My friend finally left her abusive husband!

[LUCiD]

Good for her, she deserves better than that loser.

 

[chell]

Two thoughts:

1) Why does the world need to know about your friend's drama?

2) Why is cleaning out the joint accounts a good idea? One would think that removing half of whatever's in there would be the correct thing to do.

1) Because she is excited and thrilled for her friend and wanted to share the good news. This isn't about drama though - it is about someones life and safety!

2) Yes, she should have only removed half and I'm sure the attorney told her that when she contacted them.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Two thoughts:

1) Why does the world need to know about your friend's drama?

2) Why is cleaning out the joint accounts a good idea? One would think that removing half of whatever's in there would be the correct thing to do.

1) She's happy for her friend... unfortunately most people know someone who has been in this situation, and it's good to see happy endings

2) Maybe not a good idea legally ...but maybe she sees it as compensation for her pain and suffering... Even if she has to pay it back later, I'm glad she used it if its what was needed to get her out.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Two thoughts:

1) Why does the world need to know about your friend's drama?

2) Why is cleaning out the joint accounts a good idea? One would think that removing half of whatever's in there would be the correct thing to do.

If he was abusive, he deserves to lose every cent that was in there.

 

[The Orchid]

We're not allowed to read any threads that don't completely jazz us? Really???

If we do read these threads that don't jazz us, we are only allowed to post if we agree with the OP? That doesn't seem right.

Well certainly you have a right to not be jazzed about a battered woman getting away from a monster who hurts her. I think it just surprises people that anybody would not be jazzed at such a happy event. I'm sure you have your reasons for feeling the way you do.

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

In situations judged to be of risk of lethality, you may be advised to CLOSE joint accounts to not risk being held liable for JOINT accounts. He can be forwarded his money, but there will no longer an account in both names.
There is the potential for financial abuse when joint accounts are not closed.

Just as the wife left the home spotless, and had the realtor and police aware she was leaving the home this way - so that she could not be held liable for damage to a joint asset - their home.

Unfortunately men who perceive that the woman has broken the grip of control (fleeing the home) commonly accelerate dangerous behavior in other ways - i.e., coming after your family, friends, coming to your workplace, threats, stalking...basically they want you to feel - often you are told to your face - ok you left me but now you're going to WISH you were dead.


Of course that alternates with the "remorse" when he cries and says he's sorry and he'll never do it again. Such as in court.

So hope and pray that the friend of the OP can leave the immediate area if not the state - in extreme cases even leave the country. Depends on how sick the person is pursuing you and how lethal the situation is judged to be by experts.