my college kids

[Tiggeroo]

are ticking me off. The house is a mess. I've been taking down decorations and nobody is helping. The one dd when I said we're going to clean up the house and take down the decs finally decided, at that moment, to clean her room and get the mountain of laundry done. I've been bugging her about this for 3 weeks at least. The one college son was sleeping til I woke him up about an hour and a half ago. Since then he's been puttsing around, in the bathroom, making iced tea, moving a pile from one place to the other. The third college son finally came out and took the lights off the tree, after I did all the other decs and put away all the decs in the room. Now he's playing a video game. He never plays video games.
I just told them i'm going to take everybody's debit cards and car keys. Then i'm going to leave, go to the movies for as many shows as it takes, and not come home til they call me and say it's all done, including mopping the kitchen floor. AAARGH.

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

Sounds familiar to my house. My family took down the decorations on Monday. My brother spent the whole time in a huff and complaining about having to be home to do this. He kept complaining until I reminded him that he didn't even help to put them up, my DBF did. My brother also does his laundry like once every two weeks. He insists that shoving all his clothes into the drier until it can't hold anymore is the best way to go. Then they stay out in the dryer for about a week, or until someone else takes them out. If your kids do this, I am sorry, because my brother does it and it annoys the heck out of me. My brother insists that if he is not working or in class he canno be home. It is "not cool" to stay home and he must go out the the girlfriend at all times. It just boggles my mind.

I like your idea. Take their keys and debit cards and go give yourself some time off. With three kids in college I bet you deserve it.

 

[bsnyder]

Ahhh, I feel your pain, Tigeroo. Isn't it time for them to go back to school yet?

Actually, this break has been a good one for us, but I attribute that to the fact that both my boys haven't been here continuously for the entire month. Older son went to Ft. Lauderdale for a few days after Christmas to visit his girlfriend while younger son went to a house party in North Carolina. Then they were both home for New Years. This week, older son is spending a few nights in Ft. Myers with a college buddy and younger son went to Miami to meet up with some fraternity brothers and watch the Rose Bowl.

I'm now realizing that having a few days here and there with them gone makes the long break a lot more enjoyable for all of us.

 

[Tiggeroo]

it's even worst. Both boys got their wisdom teeth out the Friday before NYE and still aren't feeling quite right. One son broke his hand really badly. It's been an endless round of dr's and cat scans. They just decided on surgery and that won't be til next Friday. But he's well enough to hang with his friends, go to the mall, text message over his minutes, go get coffee at the diner with girls, etc. And here I am cleaning up after everybody. I will lose it.
BJW, yep that's their way of doing things. They're in school or work or out with friends, leaving a mess along the way cause they're always hurrying. They started laundry mountain two days before the wisdome teeth surgery and I ended up finishing it because they were both laid up.

 

[Ragnrok23]

I remember being home form college one summer when my parents were painting the house, since they never asked me to help, I didn't offer my services

Now I feel bad 5 years later that when I start fixing up my house they will be there almost everyday helping me

 

[Tiggeroo]

remember being home form college one summer when my parents were painting the house, since they never asked me to help, I didn't offer my services

yep that would be my boys. But the one spent a couple months rehabbing houses so he now points out projects that we should do. HAHAHA

 

[sue1013]

As much as I was looking forward to DS coming home for the break I will not be sad for him to go back. Either I have selective memory or he has just gotten way more sloppy since he's been at school. My washer and dryer is in the basement there is a pile of his clothes as high as the washer he keeps trying to get me to do it. I'm sure he'll be bringing dirty clothes back with him!

 

[Tiggeroo]

My one son is community college so he's here all year. But he's the only one and his behavior is much different when it's just him. The dd has one more week. The other son was supposed to go back for track practice yesterday but with the broken arm that's off. His school has a huge break so depending on when he's healed he could be here for as long as second week in Feb. It's when both boys are here that it gets crazy. Throw in the sloppy dd and well I'm ready to scream.

 

[mafibisha]

it's even worst. Both boys got their wisdom teeth out the Friday before NYE and still aren't feeling quite right. One son broke his hand really badly. It's been an endless round of dr's and cat scans. They just decided on surgery and that won't be til next Friday. But he's well enough to hang with his friends, go to the mall, text message over his minutes, go get coffee at the diner with girls, etc. And here I am cleaning up after everybody. I will lose it.
BJW, yep that's their way of doing things. They're in school or work or out with friends, leaving a mess along the way cause they're always hurrying. They started laundry mountain two days before the wisdome teeth surgery and I ended up finishing it because they were both laid up.

A little off topic but wow, there seem to be alot of us here who have college kids getting wisdom teeth extracted! How long were they out of commission, or unable to really function?

My DS did ok (removed yesterday - thursday) but is very swollen and in pain. But he seems more worried thinking ALL his teeth were moved around by the procedure and will end up doing more harm than good. Anyone know? He still wears his retainer occastionally at night to keep them aligned and is thinking they're totally different now. Thoughts? Experiences?

 

[Tiggeroo]

the oral surgeon we went to was swamped with college kids getting wisdom teeth out. My one son wanted to go hang with his friends 3 hours later. I made him wait til that evening and only get him go to a friends house where they were just going to sit around watching movies. The other son has felt pretty badly. It's been a week and he just told me today that his molars are all hurting. He also is the one who read every stich of paper they gave him and followed every direction to the tee. He's used most of the pain meds too while the other son never even took one.

 

[mtdevine615]

Tiggeroo, it's time to start taking names and kicking a$$. We had to lay down the law a couple of weeks ago. You know the one, our house, our rules. Didn't go over to well at first, but it better now. I like your idea of taking the debt cards and keys and not coming back until everything is done. Good luck.

 

[Tiggeroo]

i gave them a time limit and said if you don't help me by this time i'm taking the things. You will split the cost of snacks and however many movies it takes til it's done. I was set to see Kong and Narnia but they got up and got things done. The tree's out of here and things are relatively neat.
But that's not the end of it. They're either going to have to get it together or we'll be having stupid chore charts. I hate chore charts.

 

[Michie]

I always give my boys a list of things I need for them to do, and they usually do it. They were gone fishing for a few days, but that was okay. I had the house to myself

I always give them a curfew, tell them I am not running a flop house. They have even been taking turns taking their sister to school. Ok, so they both have the hots for her teacher but, hey, who I am I not take advantage of a situation.

 

[Lynn CC]

Our DS has been home since 12/15 and will go back MLK Day,
We love having him home. His buddies from HS and college have been here vacationing with him for the most part, and his cousin who is in his first year of college too. They are a great bunch and very grateful. They clean up after themselves and I can't say it's been a problem at all. They do stay up till 4 am though, playing pool, video and board games, good thing our bedroom is on another wing, we can't hear a word! DH and I love having him around, can't wait until the summer when he'll be home 4 months.
Think of it this way, it won't be much longer until they are completely out on their own and have their own home, I'm enjoying this transition stage while I still can!!

 

[klmall]

As much as I love my one and only, DS, a sophomore in college, I will be very happy to send him back to school around the 15th. While he is at home most of the time (his best friends are out of town) he is on the phone constantly and up all hours of the night! He is actually working most of vacation, continuing his summer job at our insistence so he can go back to it this coming summer but it's a real pain for us to try to get him to sleep and get up to work. Since he works for the same employer we have, we feel getting to work on time is a MUST!

And like everyone else, his path through the house is marked by soda cans, trash and dirty clothes. Messes everywhere.......Yikes! And his room is a pigsty! He complains that his college roommate is even worse....Yeah! Sure!

He too, had his wisdom teeth out as a senior in high school and it was a painful experience. One tooth was completely sideways and two others were totally impacted. Our insurance tried to balk at coverage for the fourth tooth just because it was "normal" but the surgeon fought saying it would cause misalignment. He bled a great deal and had a tough time with the painkillers but the swelling wasn't too bad. Too bad he didn't take after me! I still have all mine---the dentist says I'm one of the few people with a mouth big enough for all my wisdom teeth. I think it was at least 5 days of recovery for him.

I'm always glad to see him come home from school (two hours away) but very happy to send him back! I enjoy "empty-nesting" with the quiet house, easy meals, house the way I left it, and freedom to use his room to relax in! DH misses him quite a bit since they are online game and sports buds.

Oh and the other common college kid surgery around here is getting tonsils out! Two friends had their kids' tonsils out because they were tired of infections etc. away at school!

It's really hard to discipline college kids when it comes to chores, isn't it? We debate this constantly!

A frustrated Mom!

 

[Tiggeroo]

Our DS has been home since 12/15 and will go back MLK Day,
We love having him home. His buddies from HS and college have been here vacationing with him for the most part, and his cousin who is in his first year of college too. They are a great bunch and very grateful. They clean up after themselves and I can't say it's been a problem at all. They do stay up till 4 am though, playing pool, video and board games, good thing our bedroom is on another wing, we can't hear a word! DH and I love having him around, can't wait until the summer when he'll be home 4 months.
Think of it this way, it won't be much longer until they are completely out on their own and have their own home, I'm enjoying this transition stage while I still can!!

believe it or not I love having the kids home. All their friends are here and it just feels like home again. I'm just having a hard time dealing with discipline, pretty much only over household stuff. I don't want to be cleaning up after 5 adults who are staying up late, sleeping in and having a good time every day. We're not on the same page about what is neat either.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

my brother (19) and i (21) live at home all of the time (he goes to community, and i commute to my university)...We are the complete opposite in that i will clean up after myself and do typical chores around the house every day--he doesnt...

As for the wisdom teeth-i got mine done right befoer thanksgiving last year--LOTS of college kids in the office--I followed the directions and felt miserable for a while..the one side of my mouth got infected and had to go back every 2 days to get it packed

 

[mafibisha]

Our DS has been home since 12/15 and will go back MLK Day,
We love having him home. His buddies from HS and college have been here vacationing with him for the most part, and his cousin who is in his first year of college too. They are a great bunch and very grateful. They clean up after themselves and I can't say it's been a problem at all. They do stay up till 4 am though, playing pool, video and board games, good thing our bedroom is on another wing, we can't hear a word! DH and I love having him around, can't wait until the summer when he'll be home 4 months.
Think of it this way, it won't be much longer until they are completely out on their own and have their own home, I'm enjoying this transition stage while I still can!!

Oh I love having ours home, too. The house just doesn't feel complete otherwise! I always get so sad when its time for school to start again, almost like its the first day of school in the fall when I first see the "big yellow" comes around the corner

 

[Lynn CC]

A little off topic but wow, there seem to be alot of us here who have college kids getting wisdom teeth extracted! How long were they out of commission, or unable to really function?

My DS did ok (removed yesterday - thursday) but is very swollen and in pain. But he seems more worried thinking ALL his teeth were moved around by the procedure and will end up doing more harm than good. Anyone know? He still wears his retainer occastionally at night to keep them aligned and is thinking they're totally different now. Thoughts? Experiences?

My DS didn't wear his retainers for quite a while after his wisdom teeth were removed, I think it was about a month... (they still fit, he didn't have to get new retainers after having his wisdom teeth out). He wears them about once a week to bed just to keep everything aligned. He's had his braces off for 5 years now. You can check with his orthodontist to see what he suggests for your DS, or even ask his oral surgeon, I don't think he should be wearing them right after surgery!