My friend and 9/11

[crazyme5kids]

Saw my dear friends yesterday at a party. My friend, who is also my boss, was telling someone we have not seen in a few years about her husband who survived 9/11. Aparently he has just recently started to have nightmares again. He was near the tower when the second plane hit. Many bodies hit the ground around him, he was hit with a piece of debris. He is now hearing the sounds again. When my friend was telling the story, she mention how I was the one to answer the phone when he called. We knew he was alright because someone heard him being interviewed on the radio. This is a man who has faced death many times. When I answered the phone that day and heard his voice, I asked him how he was he replied, "I didn't think I was going to make it this time". He was there by a twist of fate, he wouldn't have normally been there. He was the voice on MSNBC in the hours and days after the attack that said "I'm looking for my friend,(and then breaking down and crying) and I don't know where she is".
It was so hard not to start crying.

 

[olena]

 

[Annie&Hallie'sMom]

I hope your friend's husband is able to get some couseling help. It is not usually to have a "relapse" many months after the fact. There are plenty of agencies out there, please help him find one.

 

[Goofyposter]

groosch crazyme5kids...

...it is an extremely difficult thing to think about for everyone...but proably none more so than those who lost loved ones and dear, dear friends. And to those who personally witnessed and had to deal with such an horrific event.

Ya know, sum times, the very best thing we can do when dealing with such shock is to cry. I hope you know that's ok to do.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[crazyme5kids]

Thanks for letting me just get my little cry out. Believe me I do cry and it sure does help, he is just one on the list of people I know.......... On the positive side though, life goes on and remembering helps to keep what is and isn't important in perspective! He is a particularly amazing man. As I said he has faced death now many times (literally) and yet perseveres. He has so many people that love and respect him, and he always makes time no matter how he is feeling to do for others (which was why he was there to begin with!). I am very fortunate to know him!

 

[tc]

As the anniversary date of 9/11 approaches, many others will be dealing with the same thing. It's called post traumatic stress disorder. I deal with it regarding a sexual assault in my jr. high years. After many years of counseling, I am able to make it past the anniversary date w/o any nightmares. I'm sure it will be years before any survivor of 9/11 will be able to do the same. My heart goes out to all of them. Any prayers as well.

 

[John Smith1]

I have several friends who survived this tragedy who will NEVER be the same.

 

[cotye]

 

[Joanne M]

We are coming up on one year since that day, and many people are going to be affected by this. I think a lot of people may be surprised at how emotional they are over the annniversary. Others may not realize they are not feeling right, or may not associate it with the events of that day. If you pay attention to your feelings and allow yourself to experience them, you will be able to then put them away in a healthy place inside.

I have found out the hard way that it's OK to cry when you are sad, and not to worry about what anyone else may think. Sometimes others experience their own hidden feelings by seeing someone else act them out, if that makes sense. Other people can only show anger, when they are really feeling pain.

The next few weeks will be emotional, and difficult for a lot of us. The best thing we can to is to be understanding and caring of ourselves and others.