

Have the police found out who the phone belonged to yet?

 

[mrsbert]

We had some strange goings on at our house as well lately. Pales in comparison, but, the detective gave me his cell phone number. I thought it was strange but maybe it is standard operating procedure?

My DH is a police officer and his personal cell phone rings off the hook. Just last night a pastor called needing help with one of the members of the church. I can't tell you how many times someone will call and it takes my DH a few minutes of questions to figure out who is on the other end of the phone and why they are calling. He's gotta pull up his memory rolodex. To me it's just part of the job.Technically, he's NEVER off duty. If only he could be compensated...

Oh well, just the fact that he comes home every night is payment enough.

 

[ryanshana]

Oh well, just the fact that he comes home every night is payment enough.

 

[Carys]

As someone who currently lives alone and has been known to get out the carving knife when she hears suspicious sounds (tongue in cheek), I'd be scouring the house for objects disturbed or hidden, and I would be doing it with a trusted family member/long time friend because it feels really uncomfortable putting youself in the shoes of someone who's trying to hide or find something in your home. Someone not so used to the scenery will be able to look at it with fresh eyes. There was a reason that they went in that house, and until she finds out what the reason is (innocuous or otherwise) it's not going to be a comfortable place to be.

There are all sorts of security options she could look into if she's planning on remaining on that property for the foreseable future, but whatever she does a great first step would be to immediately invest in key-locked deadbolts for all windows, change the door locks if she hasn't already (I thought people did this is a matter of course when getting a divorce ) and check the latches upstairs to make sure the unwelcome visitor didn't leave him or herself an easy entrance point for future visits.

Sounds like she's had a pretty bad time of it lately, good thing she has a great sis looking out for her

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

I know a lot of the signs are pointing to the soon to be ex, but I thought I would put this out there - Did the police officers check to be sure that every window on the second floor was closed and locked? Reason I ask, they don't go up to the second floor very often and if I remember correctly, the stairs are gated for the baby, right? If someone gained entry from a second floor window, the dogs would be behind the gate and couldn't get to them. The dogs might have kept an intruder from coming down to the bottom floor. They could have heard the person start to come down the stairs, started barking up a storm and the person turned around and left, without realizing they dropped their phone. Even though the dogs are small, most criminals are not going to want to deal with animals if the don't have to. I know it's not highly likely that this happened, but please make sure she checks that the locks on her second story windows are secure and can't be opened from the outside.

 

[DISUNC]

Yikes how creepy is this.

Just read through everything...however I am stuck on the first page when you said your sister thought it was a Ghost!!!!

Good luck with everything, and keep us posted!!!!

 

[Disney Doll]

As someone who currently lives alone and has been known to get out the carving knife when she hears suspicious sounds (tongue in cheek), I'd be scouring the house for objects disturbed or hidden, and I would be doing it with a trusted family member/long time friend because it feels really uncomfortable putting youself in the shoes of someone who's trying to hide or find something in your home. Someone not so used to the scenery will be able to look at it with fresh eyes. There was a reason that they went in that house, and until she finds out what the reason is (innocuous or otherwise) it's not going to be a comfortable place to be.

There are all sorts of security options she could look into if she's planning on remaining on that property for the foreseable future, but whatever she does a great first step would be to immediately invest in key-locked deadbolts for all windows, change the door locks if she hasn't already (I thought people did this is a matter of course when getting a divorce ) and check the latches upstairs to make sure the unwelcome visitor didn't leave him or herself an easy entrance point for future visits.

Sounds like she's had a pretty bad time of it lately, good thing she has a great sis looking out for her

Good advice

 

[Disney Doll]

I know a lot of the signs are pointing to the soon to be ex, but I thought I would put this out there - Did the police officers check to be sure that every window on the second floor was closed and locked? Reason I ask, they don't go up to the second floor very often and if I remember correctly, the stairs are gated for the baby, right? If someone gained entry from a second floor window, the dogs would be behind the gate and couldn't get to them. The dogs might have kept an intruder from coming down to the bottom floor. They could have heard the person start to come down the stairs, started barking up a storm and the person turned around and left, without realizing they dropped their phone. Even though the dogs are small, most criminals are not going to want to deal with animals if the don't have to. I know it's not highly likely that this happened, but please make sure she checks that the locks on her second story windows are secure and can't be opened from the outside.

More good advice

 

[TLHB70]

I know a lot of the signs are pointing to the soon to be ex, but I thought I would put this out there - Did the police officers check to be sure that every window on the second floor was closed and locked? Reason I ask, they don't go up to the second floor very often and if I remember correctly, the stairs are gated for the baby, right? If someone gained entry from a second floor window, the dogs would be behind the gate and couldn't get to them. The dogs might have kept an intruder from coming down to the bottom floor. They could have heard the person start to come down the stairs, started barking up a storm and the person turned around and left, without realizing they dropped their phone. Even though the dogs are small, most criminals are not going to want to deal with animals if the don't have to. I know it's not highly likely that this happened, but please make sure she checks that the locks on her second story windows are secure and can't be opened from the outside.

I have thought about this too. I couldn't help but remember a story I saw on GMA not too long ago about a man living in the attic of another family's home. Apparently it is not as unusual as I thought. There was even a term for it (though I cannot remember what it is called......like pad hopping/leaping or something like that.....). The guy would wait until the family was out of the house, then he would come out of the attic and get food, clothes, etc.
I know that it is more likely the soon to be ex, but I just wanted to make sure the attic had been checked.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Keep checking in.....
She needs to call the police back if they haven't called her!

I would say she's brave for staying in that house alone that night she found the phone, but like my ex says...there's a difference between courage and stupidity.

Now, not sayin that to be mean... but maybe I'm just chicken...I woulda taken you up on your offer to stay with yoU!!!

 

[Jenvenza]

I know a lot of the signs are pointing to the soon to be ex, but I thought I would put this out there - Did the police officers check to be sure that every window on the second floor was closed and locked? Reason I ask, they don't go up to the second floor very often and if I remember correctly, the stairs are gated for the baby, right? If someone gained entry from a second floor window, the dogs would be behind the gate and couldn't get to them. The dogs might have kept an intruder from coming down to the bottom floor. They could have heard the person start to come down the stairs, started barking up a storm and the person turned around and left, without realizing they dropped their phone. Even though the dogs are small, most criminals are not going to want to deal with animals if the don't have to. I know it's not highly likely that this happened, but please make sure she checks that the locks on her second story windows are secure and can't be opened from the outside.

I have no idea of they checked out all of that, but I am going to mention it to my sister today. Very good point!

Yikes how creepy is this.

Just read through everything...however I am stuck on the first page when you said your sister thought it was a Ghost!!!!

Good luck with everything, and keep us posted!!!!

You have no idea how many times I have had to tell her - "Ghosts don't do that - Ghosts don't have cell phones." She is such a scaredy cat!!

I have thought about this too. I couldn't help but remember a story I saw on GMA not too long ago about a man living in the attic of another family's home. Apparently it is not as unusual as I thought. There was even a term for it (though I cannot remember what it is called......like pad hopping/leaping or something like that.....). The guy would wait until the family was out of the house, then he would come out of the attic and get food, clothes, etc.
I know that it is more likely the soon to be ex, but I just wanted to make sure the attic had been checked.

Well, the two of you must have seen the same show, because that was another one of her initial thoughts - that someone was living in her attic!! They checked it out though and nothing!

 

[Jenvenza]

No news yet. I havent taked with her this morning, but she would have called if she founf something out. She called the police yesterday, but no one called her back. I hope this doesnt mean they are having a hard time finding out who it belongs to!

 

[mommyof3princess]

I just keep checking in to see if there is any update. I will keep checking back. I hope they get the person stalking her.

 

[daisyyy]

You mentioned that she is renting this house... Did she recently move into it? If so, There is always a possibility that whoever left the phone could have possibly left it to try and scare the previous tennant? just a thought... maybe long shot..