My biggest parenting meltdown.

[Rainwater]

Sounds to me like this guy is a pretty good parent so I wouldn't worry too much about having to ever deal with his son.
The kid was just pushing his dad's buttons, as were all the other kids that were mentioned. They're teens, it's gonna happen, daily, for at least a couple years. No one involved is terrible. The teens will most likely grow up and mature and become respectable adults.
Don't you worry about a thing darlin'. C'est la vie.



I don't think someone with the parenting style to "ignore, ignore, ignore" would go away for a super hands on, week long, one on one vacation with their teen.
And by rolling down the window numerous times asking him what was up proves he wasn't ignoring anyone. I personally would have sat there and continued talking on the phone or drove away, THAT'S how you ignore.

Just sayin'.

This is where we disagree. I have seen kids like this, and they tend to grow up and become more of a problem to society. More then likely, this father is a proponent of the if you don't stop right now, "I'm going to count to three" and then you are really going to be in trouble crowd.

 

[mariolatry]

My mother used to get so sick of my DB and I fighting in the backseat of the car that she'd start smacking her arm back between the two front seats and whomever got whacked, got whacked. It always looked like someone had thrown a big flopping arm-trout into the midst of the backseat, and we were left scrambling to avoid the smack-a-thon. FYI, always sit behind the driver's seat if you have a choice.

 

[ckay87]

Most here seem to think this situation is funny. I see it as the teen having very little respect for his dad. Wonder why that is? Could it be the 'parenting style' is IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE until you snap?

I read this thread for the SOLE purpose of seeing how long it took for the perfect parenting police to show up. 5 pages, it has to be a record for this forum.

Ok, I'm going back to my reading. This should be good.....

 

[Tikitoi]

Most here seem to think this situation is funny. I see it as the teen having very little respect for his dad. Wonder why that is? Could it be the 'parenting style' is IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE until you snap?

I couldn't agree more. I see nothing funny about this. I would never put up with my child hitting me. But I guess if the OP thinks it's so funny, I'm just glad the child only hit him, and no one else. No respect for your parent is not funny.

 

[iwrbnd]

My mother used to get so sick of my DB and I fighting in the backseat of the car that she'd start smacking her arm back between the two front seats and whomever got whacked, got whacked. It always looked like someone had thrown a big flopping arm-trout into the midst of the backseat, and we were left scrambling to avoid the smack-a-thon. FYI, always sit behind the driver's seat if you have a choice.

 

[iwrbnd]

Reading "naughty kid" stories from past generations gives me hope that ours isn't so bad! When I was going through tough times with my DS my mom told me her brother didn't want to help on the farm and was being a royal pain so my grandpa took a 2X4 and chased him! OMG! I can't even picture my respectable/businessman uncle ever being a pain or my sweet grandpa chasing him with a 2X4! It made me laugh and feel better knowing I've never had to do THAT to my teen!


Also, research shows that what makes close relationships between siblings when we grow up isn't how many fights we had but how many experiences we share. So, if you never fight with your sibling because you pretty much ignore each other you probably won't be close. However, if you fight like cats and dogs but do a lot of things together (chores, meals, vacations, playing) you will probably be close as adults. That research study makes me feel better when my kids are ready to kill each other!

 

[EveDallas]

This is where we disagree. I have seen kids like this, and they tend to grow up and become more of a problem to society. More then likely, this father is a proponent of the if you don't stop right now, "I'm going to count to three" and then you are really going to be in trouble crowd.

I do the "count to three" thing a lot. I firmly believe that a child needs a chance to correct his/her behavior. Guess what? I've never gotten to three. My kiddo knows what will happen if I do.

 

[cheermom1]

Since it went to sibs. I have a story! Ok I was 16 my bro was 15, I was taking a shower and my bro LOVED to play jokes on me but most of his "jokes" involved snakes, spiders, and such. I was washing my hair and I often close my eyes, when I opened them there was this huge nasty spider staring at me!! It took a couple of seconds to realize it was a plastic on on a string. I grabbed that thing and yanked it as hard as I could. I opened the shower curtain and there was my bro just staring in shock like I can;t believe you just did that. Then it was my eyes my eyes that he was chanting and trying to run! I put on my robe and grabbed my dads steel toe boot and knocked a hole in the door (in front of him) and stuffed it in the hole. I then took the plaster that my mom got for somehting and plastered it over and looked at him and said "Now get your damn spider!"

Needless to say i was very mad and it was the last straw, he NEVER did anything like that me ever again!

 

[minkydog]

This is where we disagree. I have seen kids like this, and they tend to grow up and become more of a problem to society. More then likely, this father is a proponent of the if you don't stop right now, "I'm going to count to three" and then you are really going to be in trouble crowd.

OH please... our kids were raised in a strong Christian home, with two married parents, a SAHM, cultural experiences, very little TV, and no video games until the age of 17. We don't spank, scream, ridicule, tease,curse, or call names. Our home is for the most part loving and harmonious. Our kids' friends come here because it's not chaotic like their homes. However, my oldest was a real hellion through HS. Bad enough that we nearly put him in foster care because he was so unruly. DD17 & DS14 have never given me a whole day's trouble. All three were raised in the same environment and yet we had one who decided to be wayward. He was almost immune to discipline. The two lines he never crossed were physical violence and drug use. Thank God for that.

Now DS is 23. He's an upstanding citizen. He takes his sister, DD17, on brother-sister dates to the movies or Starbucks. He never hesitates to say I love you. Even though he lives away from home now, he's back at the house several nights a week for dinner or cards. We have had a lot of tough moments with this kid, but we always held our ground. I have no doubt that he will continue to mature and be a fine husband and father. And I hope he has a kid just like himself.

 

[Aisling]

This is one of the best threads I've read in a long time. Hilarious in so many ways!


Reminds me of my unruly sister who used to hide under the bed when she caused my mother to melt-down. The fabric under the box spring was torn to shreds by the time she moved out. I guess she had nothing else to do under there "waiting for my father to come home"!

 

[bored]

i did something similar to my mom when I was twelve. A well placed backhand by the 5'1" redhead made sure it never happened again!

 

[cheermom1]

This one is funny, one of my mom's melt downs...I was around 12 I guess so my little brother was around 7 I think? Anyway we lived in a VERY small town think so small that the town square was the school and one gas station and that was it!! My bro made my mom mad I have no idea what he did but he was famous for it if someone asked who did it, everyone pointed their finger at him! I heard mom yelling and my bro screaming so I came into the kitchen and my mom was chasing him with a belt, she never got to him as he darted under the table and out the door, mom was still going around the table with that darn belt. After a few rounds around the table I stopped her and she looked at me and she said "he left didn't he?" I said yes mom we both burst into laughter. My bro wasn't seen till dinner.

Just an FYI my bro was safe as we are kin to EVERYONE in that little town! The population is 167 not kidding.

 

[Wall-E1]

I read this thread for the SOLE purpose of seeing how long it took for the perfect parenting police to show up. 5 pages, it has to be a record for this forum.

Ok, I'm going back to my reading. This should be good.....

May I be so kind as to point you over to my new thread, where I analyze these perfect parents...

 

[Wall-E1]

I read this thread for the SOLE purpose of seeing how long it took for the perfect parenting police to show up. 5 pages, it has to be a record for this forum.

Ok, I'm going back to my reading. This should be good.....

And allow me to include the link this time...
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2442207

 

[cheermom1]

And allow me to include the link this time...
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2442207

I did go there and I read it and I have to say that I do agree with you but I I can;t wait to see the responses you get!!

 

[wdwmom2]

I did go there and I read it and I have to say that I do agree with you but I I can;t wait to see the responses you get!!

I will not be able to post there, I am far from perfect!!! But I do try my best.

Should be an interesting read, not sure how long it will last.

 

[wdwmom2]

Dang, I think it's gone.

 

[cheermom1]

Dang, I think it's gone.

I know I couldn't find it either!!!

they can come into any thread without being asked but we can't do the same?

 

[PoppyGirl]

Yes, but on a positive note, he is not paranoid about the U.S. Census. So, there is hope for him.

That is the funniest thing I've read all day!

 

[disneyjunkie]

I know I couldn't find it either!!!

they can come into any thread without being asked but we can't do the same?

I came to this thread after reading the other thread. It went poof while I was posting.

While in the world would it be ok to start a thread bashing other DISer by name.

I don't understand while some posters have a problem with people commenting on what they post. Those of us who don't want posters to comment and/or past judgement on our parenting styles, shouldn't post about our parenting issues.

The DIS is a funny place. Last month I found out I was a bad parent because I didn't freak out over the music my son listened to. This month I find out I'm a perfect parent because my son was have never gotten away with what the boy in the OP did.

I wish I could just find one group and stick with it.