My mother is getting married.

[septbride2002]

My Mom and her boyfriend/fiance came over tonight. I saw the ring the second she walked in the door but couldn't say anything because I was afraid I would throw up.

For those of you who have been following the saga, my brother and I are not thrilled with this boyfriend. Not to mention my mother is a completely different person with him. At least this time she told us first before telling everyone else.

They are going to wait until my brother's baby is born before they get married. My Mom will be this guy's 4th wife. I just don't understand why they are rushing into everything. They haven't even been together a year and they have only lived together for a few months.

Just to clarify YES I was very nice and polite to her when she told us and did offer my congratulations. My brother was here so that did help - but no we were not joyous over the announcement. But I was not rude. I am just so worried that this will not end well. This is the 2nd engagement for my mother since my parents divorce 4 years ago. The first man died of lung cancer and I didn't find out about that engagement until the funeral.

~Amanda

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

So sorry Amanda!

 

[septbride2002]

Thanks LIsa! Totally O.T. but how is the kitten?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Thanks LIsa! Totally O.T. but how is the kitten?

Tested positive on his 2nd test. Not sure that I'll bother with the additional testing. The vet at the low cost clinic pretty much said that at his age, he's kind of old to be having residuals from mom.

He is neutered now--so a lot more mellow.

I will have to look into the FIV vaccine.

ETA: Thanks for asking .

 

[Rozzie]

I couldn't stand my stepdad when my mom brought him home. He still treats her like crap, but I had to make the decision that she is an adult, I am the child, I voice my objection once, and then turn her over to her decisions and be there when she needs me.

sorry you are going through this.

 

[septbride2002]

Thanks Rozzie, I am trying to do that but it is rather hard. I feel like she is a complete stranger to me now.

~Amanda

 

[Pop Daddy]

stop That Marriage

 

[Serena]

I'm sorry. Hang in there and be there for her.

 

[septbride2002]

Okay I know my reasons for thinking this - what are yours?
~Amanda

 

[Pop Daddy]

4 wifes, ummm thats not good

 

[skuttle]

My parents divorced when I was in the 4th grade (I'm 27 now). I never met any of my dad's girlfriends until I started college. It still gets to me for some reason. I really don't know what I'd do if I were in your shoes.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I am so, so sorry Amanda!!!!

 

[dianeschlicht]

When my Dad remarried less than two years after my mother's death, we knew it was not the right person for him, but we kept quiet about it. She did kind of take advantage of him, and didn't allow him to be with his family (I am an only child) much, but she passed away last year after they had been together 10 years, and we get to see him again and have holiday's with him again. Hopefully you can take it in stride and be there for her.

 

[DoeWDW]

Such a shame. Sorry that you're going through this.

 

[septbride2002]

Hey Doe. I was going to post more in my journal tomorrow
I'm okay - don't worry, just sort of sad.

~Amanda

 

[septbride2002]

4 wifes, ummm thats not good

The first one I'm willing to give him. They got married very young, that I understand. But the other 2 I just don't know. I think Mom and I will be having a long talk.

~Amanda