My ex was proposed to last week

[Serena]

and he accepted.

My daughter just told me. The only thing I could come up with is that I'm not surprised. It's easy to see and hear how content he is. I can't fault him for wanting to be happy.

So why do I feel cheated?

 

[Beauty]

Oh Laurie,

I'm sorry. I would feel the same way. You are such a wonderful person, there is someone out there who will be so lucky to get you!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I know how you feel. My ex got married 3 months after we divorced and they now have a baby together. I felt the same way you do.

 

[Serena]

Beth, that may be it, I don't know. I think part of it is realizing, again, just how forgetable I was to him.

I don't think any woman likes to be easily forgotten and worse, totally dismissed. I guess that's the case for everyone though, regardless of the situation.

 

[Buckalew11]

I think you are right, Laurie. That would be really hard to me too. After all, you are the mother of his children. But, for whatever reason, love is like that, I guess. You will find happiness too! You just aren't ready yet. When the time is right & your heart is ready, someone special will enter your life!

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

Laurie I'm sorry

While I know my ex and I were not married, I did have a promise ring and we were together for quite a while..I found out that he was engaged 3 months after we broke up.

 

[Serena]

So is it that I'm jealous? not of her, but of him for being happy?

 

['Canes Fan]

...both

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

He'll be living the life he should have had with you. It's hard to give up the dream.

 

[Serena]

Thanks for letting me talk it out here.

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

Several of my exbfs and even my ex fiance were married within a few months of us breaking up. All were involved with someone within a month of us breaking up.

 

[Buckalew11]

And I think men are more like that than women (ooh...thems fighting words! LOL) They need a woman more than a woman needs a man. Broad brush indeed but I see it so often.
I don't think it is jealousy as much as it is what DisneyAddict said-- just that you had a dream and expectation of your lives together. You have had to give that up. now she is having what you were supposed to have. Does that make sense?

 

[Serena]

The reasons he gave for being unhappy with our family, just blew up in smoke. He didn't want to be a dad, or a husband, or any responsibilities. He wanted to be single, to do what he wanted.

Now he's marrying someone with 3 small kids, and a farm to deal with.

He just didn't want to be married to me.

 

[jfulcer]

Karma will get him. Don't worry.

 

[Serena]

Karma's good.

I just gotta not forget that I am much better off now anyway. He was a lousy husband. Now he's her problem.

 

[Caradana]

Laurie, I am so sorry. Even though Karma is going to put the steel-toed boot in his unmentionable regions soon enough, I hate that his choices hurt you in the process. I absolutely know that this period of "singleness" will lead to you growing in unexpected and fabulous ways, and when Mr. Right comes swinging through (hopefully in a Porsche - okay, kidding, just playing) you will feel more personally whole and more worthy of love than ever before. Have a good night. Don't forget that thing about the steel toed boot in his nether regions.

DC

P.S. Also, imagine the image of him trying to start the farm's tractor at 4 AM in 20 degree weather. Imagine it not starting. Imagine him chewing hay. This vision should warm you in your wonderful suburban home.

 

[Buckalew11]

Karma's good.

I just gotta not forget that I am much better off now anyway. He was a lousy husband. Now he's her problem.

Amen. my thoughts exactly. Any man who can walk out on a decent woman like yourself (& by decent I mean good and kind--you are prettier than the word decent, decent is meaning you are a good person) is not worth your love. He walked out on you, his kids and his wedding vows. Real men don't decide they don't "want" to be dads after they already ARE dads! Real men don't break their wedding vows. Real men don't cheat on their wives. Real men are responsible and accept the responsiblity that comes from being married and having a family. Real men don't walk out so they can be single again and do thier own thing.

 

[SonicLogic]

He just didn't want to be married to me.

You have over 28,000 posts to this board. I think you're married to the Internet.

 

[Buckalew11]

Soniclogic--how dare you.

 

[SonicLogic]

Soniclogic--how dare you.

Well, she has been a member of this board since 1999 and she has almost 29,000 posts. That breaks down to an average of 13 posts per day to this board alone during a 6 year period. I wonder if she visits other boards as well.

What do you think?