My 3 boys and fighting

[momoftimtylerandbrad]

I have three boys who are tim 7, tyler 13, and brad 16. And these days they are always fighting or killin one another, i just don't know what to do. We are going to Disney World in three days and I don't think I will be able to handle it if they fight when we are on vacation, what should I do?

 

[JCTigger]

In my family we have about the same age diffrence...I would suggest that maybe to let your older kids cool off let them spend time alone. I dont know how strict you are about letting your kids go off on thier own but my folks did let us when I was about 13 we could go off in the same park as our folks but meet up with them a few times a day for meals and such but as we got older we were able to go from park to park and meet up for supper or something... its a nice way to cool off im sure they will come back to the hotel with a better attitude... I hope this helps and if not you could always just lock them up in the hotel room and have fun in the parks with out them

Have a fun trip!

 

[Schmeck]

Well, you don't have much time for family therapy before your trip...

Set some ground rules, follow through on them.

Take plenty of breaks, go back to the hotel and swim.

Give each child a job for the day - plan our rides, where to eat, etc.

Just keep them so busy and tired that they can't bug each other!

 

[MelodyMack]

I agree with the previous poster about setting rules and following through. My friend told her two boys that one fight and they would leave the park and go back to the hotel. Of course on the first day, they started in on each other, and even though she was MISERABLE about it, she walked them right out of the park and took them back to the hotel. They cried and were shocked that mom was serious. Two hours later she told them one more chance, but if they started up again they would leave again and spend the whole day in the hotel. Those kids were angels the rest of the time because now they KNEW she wasn't bluffing. One day of misery was worth it for the five good ones that followed....

No flames please, but you might try a really fun reward system. No fighting/squabbling will earn them something while on vacation...call it what you want...bribery works for me. To be honest, I'm not above it, and I say whatever will get you happy memories of your family vacation is worth considering.

Good luck....
Mel

 

[eric69]

Your Kids sound like me and my brother i'm 13 and he is 7, we went to disney world last month and I tortured him none stop down there, pushed him back in the pool when he wanted to get out, sat on his back putting him in head locks when we were in the hotel room, then the day we were in magic kingdom, he was really bugging me so I turned kicked him in the nuts 2 times, got him in a head lock, poured soda on him, gave him a atomic wedgie, and punched him in the back.

I think your kids should go and if they fight they fight who cares brothers all the fight with each other

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

I agree with the previous poster about setting rules and following through. My friend told her two boys that one fight and they would leave the park and go back to the hotel. Of course on the first day, they started in on each other, and even though she was MISERABLE about it, she walked them right out of the park and took them back to the hotel. They cried and were shocked that mom was serious. Two hours later she told them one more chance, but if they started up again they would leave again and spend the whole day in the hotel. Those kids were angels the rest of the time because now they KNEW she wasn't bluffing. One day of misery was worth it for the five good ones that followed....

No flames please, but you might try a really fun reward system. No fighting/squabbling will earn them something while on vacation...call it what you want...bribery works for me. To be honest, I'm not above it, and I say whatever will get you happy memories of your family vacation is worth considering.

Good luck....
Mel

LOL
I'm so not above bribery for good behavior either. I prefer to call it motivation to behave though.... LOL My kids just do better with motivation TO behave rather than punishment if they don't. Besides, I have THREE kids.. not fair to punish them all on vacation because ONE is misbehaving... so they just miss out on the "bribery"- it works for us. LOL

 

[daisyduck123]

Start the day out giving each of them some Disney Dollars. Tell them that each time any of them fight...the fighting kids have to give mom BACK a Disney Dollar. That has worked in the car on long car trips with my DD10 & DS7.