Mourning my lost trip

[mikesmom]

My family is such a pain sometimes! Had 2 bedroom reserved at VWL for 5/8-15. Work has been stressful and I've been dreaming of sitting on that lakefront doing pretty much nothing. And going to the Flower Festival.

Anyway, DS at college hasn't found a part time job and needs to use that time to look. (Or to work!) Plus we probably don't need to spend money on park passes just in case he needs a temporary financial boost. And DH thinks we don't really need a vacation in May if we're going to HH in June. He thinks 3 days for the 2 of us at HH is somehow equivalent to a family trip for 7 days at WDW. I don't agree, but there's no point in vacationing with 2 unhappy males. So, I'm cancelling next week. Not really too much risk of losing the points as we have a Feb use year and I can reallocate most of the points. I'm just mourning the trip as I cancelled a quick trip last Christmas because DS had a holiday job. Now another cancellation. (sigh)

 

[MermaidsMom]

I have been there and feel your pain!! I suggest that you plan a spa day for yourself in HH and visit the nearest Disney Store asap.

 

[bjakmom]

Oh No ! - hate to loose a vacation, especially when you need it the most! - you'd better get busy planning the 'next' trip to take your mind off your loss just a little.

I long for the days when my growing/grown kids were little and I was still in charge of their lives ! - trying to plan/replan family vacations has gotten way too complicated now that they're running the show!

 

[Deemarch]

Hey, its even better when the kids are totally on their own!!!!

You are a good mom, thinking of your son. You kindness will come back to you!

He will GROW UP AND MOVE OUT...someday...Then its all for you!

 

[kweaver]

Maybe this is totally out of the question with your family...but I'd consider keeping the reservation and taking a friend with me instead!

 

[jekjones1558]

Is there no end to the flexibility of mom??

mikesmom:
Tell me how you will save your points. You can reallocate even if you cancel within 30 days?

 

[mikesmom]

Deemarch:
He has moved out - he's in college 90 miles away. He just hasn't grown UP. (Anybody know how long that takes?!)

Jekjones:
I called MS last week to see how bad the damage was because I wanted to get the straight scoop on the deal. They said I could reallocate some pooints to our HH trip in June and some to our trip in October for Food & Wine Fest (although I can't reallocate them until 60 days out from our ressie). I've still got 91 points floating loose that I could lose, but I do have until Feb to rent them or use them.

I wonder how long a trip at VB I could get BY MYSELF!!!

 

[OkieDisney]

I am also so sad about this for you, particularly since I
couldn't help you out....

If you need company on a trip, just holler. I can
always be talked into a trip!

Karen

 

[wdwstar]

since your the one that really needs the vacation time, how about joining all of us solo's for the members homecoming. your more then welcome to join us and hang out with us. I know the MH ticket issue, $$$. even if you go with us and dont want to attend members homecoming, that would be ok

 

[Beast fan]

While I was still "growing up", my parents always took off without me.
And personally, I cannot believe that there are no "part-time" jobs available near school. Up until last January, I was working my full-time job, plus 20-35 hrs/wk. at McD's, plus trying to find time to be a DH (don't ask me what my DW thinks the "D" stood for! ) and a Dad. He may not want a "McD's" type job, but something is better than nothing.

Good luck!

Dave

 

[OneMoreTry]

"Hope deferred makes the heart sick." Proverbs.

When does DH want to take a trip? That's something to plan for. SO, don't buy park tickets. With DVC you can go quite cheaply. Do some of your own cooking and just hang out like you said.

A trip lost is a trip gained somewhere else, isn't it?



We're gonna have DD looking for a job this summer. And have a non-DVC trip lined up for July. Hope that works out. Yikes.

 

[mikesmom]

BeastFan:
He HAD a job with UPS that ran 10 pm thru 2 am. Worked great during the Winter Break (albeit causing the last cancel), but becoming a real problem keeping up with studies once classes started. He's in a science major with squirelly classhours: 10-12 for 3 days a week; 4:30-6 a couple of other days; 2:30-6 some days; 1:30-2:30 every day. Those lab hours eat up the time. Plus studying. Potential employers aren't real happy with come and go hours and I put my foot down about cancelling classes to be at work - there IS a priority here.

I agree there is a PT job somewhere and he hasn't looked for a job as hard as you or I would (with maturity comes wisdom and he is definitely not there yet). He has organized summer classes so they are in blocks freeing up enough time to actually go to a job. That's the point of the cancel - he'll really need to be finding or working that job.

 

[Doug Wolfe]

Sounds like DS needs to get a life.

When I was in college in the late 70's, my parents went to WDW several times with my brothers & sister, while I stayed at school. It's up to you, but this kid has grown up and it's time to live without planning vacations around him.

As far as your DH, that's another story. Maybe he doesn't know how desperately you need some time at VWL. TELL HIM! When my wife looks me straight in the eye and tells me she needs something, she gets it.

Sorry for the preaching. But heck, it is Sunday after all.

 

[mikesmom]

Doug:
Maybe I need to get a life (sigh). I have always (no matter what our financial situation) felt that the family vacation together was a priority - helps us to regroup and reconnect. We all do have too much life sometimes and lose touch with each other. Even though DS is away at school ALL year (summer session,too) I do try and make at least one vacation for all of us. Time flies so fast, and the time for "family vacation" goes past. Maybe it has gone past already and I need to let it go.

 

[Doug Wolfe]

I am sure there will be other times you can go together.

I am now in my late 40's and had the ability to bring my parents down to OKW last summer. I hope you get the time off you need.

 

[MermaidsMom]

I know exactly what you mean about letting go. It's hard to do and you have to do it at your own pace. No one can tell you how to do it, but gradually the "kids" let you know how far you can plan. I still try to plan things as a group but work schedules just don't allow for it anymore. Holidays are pretty much it, and even then they may only get a few days off from their jobs! Eventually they will have their own families and it will be even more of a hassle to get together. I guess that's why ideas like Disney's Magical Gatherings are so great.

 

[leanne2255]

I know where you are coming from. We had a trip planned without the kids in early June so that we could catch the last days of the Flower & Garden Festival. Had to cancel because DH will be starting a new job, which is good news, since he's been unemployed. So, for me, it was a good news, bad news, situation. I just took those points, and turned them into a longer trip with the kids in October for the Food and Wine Festival. My counter went from 40+ days to 170+ days. That's the real bummer.