Mother of the Groom dresses> opinions?

[honeydiane1953]

This is definitely elegant - this is a style I see many parents wear.

IF u have the figure it is a beautiful dress!!

 

[diznygirl]

Whatever you do, please don't wear white like my MIL did...

Mine too - have we talked about this before?

I knew beforehand and hubby tried to get her to return it, but she said it was on clearance AND damaged (missing buttons) so it couldn't be returned.

It was a nice suit - would have looked great in another color!

All this dress talk makes me want to go shopping - but I have no place to wear a fancy dress. But it sure has been fun looking at all the stunning dresses.

 

[Aisling]

I hope you r kidding?? The first was is nice the second one is hideous !!!

I must be crazy because I wasn't kidding; I really like that "hideous" dress! It's just so fun looking and partyish. BUT I've been totally convinced not to wear it to the reception.

IF u have the figure it is a beautiful dress!!

That's why I'm so into choosing the "perfect" dress/gown, because around 2005 I gained a lot of weight, like 50 lbs, and I was very limited in what I could wear in the fashions I liked. Last year I decided I didn't want to be fat anymore and lost the weight. This will be the first formal event for me being slim again.

This weekend, my FDIL and I are going to go over my choices.

After the dress is chosen for certain, then comes shoe shopping.

 

[Aisling]

This was going to be my back-up dress if I didn't lose the weight, but in a different color.

 

[Buckalew11]

I think this model is beautiful but I do not like that dress either. Congrats on the weight loss!

This was going to be my back-up dress if I didn't lose the weight, but in a different color.

 

[Aisling]

I think this model is beautiful but I do not like that dress either. Congrats on the weight loss!

WHAT???????? Holy cow, after all this, I'll be so MOG fashion-wise for my younger son's wedding (not for a long time, he's only 19).

 

[kaytieeldr]

I must be crazy because I wasn't kidding; I really like that "hideous" dress! It's just so fun looking and partyish. BUT I've been totally convinced not to wear it to the reception.

You're not crazy, and that dress isn't hideous! It's unique. Any 47 year old who has the figure and confidence to wear that second dress should absolutely wear it! Just not to their child's wedding.

 

[cbg1027]

This was going to be my back-up dress if I didn't lose the weight, but in a different color.

I love this dress!!!!

 

[Robmom]

Congrats on the weight loss. I have to lose some too. What dress store are you using? When Robin had the prom (she went to 2 of them), I went to Lestan's and Alyssa's Bridal, and I wasn't thrilled with either of them.

 

[onelilspark]

I was married on 10-29. I think both mothers took longer than I did to pick out dresses

I'm sure your FDIL probably won't say anything to you regarding specific colors or dresses that you should wear. However, you'll want to match formality with the MOB. So when my Mom picked out a floor length dress with a little beading, his Mom picked out a floor length dresses with some rhinestones.

You also don't want to match colors. My Mom picked olive, my MIL picked a navy shade. My bridesmaids were in truffle and I wore ivory. So everything was more muted as it was a fall wedding. So if the bridesmaids are wearing teal and the MOB is wearing burgundy, you're fine to pick almost any other color except anything in the white/ivory family, bright red, and black. Black shows that you're "mourning" the wedding (so you don't approve), red and white seem like you're taking attention away from the bride, which you don't want to do. The flashy dress that you put in the first post has the same effect. The first, while pretty in that pink/blush color, might be a little too close to white for some people. What about a pretty purple color? Either in a rich jewel tone or in a muted lavender?

And know your audience. My family would have a heart attack if my MIL showed up in black. So when she showed me a black dress, I told her that I thought it was lovely, but that I know some people in my family would have some things to say about her wearing a black dress, when I knew she didn't mean anything by it. But my husband's family wouldn't have cared if she wore a swimsuit. So take into consideration family traditions. Your son is marrying into a family, so make it easy on him!

 

[Green Tea]

Check with the bride on what she would like for the color and style. Her mom gets first pick on color and you definitely don't want to end up in a dress similar to the brides maid. I'm not sure I'd be changing into a different dress for the reception unless it was hours later at a different venue. And if I was going to change into a dress, I would not pick the one pictured. It does not look like a mother of the groom dress. I can't imagine that cut would flatter anyone's figure. You could put Pippa Middleton into it and it is still going to be a yucky style.

 

[elizke]

OP, if I were you I'd remove the pics from the first post!

 

[C.Ann]

I still say the first dress - don't care for any of the others at all.. If the color is okay with the bride, I would definitely go with that one.. (Or is there an option of getting it in another color?).. Very, very classy!

 

[crazyme5kids]

Call me crazy too! I love the colorful dress! When my friends daughter got married a few years ago, she caved to the prssure of getting a proper mother of the bride dress. To this day she regrets it and swears she will not repeat that mistake. She spent the entire day feeling uncomfortable.

By the way, it was a beautiful dress, and she looked gorgeous, but it was not "her".

 

[Aisling]

Congrats on the weight loss. I have to lose some too. What dress store are you using? When Robin had the prom (she went to 2 of them), I went to Lestan's and Alyssa's Bridal, and I wasn't thrilled with either of them.

I'm with Lestan's too! BUT they'll order any dress you bring a pic of with the ordering info. They get a discount and pass on a slight discount to the purchaser, too.

Thanks about me losing the weight. When I met you at Madison I was 50 lbs heavier!

OP, if I were you I'd remove the pics from the first post!

Hey you guys, stop making fun of that dress!

 

[Aisling]

By the way, I spoke to my FDIL and her mom. Mom laughed at the colorful dress and said wear it if you want. FDIL said it's not what she had in mind for her FMIL, but was very sweet about it.

She liked the off-white one I posted a few pages back, but obviously in a different color. They're sending a few color swatches, but I'm really liking the royal blue. I'm a blue-eyed blonde, and I think blue would look nice with my fair coloring.

 

[Aisling]

http://www.bridalblvd.com/mermaid-trumpet-spaghetti-sleeveless-floorlength-lace-mother-of-the-bride-dress-with-wrap_p2422.html

This gown with this color.

Her bridesmaids will be wearing teal in a totally different style, so I'm coordinated in the same color family, but not close enough to be looking like I'm matching the bridesmaids.


Now my next self-created drama is do I wear high high heels to give myself some height? I'm 5'4 and the bride and her mom are about 5'9/10. I'm thinking I'm going to throw off the balance of the photos if I wear a 3" heel and be so much shorter than they are. The brides maids are all different heights. I haven't asked her, but I think FDIL will say just be me and wear the 3" and not worry about throwing off the photo. I know, I need to get a life, but right now this is my life!

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

I am really afraid to answer this honestly.

But you asked?

So, as a wedding professional, here is my opinion:

The first dress is fantastic, however, I would give the bride the option of choosing color. As a courtesy.

The second I would absolutely not wear. The dress screams attention, and it shouldn't be on you. The couple should be the center of attention all night, and that dress would certainly still at least some of it.

ITA. Also dress 2 would not look good in photos because as you can see the model is swishing it up dramatically if it were just hanging I think you son is right about the Easter egg thing.

 

[cbg1027]

Now my next self-created drama is do I wear high high heels to give myself some height? I'm 5'4 and the bride and her mom are about 5'9/10. I'm thinking I'm going to throw off the balance of the photos if I wear a 3" heel and be so much shorter than they are. The brides maids are all different heights. I haven't asked her, but I think FDIL will say just be me and wear the 3" and not worry about throwing off the photo. I know, I need to get a life, but right now this is my life!

Let the photographer worry about the balance in the photos. They have plenty of experience with that.

Wear whatever height heel you want!

 

[cornflake]

It's only 2" difference, how much could you throw it off. It's not like you'd look like a Kardashian with a giant rent-a-husband.