My husband's going on a trip & I'm nervous

[ms.yt]

My husband's leaving in the morning to go to a convention and will be gone until Sunday. I'm getting really anxious about it because we've never been apart this long and a few other reasons, too.

For one thing, I'm nervous about because he's been having some allergy issues that we're trying to get figured out. I posted a thread about his worst reaction a couple of weeks ago which really freaked me out. I finally convinced him to go to his doctor last week, and the doctor is convinced it's a sulfite allergy. They did a blood test to check, but we haven't heard about the results yet. I'm beginning to think that sulfites aren't the problem because he had a mild reaction the other night when eating stuff that shouldn't have had any sulfites in it. The doctor prescribed him an EpiPen, and I told the people he's going to be with about his problems just in case something happens. I'm still worried, though, since we don't really know what's causing the problem and therefore don't really know what he should avoid.

Also, I'm a little nervous about staying in the house with the kids by myself. I know that's silly, but we've never been here overnight by ourselves. I'm sure after the first night I'll get over that, but it's bugging me a little right now.

Anyway, I just wanted to whine a little here since I can't sleep. Thanks for listening.

 

[Justanopinion]

You will all be fine..but whine away if it makes you feel better.

My DH used to go off to summer camp with the boys every year for a week. It was so peaceful without him. DD and I would either eat out every night or make junk for dinner. I would let her sleep in my room if she wanted but she usually wanted the couch.

I do like to sleep with the light on while he is gone. I also spray his cologne on my CareBear and snuggle with it instead of him.

Find what works for you but you will be okay.

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

I sleep with a blanket puffed up like my husband when he is gone. Then when I wake in the night, I sometimes don't remember he isn't there! Silly, isn't it? I also change my bedtime routine. I read until my eyes burn, turn out the light, and generally go right to sleep.

I hope you figure out what works for you, and enjoy the time he is on the road. I always see those times as no cooking, chill out and watch movies with my kids times. It is like a little vacation for us, too.

BTW, your recipes look incredible!

 

[AnnaS]

You will be fine but you can whine if you want here - we're here for you.

When my kids were young, many, many years ago, I was also a bit nervous the first few times he went away. I was more nervous though because everytime something broke or went wrong, it was when he was not here.

Do you have family/friends you can call if you need to just be on the phone with someone for support? Try to distract yourself or you can make yourself sick.

Let us know how you make out.

 

[aprilgail2]

Relax and enojy spreading out in the bed and having it all to yourself for the week...take the kids out and do things your husband doesn't like doing. Have some friends over for a girls night!

 

[ms.yt]

I sleep with a blanket puffed up like my husband when he is gone. Then when I wake in the night, I sometimes don't remember he isn't there! Silly, isn't it? I also change my bedtime routine. I read until my eyes burn, turn out the light, and generally go right to sleep.

I hope you figure out what works for you, and enjoy the time he is on the road. I always see those times as no cooking, chill out and watch movies with my kids times. It is like a little vacation for us, too.

BTW, your recipes look incredible!

Yeah, we're going to take a couple of day trips this week to pass the time.

Thanks for commenting on my recipes. I've been kind of lazy about posting this summer. When school starts back, I'll be cooking more since I don't like going out as much when I'm working.

From your username, I'm assuming you're in or from Indiana. That's were my husband is headed. He's going to Gen Con in Indianapolis. He used to go every year before we got married, and he's meeting some friends down there this year. I'm not into gaming like he is, but it sounds like there's a lot of cool stuff going on there that I would like, too. If it wasn't the week before school starts, I probably would have gone too.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

It is old hat to me now but relax and have some fun!

 

[GJM]

It is old hat to me now but relax and have some fun!

The same for me also - my DH has been away a year, so it is just DS and I!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

The same for me also - my DH has been away a year, so it is just DS and I!

A yr would be tough.

My dh has had jobs where he travelled weekly over the yrs. When they were babies it was tough. One time we ALL had the flu, baby included. That was probably the worst ever.

Now they are teens and I am 44 so it is nothing. I just get to watch TV late in my bedroom.Unfortuately his travel now is not so much. They do video conferencing instead.

 

[nancycg56]

My DH is retired military and I think we figured it out once that he had been gone over half our marriage at the time he retired It took a few days for me to get used to it when we first got married but I didn't have a choice.

Now he has a civilian job where he travels quite a bit, our kids are adults and have moved on and now its just me and the dog and I love it because I just do whatever the heck I feel like doing

Just take it one day at a time and you'll do great!!!!!

 

[rie'smom]

For a long time when my husband went on a trip without me, I had trouble sleeping.We've been married almost 28 years. I eventually got used to it but I still miss him.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

My DH is normally home every night but he will be working out of town for the next three months and home on the weekends. We are just into our second week and everything has been fine so far. One week would be a welcome break, but after that, not so much.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Yep, you will survive and those of us who have it happen often find ways to get used to it. I agree with others o do some htings he doesn't like--rent a movie you and the kids would enjoy but he wouldn't, go out to eat somewhere he does not care for, etc.
My DH is gone for work nearly every week M-F. I DIS a lot between the kids' bedtime and when I am sleepy enough to go to sleep on the four nights a week he is gone

 

[PaulaSue]

It is scary with DH being gone but you do get use to it. My DH used to travel over 40 weeks a year. I feel bad for the families who DH/DW are gone for months/a year at a time. That I could never get use to.

My suggestion is to do something fun/special with the kids while Dh is gone and make it a routine when he travels again. My girls look forward to Daddy going away because that is only when we do those things.

 

[Robinrs]

 

[LuvOrlando]

What are the chances, my DH left this AM to go to Minnesota for a few days and won't be home until Sunday. When he started to travel a few years ago we put in an ADT system and it makes me sleep a WHOLE lot better, worth every penny to me. I also sleep with the lights on and use his t-shirts as pillow cases because they smell like him. We're together since 1990 and I still cry when I say goodbye... I am such a big spaz.

If you have trouble sleeping you could try and do what I do and rent a bunch of romantic comedies my DH wouldn't be caught dead watching to whittle away the night time hours. Another option is Netflix, their on-line selection is greatly improved recently. I am watching Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil right now.

 

[ms.yt]

Well, he left at 6 am, and I cried when he left like a big dork. He called about an hour ago to say he'd arrived at the hotel. I was glad to hear that he had the long drive out of the way. He didn't sleep a lot last night because he was nervous/excited about the trip, so I worried about him driving that far by himself. Now if he can just avoid the mystery allergen the whole time he's there!

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Well, he left at 6 am, and I cried when he left like a big dork. He called about an hour ago to say he'd arrived at the hotel. I was glad to hear that he had the long drive out of the way. He didn't sleep a lot last night because he was nervous/excited about the trip, so I worried about him driving that far by himself. Now if he can just avoid the mystery allergen the whole time he's there!

You'll be ok.
Treat you & the kids to something fun to break the routine.
I always keep an extra light on, not sure why but I just do.

Good Luck~

 

[bigbabyblues]

I had to adjust to that when I was pregnant with DS1--my DH went to S. Korea for almost 3 weeks on business. I was really nervous at first, but I got used to it. He traveled for work quite a bit over the next few years, and when he left that job, he started working straight midnights.

Hang in there, you'll get used to it. I agree with the others who said do things you wouldn't normally do if he were home.

 

[minniecarousel]

awwwww......you'll get through these few days.

I remember when my DH had to go to Europe on bussiness when our DSs were around 8 & 10. He worked long hours the week before he left, in preparation, and our boys were in summer camp that week. egads, I was lonely! I was so glad the boys got home before their Dad left for 2 weeks.

If he had to go now, I'd help him pack his bags and remind him to text me once in a while!