I just saw this thread. Have things gotten any better?
My parents are in the process of getting divorced as well. In many ways, I think it's more difficult to have them get divorced at this point in my life than it would have been if I were much younger. One reason is that I see how hurt both of them are, and if I were even three years younger, I would have missed it completely (when you're little, you assume your feelings are the only feelings).
As for telling my friends, I told my best friend and asked her to let everybody else know. I told her while we were driving to somewhere, so that there was a very limited amount of time we could spend talking about it.
It is a tough thing, no matter the circumstances, and I'm sorry you have to go through it too.
