My Mom did it again!!(vent)

[pooksma]

Ok a bit of history. Since I can remember my mother and I have had a completly different taste in clothes. She wanted a frilly,pink-dress dauhgter-not what she got! She got a dark colour, classic clothing type.

So today, she drops off for me a pair of pants she thought I would like. Please understand, I'm not a teenager-Im 36 yrs old!!!! These wre NOT the type of pants I would ever wear and even my husband said he couldn't imagine why she would buy them for me. Christmas was the same thing. 4 sweaters. One black (ok thats good) one blue (ok I can wear that) and a red (good) then...a baby blue sweater that I would never wear! I know this all sounds VERY petty and Im not saying I dont appreciate what she's trying to do. I called and said thanks for thinking of me but the pants were not really me. This has been going on since I was a teen. When we shop together, what we pick out is totally different and thats fine. I tell her if she likes it, buy it, dont not buy it just because I dont like it.
So she's at her house, totally ticked at me and I feel awful.

Thanks for letting me vent. Im not looking for opinions or flames. Just a chance to get it out.

 

[MushyMushy]

I've got a mother like that. She bought me old lady polyester stretch pants once when I was 21. I don't think I've ever recovered from that.

I've just vowed never to be that way with my own kids. It's all we can do.

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL, my mom always brings over stuff I would NEVER in a million years wear. Just two days ago, she brought me polyester lavender boat neck, 3/4 length sleeve thin sweater, it has a bow on one of the shoulders. Not at all attractive. Maybe something someone else would like, but not my style.

I just say thank you and put in the Goodwill box. I know she means well.

I've just vowed never to be that way with my own kids. It's all we can do.

Exactly.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

My mom and I have totally different tastes as well. She's learned over the years to either ask me for exactly what I'd like (like for a birthday or Christmas), mark items in a catalog or something so she knows I'd like it; or she'll buy something and give me the gift receipt with it. (Thank you!)

 

[Hixski]

My mom wanted the pink frilly girly girl too. Sorry didn't get it. Her taste and mine are opposite on everything. My father likes my taste better than my mom's. He won't let her buy pictures or knick knacks without running it by me first. Thanks, Dad, I am sure Mom feels good about that.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Every year my mother gets me a turtleneck shirt..I must have turtlenck shirts in 15 colors..I just smile and say thanks..My mother has never seen me wear a turtleneck.

 

[pooksma]

Thanks-good to know Im not the only one.

 

[disykat]

I have a good friend who gets totally steamed that her teenage daughter never likes the clothes she buys her. To me, that would just be an expectation - that she would prefer to make her own selections. I have boys and I don't even buy them clothes and expect them to like them. I hate it when people buy me clothes. Are there people who actually like to have other people choose their clothes?

I can't tell my friend that though, because she's bought me clothes too!

 

[Sonya]

Do we have the same mom? My mom wanted the girlie-girl and I am NOT! I am a jeans and t-shirt girl. Every Christmas she would waste her money on cothes for me and every Christmas I would feel bad because I would never want to be seen in them. Remember stirup pants? I had them in all colors. So I always felt bad that she would spend al lthis money on me and I didn't like anything she bought. Teenage girls don't like their moms taste!
Today she will occasionally buy me something. The last thing she bought was a peach shirt. I don't think I have ever worn peach. I am a redhead. It makes me look washed out. Oh well. She means well, I hate that she spends money on something that will go to Goodwill.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Just tell her how thankful you are for her thinking of you and pass it on to someone else...Goodwill, clothes collection at church.

 

[RadioNate]

LOL, my mom always brings over stuff I would NEVER in a million years wear. Just two days ago, she brought me polyester lavender boat neck, 3/4 length sleeve thin sweater, it has a bow on one of the shoulders. Not at all attractive. Maybe something someone else would like, but not my style.

I just say thank you and put in the Goodwill box. I know she means well.

Exactly.

I think my mother gave me the EXACT same sweater!

 

[Tinkim]

My mom doesn't buy me clothes. My MIL however is another story. This year for Christmas it was the gray sweatshirt that buttoned up the front with big embroidered cardinals and leaves and stuff. This is something that she would wear but definitely not something I would wear. I'm only 34! My recent thought on this is that she buys something for herself and it doesn't fit or whatever and voila my Christmas present or she thinks that if she likes I will like it. I am a tiny bit hurt that she really doesn't know me at all but my mom ends up with an extra shirt every Christmas so I guess it's all good.

 

[pooksma]

Do we have the same mom? My mom wanted the girlie-girl and I am NOT! I am a jeans and t-shirt girl. Every Christmas she would waste her money on cothes for me and every Christmas I would feel bad because I would never want to be seen in them. Remember stirup pants? I had them in all colors. So I always felt bad that she would spend al lthis money on me and I didn't like anything she bought. Teenage girls don't like their moms taste!
Today she will occasionally buy me something. The last thing she bought was a peach shirt. I don't think I have ever worn peach. I am a redhead. It makes me look washed out. Oh well. She means well, I hate that she spends money on something that will go to Goodwill.

Maybe we were separated at birth!!!!! I love my mom but she's a smart woman. Shouldn't she have picked up on this by now????

 

[wendy46001]

I have told my mother repeatedly over the years to stop buying me clothes....currently i have four shirts in my closet that she picked up and thought i would love...ugh....still i say thank you and take them....normally give them to goodwill or some of the ladies in my office...
what bothers me is when she spends a lot of money of them...thats when i say thanks for thinking of me but please return them....she is normally mad for a day and then gets over it.....Honestly i think her giving them to me is an excuse for her to visit...and then she waits another week to come pick them up to return them....

Ah moms.....

 

[KimR]

I had the opposite problem: I was a girly-girl and my mom desperately wanted a tomboy. Not gonna happen. She was never interested in clothes, though, so she really didn't try to push her taste on me, thank goodness. However, when it came to activities she did try to steer me into sports rather than dance which was what I loved and really wanted to do. I HATED sports and was totally hopeless!

Now, wouldn't you know I have 3 girls and only one of them is 'girly' like me. My oldest is 14, and has totally different tastes than I do. I could never buy her clothes. I wouldn't mind shelling out the bucks for stylish clothes for her but she has no interest - jeans and T-shirts are all she wants to wear. My middle one is a little better but not by much. I'm still holding out hope for my youngest!

 

[Crankyshank]

My Mom does the same thing. Ordinarily she has pretty good taste style-wise but she picks colors that would be good on her. Usually those colors make me look like I need a liver transplant.

She's been knitting and buying me a lot of scarves. Gorgeous scarves, but I don't wear them. I've never worn them. I just smile and say thanks. Saying something would mean a lot more trouble than the situation is worth.

 

[hydster]

Well I wish my mom would BUY things for me....instead she goes through her closet about every 2 years and finds the things that won't fit her and they come to me. She is at least 6 sizes larger than I am at any given time but thinks I will fit them She brought me 8 different holiday themed sweater/sweater vests that she can't wear anymore but A)They are a size 16 *I'm a 6/8 and B) Her "girls" stretched them out so big that when I put them on as a joke I look like mine have been swallowed whole.