My 9 year old seems to think I'm his woman servant...

[nliedel]

I would just ignore him. Walk around like you don't hear him. My almost 9 year old does this to my husband and we will not respond until he is kind. I have no idea why he thinks he can sit in a room and scream, "DAD!" at the top of his lungs and get a polite reply.

 

[Disney Doll]

ITA! I do have to say - it seems a lot harder these days to raise respectful children when they are surrounded by music, t.v. shows, athletes, etc. that seem to undermine this endeavor. Smart-mouth, sassy, and flippant is 'in'.

Well, then perhaps as the parent you need to limit their exposure to music, TV, athletes etc. with the explanation that since they are learning such bad behavior from these sources, they will not be allowed to view, see, read or in any way be exposed to these sources.

My God, people, these are children, you are parents!!!!!!!!!!! Do your job!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't leave it for the rest of us to have to deal with and then come crying when little Johnny gets in trouble that it's not fair.

 

[KAMLEM]

Does your DH speak to you like that? Many times kids are just repeating what they hear from their parents.

 

[mickeyboat]

If all children were perfect, they wouldn't need parents. It's a child's job to test their parents, it's a parent's job to teach their children acceptable limits and behavior.

Don't assume that the OP and others who have similar problems with their children (myself included at times) aren't working to teach their children what is appropriate behavior. The OP isn't saying that she allows it, or that her son is not being disciplined for it, or that she likes it. She is only sharing some of the trials and tribulations of being a parent. I am sure we all can agree that parenting is not an easy task.

And as much as I absolutely hate to say this, when those of you who don't have children actually have children of your own, feel free to criticize.

Denae

 

[carolfoy]

Wow! if my child 'told' me to get him a glass of water, I'd gladly do so then throw it all over him he wouldn't 'tell' me to do it again that's for sure

 

[eyeoreismyhero]

My 6 year old is the same way. he says I have to do everything for him because I'm the Mommy and he's the little kid. He even calls me woman sometimes the little punk.

Someone has taught this child the right way when he was young!

 

[CapeCodTenor]

I'd have to pull him aside and have a nice long talk with him. And if that doesn't work, stop feeding him. I'm not saying starve him, just make him fend for himself for a couple of days when it comes to meals. He may like it in the beginning, but it'll change quickly.

 

[punkin]

Does your DH speak to you like that? Many times kids are just repeating what they hear from their parents.

Good question. Even more appropriate for the poster who said her 6 yr ol cals her "woman." I bet I knoe where he heard that.

 

[cleo]

If he's been told more than twice and he's still doing it, he has some reason to think it's ok. Someone he looks up to is giving him the impression this is the way children/boys/men treat their mother/parents/women/adults. I'd find out where he's getting this horrible example and put a stop to THAT right away.

It isn't going to get better by requiring a 'please'. 9 isn't too old to spank (if you spank) but 13 is, and it's going to get much, much worse if it isn't stopped now.

In my home, that sort of demand would put an end to whatever he's doing (friends go home, video games go off, dinner ((for him)) is ended). Very unpleasant consequences (obviously, no violence) are in order or he's going to be ordering you around a whole lot more, and pretty soon, he's going to be bigger than you. Nope....that sort of talk can be stopped, and quickly, with some very firm consequences. Find out who talks to others that way in his presence and put and end to that, too.

 

[VickiVM]

Well, then perhaps as the parent you need to limit their exposure to music, TV, athletes etc. with the explanation that since they are learning such bad behavior from these sources, they will not be allowed to view, see, read or in any way be exposed to these sources.

My God, people, these are children, you are parents!!!!!!!!!!! Do your job!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't leave it for the rest of us to have to deal with and then come crying when little Johnny gets in trouble that it's not fair.

I wasn't implying that media is raising my children, thank you very much. Short of living in a cave, you cannont escape the influences. Especially when this behavior is modeled by their peers in school.

 

[crazee4mickey]

ITA! I do have to say - it seems a lot harder these days to raise respectful children when they are surrounded by music, t.v. shows, athletes, etc. that seem to undermine this endeavor. Smart-mouth, sassy, and flippant is 'in'.

I wouldn't say it is any harder.
My kids know not to be disrespectful and they have manners and they have been surrounded by all of these things.
Sure I don't totally agree with the messages which are sometimes relayed on TV (The Simpsons, South Park, lots of shows) or in music (Eminem, Marilyn Manson,etc.) but our kids watch and listen to this stuff and they know right from wrong, because we, as their parents, taught them that---plain and simple.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't allow my kids to get away with talking to me that way, but it doesn't mean that they never do. My 6yo often tries to push my buttons, but we make him stop and rephrase his request. He has to ask nicely--use please and say thank you. It kills him sometimes, but normally he does it without being reminded. Some kids are slower learners.