taraprather
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- Jul 17, 2006
This is not disney related but I need someone help me help my husband get through this...
My son is 8 years old. My DH and I have been together since he was 15 months. My ds's real father stopped coming around when he was 2. Well my husband has played the daddy role all these years. My son calls him daddy but he remembers his "father". Well I get a phone call yesterday from his "father". First time I've heard from him in 6 years! We had a long conversation.
Let's back up the past few months.....my son has recently started asking about his father...a lot lately. He cries for him, but not in front of my husband.
So when I get this call, he asks to talk to his son, and I allow it. You should have seen my sons face just light up when I told him who was on the phone. He was jumping up and down with this HUGE smile.
After we hung up the phone I called my husband and told him about this. He was FURIOUS! I can't get him to understand that this is what our son wants and that he will still always be considered his "daddy". He slept on the couch last night and isn't speaking to me. I know he's overreacting, but I'm sure he's terribly hurt by this to. I'm suppose to meet with my sons father today. I told my husband I wanted him to be there to, but he declined in a not so nice way. I don't know what to say to him to see why I am allowing him back in his life. I've said everything I could think of. I am doing this for my sons happiness and no one elses. My son woke me up 3 times last night talking about how excited he was to see his father. It just makes my year to see him this happy. But yet, me and my husband aren't doing so well because of it. I don't want any negative feedback, I'm already stressed and down enough already of this. But if you have any advice or positive feedback, I would appreciate it!
My son is 8 years old. My DH and I have been together since he was 15 months. My ds's real father stopped coming around when he was 2. Well my husband has played the daddy role all these years. My son calls him daddy but he remembers his "father". Well I get a phone call yesterday from his "father". First time I've heard from him in 6 years! We had a long conversation.
Let's back up the past few months.....my son has recently started asking about his father...a lot lately. He cries for him, but not in front of my husband.
So when I get this call, he asks to talk to his son, and I allow it. You should have seen my sons face just light up when I told him who was on the phone. He was jumping up and down with this HUGE smile.
After we hung up the phone I called my husband and told him about this. He was FURIOUS! I can't get him to understand that this is what our son wants and that he will still always be considered his "daddy". He slept on the couch last night and isn't speaking to me. I know he's overreacting, but I'm sure he's terribly hurt by this to. I'm suppose to meet with my sons father today. I told my husband I wanted him to be there to, but he declined in a not so nice way. I don't know what to say to him to see why I am allowing him back in his life. I've said everything I could think of. I am doing this for my sons happiness and no one elses. My son woke me up 3 times last night talking about how excited he was to see his father. It just makes my year to see him this happy. But yet, me and my husband aren't doing so well because of it. I don't want any negative feedback, I'm already stressed and down enough already of this. But if you have any advice or positive feedback, I would appreciate it!