My last ditch attempt at finding dd's lost lovey

[Hannathy]

My DS has a "lovey" a cat that my mom gave him when he was born. It has been everywhere! its so raggedy, but he MUST sleep with it. So to Disney it will go (in 7 days) and I am so worried that it will get lost. We have only had 1 scare at the Grocery Store, but found him right away. He knows that Kitty has to stay in the room and cant go to the parks! Those are great tips.. dog tags, and putting in in luggage whne we leave! Thanks

I hope you find her lovey! She (and you) must be so upset. I know we would be!

My DD has a completely matted, scrawny dog! that she got on her first birthday and it has been everywhere also except Italy-fear of losing it over-rode desire to take it, that and being 15 at the time! We always did the put it inside and zipped suitcase in the AM so it didn't go to the laundry accidentally. It always rides in her personal carry-on and if she checks once to make sure he is still in there she must check 15 times. We drove back at Christmas this year and everytime we got out and back into the car there had to be a physical check to make sure Max didn't some how crawl out of the back pack and leave the car! That would make him pretty peppy for 17.
As she packs for college this Fall I'm sure Max will be the first or last thing that gets packed, but it won't be left behind that I'm sure of.

Good luck and maybe although it won't be the same maybe the two of you can find a nice soft animal to help comfort her and it could become her companion. It is a bit easier to take a stuffed animal to camp and college!

 

[Mrs. Bradbury]

My oldest chose an empty pillowcase for a lovey. It wasn't even a kid print, just black with jewel tone stripes. My dear mother had the foresight to buy two sets of pillowcases and he would happily snuggle with any of the 4. My niece's lovey was one of those ubiquitous kinda fuzzy white, blue, pink and yellow blankets (20+ years ago) and although her mother had two and they looked exactly alike to us, my niece preferred one and the little stinker could actually tell the difference between the two.

My youngest still sleeps with Puppy, who has had his tail loved off. It's just shreds of base fabric, no fur at all.

I really hope you get it back. Sending positive thoughts!

 

[brymolmom]

A dog tag with your address or cell # is a great thing to put on stuffed animals and any other lovely that DC can not live with out. It's a little tricky with a blanket, but totally worth figuring out a way to attach one.

Actually something else to think about for parents reading this - have a 'no favorite lovey' rule in the parks. When we're on vacation dd has always known that 'pinkie' is not allowed out of the hotel room. She had some other blankets that we would bring and she knew that those were allowed in the diaper bag/stroller when we went to the parks. She was fine using them because I assured her she didn't want to lose pinkie and pinkie would get lost there.

Another way to tackle it...

OP - Best of luck - I can't imagine. As soon as dd showed an interest in this one blanket - I rushed out to buy 2 more to have backups - but even though at the time the original wasn't in 'loved' condition - she would NOT take to either of the other ones. UGH! DS had his burp cloth (blue with animals on it) as his lovey...and we had 2 twelve packs of those - had backups and brought about 6 of them all over the place. It made the whole thing a lot easier!

 

[MeanestMomEver]

Oh, this is so sad. I'm so sorry for the lost lovey. Though it won't be the same, maybe she can choose a new one to help her feel better. Maybe something with Minnie or Mickey on it might help. You could tell her that since she lost hers at Mickey's house, he sent her a new one and that if they ever find hers, they have her address (true, right?) and will know where to send it.

As far as that term goes, when my oldest DD was a baby (mid eighties) there was a show on TV called "What Every Baby Knows" hosted by the famous pediatrician Dr. T Barry Brazleton. He always referred to the security blanket/dog/whatever as a "lovey." I don't know that he came up with it but that's the first time I ever heard that term. So, since it was on national Tv in numerous episodes, I bet lots of families picked up on it.

My kids all still have their lovies. Two DDs have theirs packed away for safe keeping but my 19 year old still likes to have hers around. She actually has 2 identical security bunny blankies (long story) and she keeps them at her dorm in her pillowcase. Sometimes they fall out of her loft and her early-riser room mate often finds them on the floor and gently puts them back up on her bed. LOL

The bunnies are looking pretty nasty and I hate to admit this but I was looking on ebay to see if I could find another. HA! They were originally premiums in Pampers and I had to pay only 50 cents for shipping and handling to get them (1986). On ebay they are selling for between $80 and $130.00, depending on condition. No joke!

 

[iwrbnd]

So sorry you lost it. My son had a blanket that ended up being a strip of fabric by the time he was a teenager. He still slept with it at 13 (He's a cool-frat-boy-kind-of-dude so it was top secret!) but he lost it last year. I'm still sad about it because it was so much a part of him. I hope you find yours!

 

[TillyMarigold]

I hate to disappoint you parents who help your pre-teen/teenagers will be done with their loveys soon ... but my sister is almost 26 and still won't travel without "Arthur," her favorite teddy bear since she was three. And he's huge--at least 24" tall. He gets a suitcase all to himself--at least she no longer insists on holding him during the flight.

 

[lilpnutmama]

Oh my word, I didn't get an email update and had no idea so many lovely DIS-ers had replied to my lost lovey posting. I am feeling very sentimental about the whole thing *sob*
I am going to try and get a picture of "Bet" and post it here. I don't have any on my computer but will check dh's computer when he is at work tomorrow

 

[iwrbnd]

I hate to disappoint you parents who help your pre-teen/teenagers will be done with their loveys soon ... but my sister is almost 26 and still won't travel without "Arthur," her favorite teddy bear since she was three. And he's huge--at least 24" tall. He gets a suitcase all to himself--at least she no longer insists on holding him during the flight.

 

[luvthemouse71]

Hope you find Bet..I misplaced my favorite teddy at our local zoo/park when I was 4, and I still remember how upset I was. Kids are resilient though..maybe if you can't find Bet she'll find another Lovey..

Fingers crossed that you find it.

 

[lilpnutmama]

ok.. found a pic... pm'd it to livndisney and silvermickey, hopefully we can either find Bet or recreate it.
Thanks again to all who responded.

Oh and we don't call it a lovey ourselves but I know that's a common term for security object so that's why I used it

 

[lunapnp]

My 10 YO DD has a pillow that my mother made for her before she was born. My DD carries this pillow anywhere she is going to stay overnight. When my DD was about 5, she got tired of the pillow falling out of the case so she asked my mom to sew it shut. So, of course, g'mom said yes. Well, now we have to WASH the pillow in the case. This pillow, needless to say is looking horrible. About three years ago, DD "named" the pillow. No, it's name is NOT lovey but rather "Lumpy." That's what it is...a big lump. Pillows don't wash very well! I bought DD another very soft, cute pillow just a little bit bigger than lumpy (hoping she might put lumpy up for safe keeping). She loved the new pillow, but said she still was NOT giving up lumpy. She doesn't care if anyone laughs at her...she said she will carry it to college if she has to! LOL.

 

[larryz]

Dear St. Anthony...

 

[Hannathy]

Dear St. Anthony...

I've only used him for parking spots, ya think he works on lost lovey's?

 

[Boo Bear]

Sorry i can't help you find it however i would be happy to crochet another one if you have a picture... I know it would not be the same but it might help...

That has to be one of the sweetest things I've seen in a long time. I love this place!

It sounds pathetic but I slept with my baby blanket until I was 19. My original died when I was young... it was cotton and was basically threads, but I substituted it for another that I had since I was little. You might be surprised how easily little ones can become attached to something similar but new.

 

[Boo Bear]

Dear St. Anthony...

Saint Anthony has yet to let me down!

 

[Dixiemom]

I have a friend whose grand daughter has carried her "bee bop" blankie everywhere forever.....I have seen it turn into sort of a twisted rope looking thing and when last I saw it.....it was only a square of tattered fabric about 2" X 2".......these things REALLY are loved so I hope bet turns up!!!!

 

[persimmondeb]

I still have my "burro" that my aunt bought when I was born (1966). It's just as well that it stayed with me, since also had a blanket that I left at my parent's house for safe-keeping when I moved out. I was somewhat put out to discover that they had given it to one of the cats and were now regarding it as his blanket!

I do hope you find "Bet". My son had a stuffed Kanga that we were able to replace, and he never seemed to know the difference, but it's hard with a blanket. Kanga is long gone, but he is still attatched to "Sockie" which is a stuffed sock person made by a hospital volunteer which was given to him in the emergency room when he cut his hand fishing when he was about 7 (he's 14 now). Sockie is pretty disreputable at this point, but much loved.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

DD has her lovey that we take everywhere. I actually own 3, bought out Walmart as soon as I noticed she was attached.
We take 2 with us on trips. One to carry and one stays in the room, folded in a drawer. The one we take the parks gets nasty so I don't want her sleeping with it.
We use tarp clips and carabiners to keep it strapped to the stroller, her jacket, a fanny pack, etc. they have saved lovey more then once.

I hope you find it! Keep checking back, call, email a picture, the more detail you can give the better it will be. DH lost his prescription sunglasses and we never thought we'd see them again. We found them at the Contemporary 2 days after we lost them.

 

[The Hendies]

I'm sorry, I didn't read each post and maybe this was already suggested...I'm at work and just thought I'd take a quick look at what's happening on the boards! Anyway, wouldn't Tink (or any other favorite character) love to 'give' her a new lovey? I know the trauma, our boys carried their blankies on the plane with them for years. Not baby blankets, twin size blankets!! Good luck!

 

[claryche]

I have tears in my eyes from reading our post. My DS has a blankie called Bebe, so I understand where you are coming from. I also had a blankie as a child and lost mine. It took awhile for me to get over it, but another blankie did help in the process. So maybe if you can't find Bet, then maybe a new Bet will work.

Tips, thought probably won't help you, but maybe others.

We do put Bebe and most stuffed animals in the drawers when we are at Disney. I make a game out of it for my DS, so that he isn't as tempted to take one to the parks. Of course he does still always want to take one to the parks, but we never let it be one that he couldn't live without it being lost, because you never know.

Also if someone does make her a new Bet, maybe they can make two. That is what I did with my DS. I made two blankies for him. Just cut out from some material. He of course does not know about both of them. But I did it to make cleaning easier, because it's hard to wash it when he wants to be with it all the time. Also it would help if we ever did lose one.

But here's to hoping that someone will find Bet and realize that it's not just a piece of material but a very loved and treasured Bet.