My mom will be gone soon

[Melora]

This has been the hardest weekend of my life. My mom has slid down hill so far that we know she isnt coming back. She hasn't eaten in days, nor has she had any water.

Her live in help had her days off this weekend and we have someone totally new here helping. There isnt much to do right now, she justs sit in the room with her and reads. I think Josie (her regualr caregiver) is hoping it will happen before she has to come back because she is very emotionally attached to my mom and I don't think she wants to see her die. When she left she took all of her stuff (boxes of it) but said if my mom was still with us on Tuesday she would come back. She was crying very hard when she left.

I have gone in several times and tried to adjust her to be more comfortable. She has refused any position except sitting up so now she is sitting hunched over in her chair with her head either in her lap or hanging next to her knee. I gave her ice chips yeterday to help her dry mouth. I tried to give her some Ensure too but it just ran out of her mouth.

I am a wreck. I feel like I can't even cry anymore. But then out of nowhere a whole new flood starts. Even my husband is regularlybreaking down watching this. We have to go to the Mortuary today and make arrangements. The hospice nurse is coming to check on her this afternoon and already said she may not last past tonight.

My husband who is not religious and has worried that when you die there is nothing, has told me he is praying for her to go quickly and painlessly.

I hope I am not bringing you all down, but I just need to get this out.

Thanks

 

[doxdogy]

I am so sorry to hear this about your mom. HUGS to you and your family. I will be praying for all of you.

 

[AZKathy]

I am so sorry. <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_9_6.gif' border=0></a> May your mom find rest painlessly.

May you and your family find peace and God bless you all.

 

[dvcfamily41801]

I am so sorry to hear about my mom. My thoughts are with you and your family

 

[DoeWDW]

Melora, I'm sending gentle hugs your way. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I'll keep you all in my prayers.


Doreen

 

[floridafam]

You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[minniecarousel]

Oh, Melora, I was wondering how your Mom was doing. This has got to be one of the hardest things in life - watching someone we love die. Hang in there - let your faith help you.
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[poohbears5]

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[SeaSpray]

We just went through this with my mother a few months ago. It was the hardest thing I've ever done or seen. It still haunts me to this day, to have seen my mother literally die before my eyes. we, too, had her at home and cared for her during her last days. You will get through this and you will eventually be able to deal with it OK. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. If you ever need to talk or just have someone listen, please email or PM me.

 

[Blondie]

Oh Melora, I don't even know what to say.

I'll keep you all in my closest thoughts and prayers.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Melora. You all are in my prayers and good wishes. Hoping your mom is comfortable as she goes Home. God speed, God bless.

 

[ennazus]

((((Melora))))

 

[KristaTX]

I am praying to God for your mom, for you, for your husband, and for the rest of your family and friends. Let us know how you are doing.

Krista

 

[dianeschlicht]

Having gone through this with both my mother and grandmother, I can tell you that this is the worst time that seems to drag on forever, but in reality it is going by very quickly, it just doesn't seem like it to you. Hug her, tell her you love her and pray for a quick release. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) and prayers for you as well.

 

[Minniespal]

I can't even begin to understand how you are feeling.

You and your family will be in my prayers.

 

[katypop]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}} sending you hugs and prayers. there is nothing harder than saying goodbye. wishing you peace.
katypop

 

[MsDisney23]

Prayer's for you and your family during this time. A very special prayer for your Mom, May the Peace of The Lord with you all....

 

[DisneyObsessed]

I am so sorry you're going through this. I know how hard it is. We've watched my mother and my mother in law go like that. It's so difficult. God be with you and give you strength.
______________
Dawn

 

[The LK 4]

Sorry to hear this Melora. I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[marlasmom]

My thoughts are with you.