sayhello
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OK, I'm just going to throw this out there. Several years ago, because a close personal friend of mine was sexually abused, I did a LOT of research and personal therapy on how to deal with and help a person who was a victim of SA.
I totally get that Dustin has asked, in fact as had been said, has pleaded that people not blame his other coworkers, and just blame Pete. I do not know Dustin. However, there is a possibility that Dustin is dealing with a HUGE sense of guilt that the fact that he chose to share and expose the horrific events that happened to him is going to quite possibly very adversely affect those around him who were not involved in the actual abuse. I believe Dustin. But I also believe that his pleading *could* be because he wants to limit the fallout from what he and Sean started. He didn't tell anyone. Nobody knew. But that doesn't preclude the fact that people may have seen what was going on, and come to their own conclusions. There's a difference between not knowing because you weren't told and not knowing at all. And there might be consequences that come out of being aware of what might be going on, and not saying anything.
Again, this is 100% speculation on my part. Dustin may not have any feelings of guilt. Nobody who worked around Dustin and Pete may have noticed a thing. But it's possible they did. I'm just not sure that "Dustin has pleaded with us not to blame the others" actually means there may not be blame out there for them.
That said, accusations from the members of this message board at this point really don't do any good. There's a limited number of people who are actually in a position to make those accusations, and most of us aren't them.
I totally get that Dustin has asked, in fact as had been said, has pleaded that people not blame his other coworkers, and just blame Pete. I do not know Dustin. However, there is a possibility that Dustin is dealing with a HUGE sense of guilt that the fact that he chose to share and expose the horrific events that happened to him is going to quite possibly very adversely affect those around him who were not involved in the actual abuse. I believe Dustin. But I also believe that his pleading *could* be because he wants to limit the fallout from what he and Sean started. He didn't tell anyone. Nobody knew. But that doesn't preclude the fact that people may have seen what was going on, and come to their own conclusions. There's a difference between not knowing because you weren't told and not knowing at all. And there might be consequences that come out of being aware of what might be going on, and not saying anything.
Again, this is 100% speculation on my part. Dustin may not have any feelings of guilt. Nobody who worked around Dustin and Pete may have noticed a thing. But it's possible they did. I'm just not sure that "Dustin has pleaded with us not to blame the others" actually means there may not be blame out there for them.
That said, accusations from the members of this message board at this point really don't do any good. There's a limited number of people who are actually in a position to make those accusations, and most of us aren't them.
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