My dd2 was called a BRAT today @Walmart:(

[teacups]

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

 

[SalandJeff]

There are a lot of posts here that are really judgemental. Sometimes kids act up and sometimes you cannot leave the store or shop alone. It is easy to say the parent needs to control the child, but honestly, I am sure that we all have had at least one experience where all our parenting tricks don't work. If someone in the store is annoying you, whether child or adult, go to another aisle. Life these days is stressful...we all need to try and give each other a break when possible.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

Should she have confronted you? No. But you should still have attempted to quiet your child instead of the "public places=noisy" attitude.

I love kids. I'm a sped teacher and I deal with some very aggressive and loud kids all day. When I'm done for the day, the last thing I want to hear is screaming children. I have one child in particular who is a screamer. I can always hear him regarless of where he is in the building, I have sort of developed a sensitivity to his voice. Now whenever I hear little boys screaming, my blood pressure definitely rises. I'm of the camp that you should be able to do your shopping, eat your dinner, etc. in relative peace. If a kid is being that noisy ,the parents need to at least attempt to quiet them and then vacate the situation if need be and able to do so.

This situation happened to me earlier this year at an Indian restaurant. I'd had a really tough day at work and went for an early dinner. I was the only one in the restaurant when these two ladies with a baby came in. That baby came in crying and cried the entire half hour it took for me to get my food and eat it. I very nearly got up and left the restaurant before my food even came. You can bet your boots I was upset they did not remove the child from the situation. I left there more stressed out than when I came in. They obviously did not care how their baby affected others. I didn't confront them, but I have to admit, it was tempting!

 

[kaytieeldr]

Thank you to all the supportive posters......Having 5 children, 4 of whom are in many extracurricular activities and a dh who is out of town for a week and when he is home, works 12 hour days, spends 1 1/2hrs.commuting each day and has limited days off....I don't get many opportunities to shop alone. That said, I will shop anytime I have to and want to, during the day. I do the best I can.

My dd2 has had many non nap days and was a perfect angel, been shopping during the afternoon many times with absolutely no issues.

Well, THIS day your daughter did have issues and was apparently annoying a number of people, only one of whom was assertive enough to speak up.

We all seem to forget the world does not revolve around any of us, and that we need to share it with others.

Did I get annoyed or mad at this woman for the hugea-- motorized thing she was on getting in my way or taking up the entire aisle? Or the annoying beeping noises from the dang thing when she put it in reverse. Or her ugly, dorky looking halloween clothes(she should have been wearing a witch costume to match her personality)? No, its called tolerating and dealing with people/everyday life situations.

Pot, meet kettle. You were so upset over her intolerance at your child's apparently ongoing "screechy, whiny" output, yet here you sit in judgment of her - despite that she did not design the 'hugea-- motorized thing' or have any influence on its size, nore did she have any control over the design and width of Walmart's aisle, and most of all, that she was operating the 'hugea-- motorized thing' exactly as it was designed including the 'annoying beeping noises from the dang thing when she put it in reverse' - the entire purpose of which is to alert others that the 'motorized thing' is in reverse, for safety.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Its amazing to me how some moms are so judgemental and criticising of other moms. We are all doing the same thing. I would think we would be more supportive and understanding of each other. Not say, "you shouldn't have done this or you should have done that".

Frankly, it's amazing to ME that you're so outraged at only the posters who do not agree with you.

 

[just4today]

Kids are SUPPOSED to misbehave in Walmart. It's WALMART, and we all know the kind of people who shop there. Let's be honest.

Really?

Relax, it's a joke.

I see. To help those of us who are comically-challenged and not tuned into the subtle nuances of your words on the screen, a little winking smilie at the end is useful

It's sad to see the OP hasn't come back to the thread. No doubt she's still reading. Hopefully this thread will give you something to think about next time you take your DD out shopping, even if it has to be at Walmart. Oh the horrors!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Well, THIS day your daughter did have issues and was apparently annoying a number of people, only one of whom was assertive enough to speak up.

We all seem to forget the world does not revolve around any of us, and that we need to share it with others.

Pot, meet kettle. You were so upset over her intolerance at your child's apparently ongoing "screechy, whiny" output, yet here you sit in judgment of her - despite that she did not design the 'hugea-- motorized thing' or have any influence on its size, nore did she have any control over the design and width of Walmart's aisle, and most of all, that she was operating the 'hugea-- motorized thing' exactly as it was designed including the 'annoying beeping noises from the dang thing when she put it in reverse' - the entire purpose of which is to alert others that the 'motorized thing' is in reverse, for safety.

Maybe she was annoyed because it interfered with her dd's "right" to hear her own voice?

 

[MIGrandma]

Really?



I see. To help those of us who are comically-challenged and not tuned into the subtle nuances of your words on the screen, a little winking smilie at the end is useful
It's sad to see the OP hasn't come back to the thread. No doubt she's still reading. Hopefully this thread will give you something to think about next time you take your DD out shopping, even if it has to be at Walmart. Oh the horrors!

 

[luvmy3]

Well, THIS day your daughter did have issues and was apparently annoying a number of people, only one of whom was assertive enough to speak up.

We all seem to forget the world does not revolve around any of us, and that we need to share it with others.
Pot, meet kettle. You were so upset over her intolerance at your child's apparently ongoing "screechy, whiny" output, yet here you sit in judgment of her - despite that she did not design the 'hugea-- motorized thing' or have any influence on its size, nore did she have any control over the design and width of Walmart's aisle, and most of all, that she was operating the 'hugea-- motorized thing' exactly as it was designed including the 'annoying beeping noises from the dang thing when she put it in reverse' - the entire purpose of which is to alert others that the 'motorized thing' is in reverse, for safety.

The lady who confronted the OP seemed to forget this too, no?

Also, complaining to people on an internet message board is quite a bit different from confronting someone and their child face to face because of your own intolernace. Maybe instead of walking up to a 2 year old and calling her a brat, the woman could have come home and just vented on the internet. I'm guessing you wouldn't be calling her judgemental now would you

 

[MushyMushy]

Is it really so horrible and taboo that someone calls a kid a brat these days?

It seemed pretty routine when I was a kid!

 

[Tikitoi]

Kids are SUPPOSED to misbehave in Walmart. It's WALMART, and we all know the kind of people who shop there. Let's be honest.

It's your type of hate and prejudice that lets postings like these show peoples true colors. Try to have a nice day.

 

[Kennywife]

Originally Posted by 5 'LIL *TWINKERS*
Did I get annoyed or mad at this woman for the hugea-- motorized thing she was on getting in my way or taking up the entire aisle? Or the annoying beeping noises from the dang thing when she put it in reverse. Or her ugly, dorky looking halloween clothes(she should have been wearing a witch costume to match her personality)? No, its called tolerating and dealing with people/everyday life situations.

WOW! I can't believe you would even think about all that especially a handicap person and then to post it. I know you were mad but That doesn't help your case in my opinion.

I have disabilites and have had to use an ECV several times. I will be using one at WDW this fall for a travel writing assignment. I have a crushed tibia femur bone from a fall down two stairs. TWO. "Those hugea** motorized things" are often what we utilize to help us get around. We can't help it that it takes up the aisle. It's a big chair! Do you think we like it when we come across kids running in aisles or in restaurants where they could trip someone and the parents say nothing? No.

I'm not saying what the lady did was right. I wouldn't do it myself. But I have thought it. I am sensitive to noise due to Epilepsy and loud screams can bring on seizures. I try to shop at odd hours (as well as online) to avoid this, but sometimes, it can't be avoided. Which is why I bring my ipod with me.

Anna

 

[wdwfan16]

Kids are SUPPOSED to misbehave in Walmart. It's WALMART, and we all know the kind of people who shop there. Let's be honest.

You really believe this? I saw your update and I am glad it was a joke. Next time throw a smilie after and we will all be in on your joke.

 

[teacups]

It's sad to see the OP hasn't come back to the thread. No doubt she's still reading. :

Doubt she's still reading.

 

[luvmy3]

Is it really so horrible and taboo that someone calls a kid a brat these days?

It seemed pretty routine when I was a kid!

IMO yes it is horrible to walk up to a 2 year old toddler and call them a brat because they are doing typical 2 year old things.
Not to mention that I learned at a very young age that it wasn't nice to call anyone names, and I would think an adult wouldn't stoop to the level of a child and use name calling tactics. I wonder if this woman would be so cavelier to call her boss a name, or another adult, I highly doubt it.
It says alot about a person when they choose to resort to name calling with a 2 year old, there's probably a whole section in my old abnormal psych textbook about people who would do something like that

 

[belle&sebastiansmom]

This thread is still going?

Has anyone said anything new and enlightening over the night?

 

[luvmy3]

This thread is still going?

Has anyone said anything new and enlightening over the night?

Did you check out the link to the people of walmart site? Now that was enlightening

 

[wvjules]

From the OP

This lady says, "can you control your kid". I said "excuse me". She said it again and that she didn't want to listen to it. I said "what do you want me to do, beat her?" She said "control her" I said "maybe you shouldn't be in a public place like walmart then". She then preceded to call her a brat

She didn't walk up to the child and call her a brat. She first asked the OP to control her kid, then OP engaged her, then she called the kid a brat.

She did sound bratty to me but I would never say it unless it was grating on my last nerve and the mother was doing nothing to control the kid.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Wow, what vitriol!

I can't comprehend that anyone is taking the rude woman's side....including the cursing even. It's OK in your book that she called her a b----?

Where;s the curse? Any word that can be used on broadcast television - and that one is, regularly - isn't a swear/curse. Frankly, in this instance, it appears to be the adult-applicable version of "brat".

Your post sounds about as much as the "me" generation as the other side does. There's no inherent right for you to shop is a perfectly quiet store, either.

I NEVER go to Walmart, but I can't recall seeing a child that really bothered me at a store in recent memory. Of course, I don't go around looking for children -- or their parents -- to hate on, either.

Well, there's moset assuredly no inherent right for one person to distrub the peace of many. None of us goes looking for children -- or their parents -- to hate on(?); I'm sure the other shopper in this incident surely neither went looking, nore 'hated on' the child or the parent. Instead, the screeching seems to have been going on for more than just a few seconds; for whatever reason, the other customer was bothered by the noise. Maybe it was the constant, annoying screech; maybe it was the decibel level; could be any reason.

It's extremely likely that MANY customers were disturbed or annoyed, but only one chose to speak up.

A two year old can't always be controlled, just because you (general you) were able to control your pefect little snowflake in the perfect manner does not mean it works for everyone. And like it has been said, it is not always possible for a parent to just up and leave the store.

Respectfully, why not? What, exactly, is holding the parent in the store? Why can the parent not remove the child to the car where only the parent will be disturbed, or at least off to the side out in the open where the noise will dissipate?