My PSA reminder.

[Silent1CB]

Think twice about who you are calling with your problems or asking to fix stuff for you or do you a favor?

When was the last time you offered or did a favor for them?

Does that person have other issues going on right now & trying to take care of things on their own end without asking for help?

Might they be spouse of a military member who is currently gone...and you want them to help you? How about you go help them instead?

Maybe they are someone taking care of someone with an illness, or a parent of a special needs child.

Or unemployed and stressed about money.

Or any other serious issue.

Really, when was the last time you helped THEM? Have you ever? Are you always asking & receiving but never return the favor?

Just because those people don't ask, doesn't mean they sure wouldn't appreciate some help in return once in a while.

Thank you.

 

[momof1princess]

very well said.

 

[belle&sebastiansmom]

I was saying the same thing yesterday. I'm tired of "friends" who unload all of their problems without even asking "hey, by the way, how are you?" And really caring about the answer.

 

[ckay87]

That's nice and I'm sure this applies to many. But I'm sorry, I'm on the opposite end. I never ask anyone for anything...including my own spouse. My New Years resolution is actually to ask for more help from people!

Anyone want to come do these dishes for me, BTW???

 

[sparklynails23]

Could you say that in haiku?

 

[Silent1CB]

Could you say that in haiku?

 

[cm8]

Think twice about who you are calling with your problems or asking to fix stuff for you or do you a favor?

When was the last time you offered or did a favor for them?

Does that person have other issues going on right now & trying to take care of things on their own end without asking for help?

Might they be spouse of a military member who is currently gone...and you want them to help you? How about you go help them instead?

Maybe they are someone taking care of someone with an illness, or a parent of a special needs child.

Or unemployed and stressed about money.

Or any other serious issue.

Really, when was the last time you helped THEM? Have you ever? Are you always asking & receiving but never return the favor?

Just because those people don't ask, doesn't mean they sure wouldn't appreciate some help in return once in a while.

Thank you.

 

[Carly_Roach]

Think twice about who you are calling with your problems or asking to fix stuff for you or do you a favor?

When was the last time you offered or did a favor for them?

Does that person have other issues going on right now & trying to take care of things on their own end without asking for help?

Might they be spouse of a military member who is currently gone...and you want them to help you? How about you go help them instead?

Maybe they are someone taking care of someone with an illness, or a parent of a special needs child.

Or unemployed and stressed about money.

Or any other serious issue.

Really, when was the last time you helped THEM? Have you ever? Are you always asking & receiving but never return the favor?

Just because those people don't ask, doesn't mean they sure wouldn't appreciate some help in return once in a while.

Thank you.

I have no idea what's going on in your life, but I want to point out the bolded line above and give a PSA of my own:

Don't expect others to read your mind or take your hints or see what is going on in your life and OFFER to help. If you need help, ask for it.

Many people who never ask for help don't do so because they feel that asking might obligate them to the person who helped them. They can talk themselves out of feeling obligated to the person who helped them by saying, "I never asked for your help - you offered. Therefore I'm not obligated to you."

Others never ask for help because of foolish pride. Which goeth before a fall.

In both cases, the onus is on the person who needs the help to ask for it; not dun everyone else because they didn't offer. As I said before, the other person can't read your mind. Stop expecting that.

My New Years resolution is actually to ask for more help from people!

I'm in the same camp as you, ckay. I'm also someone who isn't inclined to ask for help. What I wrote above is a lesson that I work on every day of my life. If I need help, I ask for it. If I won't ask for help, then I can't complain when no one helps me.

 

[Where'sPiglet?]

Think twice about who you are calling with your problems or asking to fix stuff for you or do you a favor?

When was the last time you offered or did a favor for them?

Does that person have other issues going on right now & trying to take care of things on their own end without asking for help?

Might they be spouse of a military member who is currently gone...and you want them to help you? How about you go help them instead?

Maybe they are someone taking care of someone with an illness, or a parent of a special needs child.

Or unemployed and stressed about money.

Or any other serious issue.

Really, when was the last time you helped THEM? Have you ever? Are you always asking & receiving but never return the favor?

Just because those people don't ask, doesn't mean they sure wouldn't appreciate some help in return once in a while.

Thank you.

Could you say that in haiku?

When you need some help
Be aware of who you ask
Friendship goes both ways

 

[NHdisneylover]

It sounds like you are really struggling in life right now I do hope you will ASK someone to help you. People really can't read your mind (as a PP said). With a few clear exceptions (like serious illness or accident or death) people react very differently to the same situations. I know things I may need or want help with may not phase my friend, but other things which do not phase me are things she may need or want help with.

When I need some help I ask for it (and am FINE with being told someone does not feel up to providing it because of whatever is going on in their life, or just because) and when I am asked to help I always do (unless I truly cannot--like I cannot help someone move on X day because I will be out of the country). I would also not help someone who just "uses" people (the stereotypical younger sister who habitually "borrows" money and never holds down a job and takes extravagant vacations and drives a new car, etc.)--but that is not really the type of situation you are talking about.

 

[luvmy3]

Don't expect others to read your mind or take your hints or see what is going on in your life and OFFER to help. If you need help, ask for it.

Everybody needs help once in awile but if you need it, start by helping yourself and ask someone for it instead of expecting someone to offer it.